Dear Maurice,
I have been dating my soon to be husband for just over one year. I read your articles a lot and you seem to understand us women quite well so please advise.
I am 24 and I have quite a large labia that hangs down about 6cm? I am really scared, I even asked my friend but I don’t think she knew what it was. My husband to be and I are going to have sex for the very first time and he has never seen my vagina before, and my two flaps close together. So I was wondering how I am supposed to have sex without him holding my flaps open? And also is my long labia normal?
Maurice replies,
My dear you are completely normal, there is an incredible variation of labia shapes, sizes and even colour, every woman is different. When you are aroused and you get wet your labia will not be noticed, when aroused the labia naturally spread apart.
Make sure that you are in control when you have sex. Do not let him thrust into you, he needs to be gentle and I recommend it being your first time you apply plenty of lubrication like K Y Jelly or Durex lubricants (highly recommended). It is advisable that he also lubricates his penis, especially the penis head before he attempts insertion.
If I may add, over the years I have noticed that women with small labia minora do not respond well to sex most of the time. Those with bigger labia minora want sex more often to satisfy their sexually desire. It has a lot to do with one’s nerve ends. When the membranes of the inner lips are stimulated by touch or asserted pressure, glands are stimulated to produce secretions. The resulting lubrication helps keep the labia and the vagina moist and aids in penetration. The labia is packed with blood vessels and nerves that swell when stimulated. This makes the inner lips incredibly sensitive and receptive, resulting to immense pleasure in the right conditions.
The labia minora also aids in protecting the vagina from bacterial infections. The glands of the inner labia minora produce secretions that kill bacteria.
Please do not overwhelm yourself with worry, look forward to your first sexually experience, take your time on the night and have fun as you explore each other.
*Women who touch themselves often are more aware of their pleasure zones, their arousal areas, with this to their advantage they are able to instruct men on how they would like to be pleasured. Sex is a science, a mixture of neuro-chemicals and an array of nerves that respond to touch. If touched in the right way the pleasures can be ‘out of this World’.
OMG I never knew it was normal, neither did I know it was called a labia I just assumed it was an irregular part of my pussy. Thanks Maurice.
My boyfriend likes to suck and gently pull on them and that arouses me, now I know why 🙂
Maurice, the white girl has a longer labia than the black girl, is that right?
@Amina….yes the white girl has a large protruding labia, chances are she is ‘positively’ sensitive to vaginal stimulation
Ebu let me measure my labia when I get home, this post has got me thinking
@Amina can i help u measure
Dudes don’t give a damn how your pussy looks so long as it’s not diseased and you love plenty of sex. We hardly ever look at it during sex anyway coz we’re so randy.
@Dude….I hear you, however I must state that some men are very keen and do notice the vagina, some of us are not in a hurry to indulge in intercourse only hence why we yield more knowledge and ability on how to excite a woman beyond her wildest expectations.
When my guy spreads them and sucks on my clit it really gets me going, wow, this info is deep, my ex never went down on me no wonder I never enjoyed sex as much. Maurice uko juu
Just like every man’s penis is different in girth and length so are women’s vaginas. The difference is usually with the labia and clitoris. Some women have long labia and some have a big clitoris. I think if you and your partner know what you are doing, you’ll enjoy sex a lot!
Like Dude has commented, guys don’t really notice. Try not to be self-conscious coz it affects you and you’ll end up not enjoying a fun activity.
@Kay….personally I take a keen notice to a woman’s vagina, as a man who loves to go down on a woman, how can you not look at what you enjoy to suck.
True, women should not be so self conscious, but we as men need to affirm to them ‘regularly’ by our sexual actions.
Maurice, I love your posts but those photos mess our concentration at work
interesting read
Mkamba kweli
maurice those photos can make one sin…eeeish bana
Love your article but where do you get those photos geeeesss
Dude when I grow up I want to be you
Kweli unajua kazi yako boss
Maurice, I have passed on your link to my workmates, your blog is keeping people clued, I like your advise
WTF, Maurice ni nini leo
Only you Maurice only you
Maurice…. Excellent stuff!!!! A really good pum pum breakdown…
darling, 99% of men who like to concentrate on the ”before penetration” period looooooooove labia like yours. Actually, your are BLESSED! There’s nothing more arousing than big protruding pussy lips and a pronounced clitoris…mhh mhh mhh… We are visual creatures, and that visual is the isht! I’m getting turned on jus imagining what I would do with that your punani…be happy you were made that way.
My lips are big, i thot i was abnormal. Maurice since i knew about your blogs am always craving for more sex, seems like have become an addict. I really appreciate.
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