Dear Maurice,
I follow your blog whenever I can and I could not resist to ask you after reading the story about the guy who has issues with his penis. Do you find that Kenyan men are under performing in the bedroom. I just feel from my past experience that a lot of men talk big and deliver very little. Personally I love sex but it must be with a man who knows how to read a woman’s body, in this case my body which is different from other women, I find that many men are in such a hurry to please that they end up pleasing only themselves and leaving women like me yearning for more.
I have dated a guy who had a massive penis and yet with all that equipment he never really did it for me, yes I could feel him way inside me but the thrill was short lived when he came too fast, as in, within a few minutes he was done and asleep, that really put me off him and you can imagine that I had to put up with that sexual status for over 2 years. Eventually I cheated on him with a white guy. I guess this is where the comparison came to play. The white guy was no where near my ex in penis size but boy did he quickly learn to please me. He was not afraid to be creative and please me with other parts of his body apart from just having intercourse. He would go down on me for what seemed to be a life time, he willingly took his time, by the time we had intercourse I would have had an orgasm or two through cunnilingus. In short, he knew how to fire me up. I hate to put you on the spot but why do you Kenyan men not put in effort to please us women?
Maurice replies,
Unfortunately this is a question this is too often asked, some lazy guys out there are making others look bad, I call them the weakest link. I’m glad you ask because we need to face the facts that quite a number of Kenyan men need to step up their game. That said some no matter what they try will never be able to improve in bed, why? their genetic sexual build up does not allow for improvement. There is no magical pill that will enhance the sexuality of a 2 minute man, maybe in the future science will offer a solution but for now its trial and error for you ladies.
Relating is your experience with the white guy, well not to generalise but men from the Western World tend to be more exposed, with that exposure comes the creative mind set in the bedroom, they have a keen willingness to satisfy a woman with multiple skill sets, the use of ‘touch’ either by using their fingers, their tongue and they explore sexual positions that will hit your arousal spot(s). They understand that sex is a journey, there must be a build up that will lead to a satisfying sexual session for both of you.
The short falls of African men is either lack of exposure, misinformed about pleasuring a woman; this is where ‘out dated’ cultural or traditional believes prevent a man from exploring. Double standards are witnessed with a man demanding for oral sex and yet he refuses to go down on you (what a shame), eventually someone else does it for him. Others do not see the point of having a sexual session that lasts for an hour or more, they are content with 10 to 15 minutes (if you are lucky), and the truth is that time period for a lot of women in today’s World is just the beginning of foreplay.
Sex is not plug and play but unfortunately a lot of African men will treat it as such. An African man will ask…. if he was able to ‘cum’ within 10 minutes then why is the woman not able to do the same? It’s not a stupid question but in my opinion it shows a lack of willingness to find out what a particular woman wants during sex.
Women differ when it comes to arousal zones, hence why its essential to find out how she wants to be aroused, clever men or should I say ‘wise men’ who end up earning themselves bedroom bonga points more often than not are eager to LEARN.
As a man if you are willing to take every sexual session with your woman as a 
learning process then you will be well above other men, why? because you are able to read her body language, some women orgasm through external arousal, stimulation of the clitoris, and whether you are using your fingers or tongue MEN please remember to take your time to observe how she rides the tidal waves you are generating. Like a vessel at sea your woman will want to ride out the stormy waves and be steered in the right direction, if you read her right you will lead her along the passage of climax. That should be every man’s goal.
The scary fact for some men in today’s World is that sex has grown into a ‘sport’, it’s an arena where only the sexual Gladiators reign. These are the men who are not selfish between the sheets, men with sexual endurance. These men are open to exploring a woman’s body for as long as it takes to get her fully aroused, their mental focus is not on self gratification but solely on applying their energy on a woman and ‘taking her there’ beyond the realms of ordinary pleasure.
*To MEN…. we were not born with a vagina so it’s only logical to ask a woman how she likes it, don’t assume and don’t let your male ego stand in the way of LEARNING how to ignite your woman, with knowledge comes the ability to apply your skill.
Take note, those who hesitate will masturbate.
mauricetherapy 
Maurice, your words are such a turn on, it makes me wonder about lol.
Maurice, Joyce is trying to ask if you are as good in bed as is your writing or something along those lines, girl just come out with it 🙂
So? we are waiting
Frankly my experience with Kenyan men has been pathetic, they are always in a rush. Maurice I think you need to set up workshops for these men on how to have meaningful sex.
If wazungus like Kenyan women, then why the shortage of chotara (mixed race) kids?
hehehhe its not about making babies only…there is moo to that
“Eventually I cheated on him with a white guy.” Kenyan women dream of getting a mzungu dude yet the rare mixed-race couples we see are almost always prostitutes and johns. Wazungu men are addicted to anal sex so you’ll end up wearing adult diapers. If you don’t believe me, ask any surgeon. If you say no to your mzungu man’s anal sex demands, he’ll hire a prostitute during the day but will be home before dark, and even make you dinner. Oooh, how sweeet! Anal sex practitioners in America have 44 times the HIV rate of vaginal-only sex practitioners. If you don’t believe me, google it up.
I agree with Julie, do have something for our dear Kenyan men, my hubby falls in that category as you put it, “the weakest link”. He doesn’t take the time to please me anymore and I am at the point of thinking of cheating on him with someone I know who will.
i agree with Kare on the ” weakest link” workshop,am willing to attend for better results… but i would not support u in cheating…. honesty i knw the feeling of not fully getting to Mt.Zion…. have u fully played ya part by communicating ya needs not only by words but even thro’ leading him along the path as u would like it done…else engage Maurice for a session b4 you give up…. stolen goods are extremely sweet…
damarry the thing is it’s not always been bad, it has just deteriorated, his become lazy and comm is not working…same excuse I get every time is stress and am getting tired of asking him, feels like am nagging…thanks I will def seek out our dear therapist Maurice before I go the cheating route.
Maurice is not saying that black women should date white men he is merely stating that white men are more inclined to want to please a woman in bed, black men e.g Kenyan men have the potential they are just not bothered to put the effort, the story is not about one race being better than the other.
Kare, cheating on your husband is not a long term solution, and how would you know another man can satisfy you unless you have already cheated and tasted the fruits?
I agree that some Kenyan men are under performing but let’s not condemn all the men because I have had awesome sex from certain Kenyan men.
Hehehe! There are guys i feel like “clapping”. Why they just don’t know how to use there joystick.
At 34 I have dated 6 Kenyan men, only 1 man knew how to pleasure me and that is not even my current husband. Maurice we are waiting for that workshop the sooner the better.
That’s more mileage than a space shuttle. You must be wider than the Eurotunnel. How do you know you don’t suck?
dude take is easy….. @sue ve you fully discovered yaself? if yes…. gal u need to choose ya selection methodolody ….
Maurice, can you please have practicals at your workshop, I have attended many sex auntie talks and listening for 1 or 2 hours does not help some of us but the visual effect might.
hehehhe i like this ” visual effect” ……
Let us not generalize on Kenyan men…I got a man who satisfies me in every way possible, knows what I like coz we are open about our sex life, tries out new things and have crazy, crazy wegasms (we cum together).
To the women, have you ever thought that probably the issue is you? I mean how can you say you’ve been with a number of guys and none of them have done it for you. Guess what is the constant in that equation….you!
Salute to all Kenyan men who hold it down for their women!
well said…. totally and completely.
Speaking as a dude to fellow dudes, unless a woman wets the sheets, then she didn’t enjoy herself. The problem is either with her, you, or both, because no dude can make every women enjoy herself. To avoid your mattress and sheets getting too wet, place a thick towel on the sheets prior to shagging. For a woman to enjoy herself, she must be happy with you so don’t come home drunk at 4am and demand sex. Also don’t demand sex on her working days. On her off-days, make sure the mboch isn’t off and say no to errands and unnecessary social events (3 is a crowd!). You can always see the boys once a week on a day when she’s working.
dude i like ya thinking…. i believe majority of this Kenyan men know what is expected of them.. its just that they are selfish and ignorant more-so negligent, too busy with the boyz ad flings. truth be told.. at one point in life this couples use to enjoy sex together…. but what happened? is it that women demands change by the day? or are men lazy?
There are 7 days in a week so you can allocate time for the wife, the kids, the boys, paros, siblings, etc. Off-days must never be spent being busy. It’s a time to put your phones on silent and get out of bed at 2pm after morning glory sex. Shops open late nowadays so what’s all this nonsense about being busy on off-days. Chics must get low maintenance hair because those off-days are very precious in a city where people work and commute long hours.