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Effort in the bedroom pays in the end….

June 13, 2012 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

I must say that I was very curious about this squirting business on your blog that’s why I bought your dvd a few months ago. My wife and I discussed our sex life in length and we both felt that we could explore other avenues and just have fun with sex. Over the last 9 years we had tried everything to the point where sex almost became boring. We kind of ran out of ideas so to speak. She came across your blog and told me about it then I checked it out for myself and found that you actually gave honest advise, keep it up bro.

Anyway I believe I have mumbled enough. When we watched the dvd together we got turned on and started to make out after about 15 minutes so we never got to view the entire content. Eventually we did, then we saw the woman squirting in the last scene, my guy, we were both shocked and excited by the visual. We were like “is that for real”. That night for about one hour I did my best to mimic what I had seen but it was all in vain. I must admit at that point I felt useless and very inadequate but my wife ‘to my surprise’ was very encouraging and told me that it was our first trial and the next trial should yield some fruit. So we stayed for a while without watching the dvd till this pasted weekend. We decided to apply the instructions as we watched the segment where the woman explains how to rub the pussy. I applied the two finger motion and pressure for about 20 minutes then finally my wife responded, her exact words were “I think I am going to pee-ing”, I told her to let go of the feeling and not to hold back, she then told me to continue that finger motion without stopping, her facial expression told the story then the water works started, WHAT! my guy, I have never experienced such a thrilling feeling as a man. My wife said that was the most intense feeling she has ever experienced, she never thought it was possible.

Honestly I know where I was touching and rubbing but I am clueless on how I made it happened! When the water works started I continued with the same rhythm and she just continued squirting over my hand. Boss you have introduced us to a new sexual World asante sana.

Maurice replies,

My good man, I believe I should be thanking you for your feedback, thank you sir, I’m glad you discovered something new that does not require you to penetrate. I’m also glad that men are willing to explore and learn rather than assume they know it all. No one knows it all, knowledge is only acquired with the interest to learn and if you put effort into the application as you did, then you will inevitably prevail.

Have fun in the bedroom and again thank you for sharing.

I just hope that more couples are able to communicate like you and your wife.

 

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LADIES ONLY WORKSHOP – read for more details

June 12, 2012 by MauriceTherapy

 Workshop on Saturday 23rd June 2012 at Gracia Gardens, Dennis Pritt Road,
Time: 4pm – 7pm
Ksh2,000 – includes refreshments
Topics – open forum

*The mixed workshop will follow soon after.

Topics will be based on questions asked by attendees, the workshop needs to be relevant to every attendee.

For those who are serious and do not want to be disappointed please MPESA a Ksh500 deposit to 0720229351. This will secure a seat(s) at the workshop.

COME AND EXPLORE YOUR LIMITS

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Online Marriage!

June 7, 2012 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

I am a 32 year old woman. I have been having problems communicating with my husband. We have been married for the last 6 years. I met my husband online and we quickly hit it off and eventually he came over to Kenya to live with me. I have known him for 7 years of which one year consisted of a lot of online chats, flirts and once he got here we got married. Our wedding was planned online and it was exciting and thrilling, at the time, to meet someone who we had some much in common or so I thought.

Maurice asks,

What is your dilemma, why have you lost your communication?

She replies,

Our first two years were great even with our few arguments we always made up and learnt from the experience. He was my World, my shining armour but from our third year he suddenly changed. He had an affair with a work colleague and I forgave him for his indiscretion but I always told him I would never forget and that he had to earn my trust all over again. As soon as I told him that he shut down and became distant. For years now we have lived a routine life, we barely talk nowadays; we are either busy at work or busy entertaining our two children. In the last 10 months our sex life has halted and before that it was rare like once a month. I fear he is getting it somewhere else. He says all is well between us and that he is just tired and then he turns away and falls asleep leaving me feeling unwanted.

Maurice asks,

What do your instincts tell you in regards to why you may have lost your bond?

She replies,

I am clueless I was hoping you would enlighten me on that from a man’s point of view.

Maurice replies,

This is my opinion based on the information you have given me. You met online and struck a bond which was based on anticipation, loving words and an array of artificial feelings that are generated through the cyber love World. I am not at all implying that online relationship foundations don’t work but in your case I believe you never really got to know each other well enough to justify getting married. I strongly believe that the online thrill which appeared as true love was most likely infatuation despite how real you convinced yourself it was.

She replies,

Are you saying our marriage will fail, that it is doomed?

Maurice replies,

Not at all, what I’m saying is you need to get to know each other all over again. That means you need to sacrifice time and a lot of it to fall in-love but this time round face to face. Once the fire works stopped you both went into a relationship of convenience and I’m sure he too has questions that he has asked himself regarding your long term survival as a married couple. You need to find a common ground and rekindle what it used to be like online. Easier said than done, however if your marriage is on the line you should be willing to move mountains to make things work.

Despite every thing are you in-love with your husband and can you 100% concentrate on a positive outcome from now on?

She replies,

Yes I am and yes I can.

Maurice replies,

Then the both of you need to fight for your marriage to survive. These are the trials that test your commitment to one another. If you please I can create a program of activities for you and him to follow to ignite your communication and bond.

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Why do men fancy breasts?

June 3, 2012 by MauriceTherapy

If by any chance you know of a man who claims he is not fascinated by breasts, you know a man who is lying. Very few guys will pass up an opportunity to glance or stare at a woman’s bosom,  a man will at least attempt a short look at her covered “boobies”. If the “boobies” are exposed or flashed at him, a man will surely be taking a much longer look.

Women ask why do men obsess over breasts, they ask whats the big deal, once you’ve seen breasts you should one day just not bother or be excited by them, well most women are not aware that there are certain chemicals released in our brain that are called ‘feel good chemicals’ in layman’s terms. The neurochemicals like endorphins and dopamine induce such strong sensations that we can not resist but want to fondle with breasts at any chance we get. Within your brain is the limbic system which stores sexual memory.

On a day to day routine men glance at breasts of almost 95% of the women they encounter on the road, on the bus, on the train, in the office; men just don’t get tired of looking.

Many men will relate to staring at a woman’s blouse hoping to see the indentation of a nipple or two. After all some women have nipples that are always at ‘attention’, these nipples don’t need the wet t-shirt contest effect to be visible. Just the thought of nipples is ‘mouth watering’ for me, yet I have studied and touched many over the years, but yet every time the thought of boobs engages my mind it’s as if I have just seen breasts for the first time, it’s an overwhelming feeling, and yes it does aid to arouse.

The truth is a majority of men restrain themselves from grabbing a total stranger’s breasts. But the moment we get a chance to play with them, the very second we believe that we can fondle your breasts and get away with it, we visually engage our target like a fight jet and set course to embrace them.

Even though we may have a common denominator your ‘boobies’, some men have a preference in cup size. Some like the petite boob that can fit in our mouth, others like a boob that fits just right in the palm of the hand.

Another set of men love the heavy duty breasts, these breasts can normally knock you out if she is riding you and happens to lower her upper body to kiss you. These breasts sway from left to right or they can somewhat rotate or should I say spin….aahhhh “the mental stimulant is great”.

That said, it’s not just men that have a desire for breasts. I have met in both a professional and pleasurable capacity women who admire other women’s breasts, so yes ladies, too are guilty of being breast obsessed. The science behind this desire is wired within us as humans, it is wired in our brain as infants. Most of us got a taste and lived off of the milk melons at one point in our life, so it’s only understandable that we carry a certain fondness for them as we grow older.

At this juncture some ladies may be saying “hold on there I don’t want to feel up another woman’s breasts”, which is fair enough but you only have to ask a bi-sexual woman or lesbian how the touch of breasts feels for them then you will realise that both gender have common elements of breast admiration and a desire to play with them.

To the men, some of you are tweaking breasts as if you are handling electrical devices ‘please stop’, instead ask her how she likes it, it won’t make you less of a man to ask and if anything over time you will be a master breast tweaker ‘how we love those titles’, put your egos aside and delve into a new World of knowing your woman’s body to the point that just ‘touch’ alone makes her squirm with intense pleasure.

 

 

 

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Loving that younger woman….

June 3, 2012 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

I met a woman in early 2010 and begun to date her and until today she is still in my life. My main concern is that she has never shown me the level of commitment that I have shown her?

Maurice replies,

Please expound on your commitment?

He replies,

When I met her she was living between her mother’s and her sister’s place. It was not always smooth going at her sister’s due to the sister having 2 kids and a husband. I then took it upon myself to make her life easier.

Maurice asks,

How?

He replies,

I started by making sure she always had enough cash for the month so she can be more independent.

Maurice asks,

Was she not in employment?

He replies,

She had a temp job with a law firm and received a minimal allowance which was more like bus fare. It was not enough to sustain a comfortable living. I then proceeded to get her a one bedroom apartment, paid her rent which I still do and all other utility bills. Now she wants a car to run around with which is not really a big deal but she needs to show me that we are heading somewhere. I was once married for 7 years so I know women through experience.

Maurice asks,

What does she have to do to show you that she is serious in your relationship?

He replies,

I would like her to act more like my woman than a girl who has just left school. She is always wants to go out on Wednesdays, Fridays, Saturdays and with the combination of her peers there’s always an influenced out of town getaway which I end up paying for to cover her costs whether I am going or not.

I am looking for stability in my life. For some reason, in my opinion, I tend to attract playful women. I am divorced because my ex wife betrayed me with her colleague, she too loved to party, I caught them red handed and that was a painful period of my life. I love my current girlfriend and I need her to assure me that she will not put me through what my ex wife did.

Maurice replies,

So I’m assuming you have shared your past with your girlfriend?

He replies,                                           

Yes I have, when I was courting her I told her everything, no stone unturned, no surprises, she knows my history more than I know hers. I don’t expect her to open up as much as I did but I would like to see from her a certain level of maturity and interest in our future.

Maurice replies,

If I may, how old are you and how old is she?

He replies,

I am 38 and she is 23.

Maurice replies,

When did you divorce?

He replies,

In September 2009.

Maurice replies,

Not that dating women of your age bracket will guarantee commitment but have you thought about your age difference and the fact that she is going through a certain phase as you probably did when you were 23?

He replies,

Oh yes, when we met though I really liked her it was evident that our social interests were a tad different at times. I too enjoy a good time like any man would especially with a young beauty in my arms but when its too frequent it tends to tire me out.

Maurice replies,

I hear you, however that’s part of her life that you should not attempt to change, because if you do she will detach herself from you as a lover and see you more as a father figure who is trying to limit her youthful experiences. If you want to continue with your relationship then you must be prepared to tolerate some of her generational habits and trends.

What is your age difference with your ex wife?

He replies,

She is 3 years younger.

Maurice replies,

Like I said before this has nothing to do with age compatibility but the acceptance that a woman of a certain age will want to socially indulge in activities that may not suit you today, why? because you already went through that phase years ago, so it’s only logically and fair that you give her the freedom to experience life and come to some balance in time to come.

Do you believe she is faithful to you?

He replies,

At my age or rather with experience I have come to understand that loyalty is a choice one makes, to avoid hurting each other I made it very clear that we should be upfront with one another, if either of us finds that the relationship is not to their liking then we should split up before we move on to someone else.

Maurice replies,

Very wise, that makes perfect sense. What I would like to add is that instead of solely giving her a lifestyle and maintaining it as if she was your triumph, for her own freedom and social independence I would advise that you steer her towards gaining an education, an eventual career path, so that she has a strong foundation to support herself in life, tomorrow is not promised, there are no relationship guarantees and if you indeed truly love her then empower her with the wealth of education. Give her the opportunity to an empowered future, she will one day thank you for it. I wish you both the best my good man.

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Your vagina is fine….

May 29, 2012 by MauriceTherapy

ebonylabiaDear Maurice,

I have been dating my soon to be husband for just over one year. I read your articles a lot and you seem to understand us women quite well so please advise.

I am 24 and I have quite a large labia that hangs down about 6cm? I am really scared, I even asked my friend but I don’t think she knew what it was. My husband to be and I are going to have sex for the very first time and he has never seen my vagina before, and my two flaps close together. So I was wondering how I am supposed to have sex without him holding my flaps open? And also is my long labia normal?

Maurice replies,

My dear you are completely normal, there is an incredible variation of labia shapes, sizes and even colour, every woman is different. When you are aroused and you get wet your labia will not be noticed, when aroused the labia naturally spread apart.

ebonyorgasmMake sure that you are in control when you have sex. Do not let him thrust into you, he needs to be gentle and I recommend it being your first time you apply plenty of lubrication like K Y Jelly or Durex lubricants (highly recommended). It is advisable that he also lubricates his penis, especially the penis head before he attempts insertion.

If I may add, over the years I have noticed that women with small labia minora do not respond well to sex most of the time. Those with bigger labia minora want sex more often to satisfy their sexually desire. It has a lot to do with one’s nerve ends. When the membranes of the inner lips are stimulated by touch or asserted pressure, glands are stimulated to produce secretions. The resulting lubrication helps keep the labia and the vagina moist and aids in penetration. The labia is packed with blood vessels and nerves that swell when stimulated. This makes the inner lips incredibly sensitive and receptive, resulting to immense pleasure in the right conditions.

The labia minora also aids in protecting the vagina from bacterial infections. The glands of the inner labia minora produce secretions that kill bacteria.

Please do not overwhelm yourself with worry, look forward to your first sexually experience, take your time on the night and have fun as you explore each other.

*Women who touch themselves often are more aware of their pleasure zones, their arousal areas, with this to their advantage they are able to instruct men on how they would like to be pleasured. Sex is a science, a mixture of neuro-chemicals and an array of nerves that respond to touch. If touched in the right way the pleasures can be ‘out of this World’.

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Are MEN putting effort in the bedroom….

May 22, 2012 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

I follow your blog whenever I can and I could not resist to ask you after reading the story about the guy who has issues with his penis. Do you find that Kenyan men are under performing in the bedroom. I just feel from my past experience that a lot of men talk big and deliver very little. Personally I love sex but it must be with a man who knows how to read a woman’s body, in this case my body which is different from other women, I find that many men are in such a hurry to please that they end up pleasing only themselves and leaving women like me yearning for more.

I have dated a guy who had a massive penis and yet with all that equipment he never really did it for me, yes I could feel him way inside me but the thrill was short lived when he came too fast, as in, within a few minutes he was done and asleep, that really put me off him and you can imagine that I had to put up with that sexual status for over 2 years. Eventually I cheated on him with a white guy. I guess this is where the comparison came to play. The white guy was no where near my ex in penis size but boy did he quickly learn to please me. He was not afraid to be creative and please me with other parts of his body apart from just having intercourse. He would go down on me for what seemed to be a life time, he willingly took his time, by the time we had intercourse I would have had an orgasm or two through cunnilingus. In short, he knew how to fire me up. I hate to put you on the spot but why do you Kenyan men not put in effort to please us women?

Maurice replies,

Unfortunately this is a question this is too often asked, some lazy guys out there are making others look bad, I call them the weakest link. I’m glad you ask because we need to face the facts that quite a number of Kenyan men need to step up their game. That said some no matter what they try will never be able to improve in bed, why? their genetic sexual build up does not allow for improvement. There is no magical pill that will enhance the sexuality of a 2 minute man, maybe in the future science will offer a solution but for now its trial and error for you ladies.

Relating is your experience with the white guy, well not to generalise but men from the Western World tend to be more exposed, with that exposure comes the creative mind set in the bedroom, they have a keen willingness to satisfy a woman with multiple skill sets, the use of ‘touch’ either by using their fingers, their tongue and they explore sexual positions that will hit your arousal spot(s). They understand that sex is a journey, there must be a build up that will lead to a satisfying sexual session for both of you.

The short falls of African men is either lack of exposure, misinformed about pleasuring a woman; this is where ‘out dated’ cultural or traditional believes prevent a man from exploring. Double standards are witnessed with a man demanding for oral sex and yet he refuses to go down on you (what a shame), eventually someone else does it for him. Others do not see the point of having a sexual session that lasts for an hour or more, they are content with 10 to 15 minutes (if you are lucky), and the truth is that time period for a lot of women in today’s World is just the beginning of foreplay.

Sex is not plug and play but unfortunately a lot of African men will treat it as such. An African man will ask…. if he was able to ‘cum’ within 10 minutes then why is the woman not able to do the same? It’s not a stupid question but in my opinion it shows a lack of willingness to find out what a particular woman wants during sex.

Women differ when it comes to arousal zones, hence why its essential to find out how she wants to be aroused, clever men or should I say ‘wise men’ who end up earning themselves bedroom bonga points more often than not are eager to LEARN.

As a man if you are willing to take every sexual session with your woman as a learning process then you will be well above other men, why? because you are able to read her body language, some women orgasm through external arousal, stimulation of the clitoris, and whether you are using your fingers or tongue MEN please remember to take your time to observe how she rides the tidal waves you are generating. Like a vessel at sea your woman will want to ride out the stormy waves and be steered in the right direction, if you read her right you will lead her along the passage of climax. That should be every man’s goal.

The scary fact for some men in today’s World is that sex has grown into a ‘sport’, it’s an arena where only the sexual Gladiators reign. These are the men who are not selfish between the sheets, men with sexual endurance. These men are open to exploring a woman’s body for as long as it takes to get her fully aroused, their mental focus is not on self gratification but solely on applying their energy on a woman and ‘taking her there’ beyond the realms of ordinary pleasure.

*To MEN…. we were not born with a vagina so it’s only logical to ask a woman how she likes it, don’t assume and don’t let your male ego stand in the way of LEARNING how to ignite your woman, with knowledge comes the ability to apply your skill.

Take note, those who hesitate will masturbate.

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You knew who you married or did you!

May 22, 2012 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

I have a problem that I need your advice on. I am 43, my husband is 47 and we have been married for 6 years but I have known my husband for 18 years and 4 months. I can say we have had our trials and tribulations over the years but we have always found a way to stay together and to keep the marriage going for better or worse.

Maurice replies,

What is the problem?

She replies,

For the last 3 years my husband has been jokingly hinting that he would marry another wife traditionally if I allowed it. My response has always been the same “over my dead body” then he just laughs. Unfortunately what was once passing as jokes and comments might be coming to reality. Last month we traveled upcountry for what I thought was a family gathering but it ended up being a blessing ceremony for my husband to receive a new bride. I was shocked, the turn out was so overwhelming. I knew protesting was going to be futile so I waited for our return to confront him about the unannounced ceremony of which he knew I would be against. He told me if I was unhappy about it I should think of leaving because he was destined to marry again and maintaining 2 wives is not an issue.

Maurice replies,

I am a bit curious; after 18 years of knowing him, did he never mention the possibility of marrying multiple wives especially before you were wed? I am just trying to establish a character pattern.

She replies,

Well, my husband was married before.

Maurice asks,

Were you just friends while he was married or was there more, and for how long was he married?

She replies,

He was married to a friend of a friend for just over 4 years, that is how we met and fell for each other but instead of marrying me he married his ex wife but I always knew he would end up as my husband. In my eyes he went through a phase and it ended. However I was not expecting him to want another wife. He is my soul mate and I can’t foresee sharing him with another woman. Please help me convince him that I am all he needs in his life. I know I sound desperate but then again may be I am. How do I get him to see sense?

Maurice replies,

If I may ask, what caused his previous marriage to end?

She replies,

His ex wife found out about our affair and finally left him go and took her 3 year old child with her.

Maurice replies,

In my opinion you are ignoring your husband’s characteristics that led him to date you and marry another, and then his ex wife left him because of his adulterous lifestyle with you. I would hate to judge but I strongly believe your husband will marry again and there’s nothing we can do to stop it from occurring. Who influenced your marriage, was it you or him?

She replies,

If you are implying I forced our marriage you are totally wrong. My husband loves me and that is why he married me, as I said it was only a matter of time for him to notice that I was the woman for him.

Maurice replies,

My dear you are denial, you are married to a man who chooses to do as he pleases, maybe at the beginning you were indeed soul mates but right now your man’s actions imply that he wants to stroke his ego and manage two homes or 2 wives. Either way, you only have two options; to leave him or to play by his rules. You have already had a taste of being the other woman so only you know if you can live with the new parameters set by your husband. I wish I had better news but those are the facts that you need to consider.

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Is my penis satisfying….

May 16, 2012 by MauriceTherapy

Hi Maurice,

I have contemplated whether to seek your advise or not and finally I decided I need to swallow my pride and just ask you some rather personal questions regarding my current sex life. I have been going out with this girl for 7 months. I am totally in-love with her. I have never dated anyone as hot as her and I find our open conversation refreshing. However the problem I am experiencing was brought about stemming from our open policy to discuss anything. About 2 months ago we were discussing our past experiences with our ex’s and the topic of sex was part of our discussion. Needless to say she revealed details of her sexual encounters that kind of made me feel inadequate.

Maurice replies,

Let me guess, penis size was mentioned?

He replies,

Yes, she told me stories about several ex’s and one stood out.

Maurice replies,

Let me guess again, one of her ex’s stood out because he had a big one? I must ask, did you pry for details?

He replies,

Yes I did but I was not expecting to hear what she told me.

Maurice replies,

You do realise that you were playing with pandora’s box. When you pry for information you must be ready to digest what you find out. I know you were hoping to hear that her sex life was not that interesting till she met you however that is the hope of many men, that hope can be futile, and the question begs why in hell would you want to know about other men’s penises?

Fair enough, its a great feeling to be told that your penis is the best she has ever had but we both know the topic of size is very ego sensitive so why did you go there knowing the consequences could lower your confidence and sexual libido?

He replies,

It was after sex and we were both in high spirits and the pillow talk just took the wrong conversation route.

Maurice replies,

My good man, I hear you, I know what you were seeking to hear from her but let’s be real, who in his right mind will strike a conversation about other penises especially after sex. I’m sure there’s a part of you as you were having your pillow talk that was just screaming out “this might back fire on me”. And surely it did. If I may ask, what did she say that really affected you?

He replies,

She told me that her ex could make her cum within minutes because he had a long thick dick. But she also said compared to me he could not have sex for long. Even though that was somewhat comforting it did not help.

Maurice replies,

Well, how could it help when all your mind was fixated on was the mention of a ‘long thick dick’ that statement in itself can bruise a lot of male egos even if she affirms that your sexual endurance is much higher. In short, men just hate to hear words that confirm a big penis that is not ours. How badly has this affected your sex life?

He replies,

I am a bit conscious of my manhood right now. I know I shouldn’t be but I can’t stop thinking about what she said.

Maurice asks,

Before your discussion your penis was adequate ‘right’, unless you felt you did not satisfy her prior?

He replies,

Yes it was, our sex was awesome, her feedback is encouraging and I do make her orgasm which as a man is the pivotal goal.

Maurice replies,

Then you need to snap out of it and stop thinking about another man’s penis, and stop thinking about yours being smaller because what you will gradually do, is lower your desire for sex till you won’t be able to gain an erection.

By the way how old are you both?

He replies,

I am 32 and she is 26.

Maurice replies,

Take a deep breathe and let go of that negative voice in your head, drown it. You know that you satisfy your woman, after all you make her orgasm (give yourself some bonga points for that) so don’t let mental images of insecurity flood your mind. Concentrate on what you can achieve with her in bed and if anything obsess more over new ways of exploring her body, learning her body, ask her to show you where her arousal zones are, discover new ways of making her orgasm and concentrate on that and that alone. The aim is to psychological intensify your sexual ego, your sexual drive to satisfy her beyond her wildest dreams, trust me, it can be done, the question is, what is your priority? Make it the right one.

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Let hubby play at home….

May 15, 2012 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

I am 41 years old with 2 kids; 12 years and 15 years. Not forgetting the biggest baby of the house my husband who is 44.

I say this because after 16 years of marriage I thought I knew my man well. I thought I had him all figured out but shock on me. For the last 11 years my husband and his friends, his boys, have been having nights out and he never lies to me about his whereabouts. I know he likes visiting strip clubs with his friends. For some odd coincidence they all have similar interests. My husband is like the youngest in the pack but he seems to call the shots when it comes to the social places they should visit. I am writing to you because I got tired of threatening my husband due to his obsession with these clubs, so I did a bit on reading online though some of the remedies did not go down well with me I eventually tried one that stated that if you give you husband the same atmosphere and freedom in your home backyard then you will not have to worry about him mingling with other women.

Maurice asks,

Oh, I can’t wait to hear what happen next, so you took him from the social arena and gave him your backyard as his playground. How did that turn out?

She replies,

When I proposed the idea, he was ok which surprised me because I thought he would fight me about his strip club obsession. I went for the idea and the next weekend from Friday to Saturday his friends came over with plenty of drinks and watched football or just sat at the garden and made noise.

Now here is my problem. I thought my man had the “hots” for strippers but clearly not as much as I suspected. For the last 4 months it’s been Friday and Saturday at our garden. I know I shouldn’t complain because my man is home and I don’t need to worry about the unknown but for how long will he and his friends have mini parties at our home.

Maurice asks,

Have you addressed this with your husband, have you told him you are uncomfortable with the current every weekend social gathering at your home?

She replies,

Maurice I am not a stupid woman. I know the minute I utter anything, they will return to their routine, plus we had a mutual agreement that once he shows me that he loves been around me even with his friends around I won’t bother him with complaints. My husband is not a bad man I just don’t like his habits.

Maurice comments,

Just to ease your mind. You may know this or you may not but majority of men who visit strip clubs only do it for the visual effect. For another percentage of men it becomes an addiction of sexual power. The power to buy a dance, and the power of paying for it. In most professional establishments there’s no bodily contact from the man, he can’t touch her it’s prohibited, for a man it’s just the visual stimulant and the ability to command as she displays her dancing styles. Then again, not all women will feel comfortable with the idea but just for your knowledge if your husband was a frequent brothel patron; now that would be an issue. Thankfully he is not. In short, most men when they fulfill their visual craving in strip clubs they finish their drink and go home. In my opinion your husband is not obsessed with other women; if he was he would not be turning your home into a weekend getaway. Question, I am assuming your greatest fear was not knowing what goes on at strip clubs?

She replies,

Yes that was my concern, so how do I fix this other matter?

Maurice replies,

You made a pact with your husband. Without saying that you think the weekend thing is excessive and you want his friends gone. The best thing is to tell him that you have something planned on either the Friday or the Saturday. You could stay indoors, go for a movie, go for a meal or drive out of town and enjoy being together. Honesty you don’t have an issue with your relationship, you just need to have a schedule and make sure it’s not too predicable. I believe your husband wants to be with you ‘till death do you part’ just balance out his bond with his friends without fighting and you will come so some agreement. Relationships are about communication, if you don’t ask or voice out you will never know what fruits may arise.

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