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Dear Maurice,

I am a mother of 3 adorable children, 7,4 and a 2 year old and I am very married but for the last 2 years I have kept a dark secret from my husband.

Maurice asks,

How long have you been married?

She replies,

I have been married for 8 years. I had my first child when I was 22 years old.

Maurice asks,

So what is this dark secret?

She replies,

Firstly I want to share my story because I found myself in a facebook women’s group where I discovered that I was not alone. I thought I was weird suffering from some disorder until married women revealed that they too had bisexual secrets and they only felt safe to share in exclusive forums.

Maurice I am attracted to women. I have had numerous sexual encounters and truth be told I find a woman’s touch erotic, women turn me on. Am I weird?

Maurice replies,

Your sexual preference does not make you weird, it just makes you unique compared to others. When did you know that women did it for you and are you in contact with one particular woman?

She replies,

I have always known but it was 2 years ago that I had my first sexual experience with a woman and it was out of this World. Yes I have a girlfriend who is actually a fully fledged lesbian.

Maurice asks,

Why a woman, what does your girlfriend deliver that you don’t get a home?

She replies,

This is really hard for me because I love being married but sexually I married a 2 minute man and before you ask I knew it from the beginning. I have been to one of your sessions I know how you read between the lines. I knew exactly who I was marrying and I never told myself that he would improve I just knew he would be a good husband and father.

Maurice replies,

But….

She replies,

Sex for me is important. I am an extremely sexual woman, I used to make him go 3 to 4 rounds so that I too can enjoy sex. He has since slowed down and sometimes I can see him struggling to perform meaning he is only doing it for me which is a put off.

Two years ago I got chatting with one woman from the facebook group and we hit it off. We met for a girl’s night out and one thing led to another and I got addicted to her touch. She is sensual and with her I climax multiple times in a night. I thought an orgasm was what I was getting at home until I met this woman OMG.

I love the way she takes her time to navigate my body. I have over the years tried with no success to instruct my husband on how I want to be handled in bed but he has this male ego trip about him being a man so he automatically knows what I want. Why can’t you teach men to listen, to follow simple instructions. If they did women would enjoy sex more often. Many of my friends are suffering in silence, faking orgasms in the name of soothing egos. What about their pleasure is what I ask them. And I know as a result some have affairs on the down low.

Maurice replies,

It is fact that many women are having affairs to fill a certain void, a certain craving. It is also fact that many women are bi curious and some go a bit further and explore their fantasy and once they taste the forbidden fruit they tend to stick to it.

If I may ask, you have 3 kids so I am assuming your sex life at home is active?

She replies,

It is but apart from when I just want him inside me most of the time sex is for him. We don’t use protection hence the 3 kids. I have told him that I want to try out long term contraception because I don’t want more children.

I am in love with 2 people for different reasons and I don’t feel guilty when I am with her but I feel guilty when I sometimes decline my husband’s advances. I am not always in the mood to pretend I am enjoying sex. The irony is that my husband has a big dick which my girlfriends seek and yet my pleasures stem from touch and the power of the tongue.

Speaking of tongues, she is also demanding of my time and that creates a problem even though I find myself availing time to be with her. I will never leave my marriage but I know equally I will not sacrifice my sexual pleasures for the sake of morals. It is not enough to have a loving partner. Sex for me is part of the package or rather I wish it was but I guess such is life. All I can do is play my part at home and know that once in a while I go out for my orgasmic chocolate.

Maurice replies,

It is clear that you know what you want. All I advise is that you manage your home as your number one priority and never let sexual lust deter you from your family duties.

She replies,

Thanks Maurice.

My key role in the work that I do is to liberate people sexually. That basically means that I do not discriminate when it comes to sexual preference. Whatever gets you off is your business and I encourage sexual adventure and exploration. Sexuality should be fun and exciting, it should not be a chore or obligation to please one person. It takes two to tango, ok something three or four, but you get my drift.

If you enter any relationship setting with the mind set of ‘sex will be boring’ well guess what ‘it will’. For example, if you believe that in marriage sex is not enjoyable then you have just set yourself for a very boring sexual journey. This is how some people end up in other people’s beds. I don’t write the rules those are just the inevitable dynamics of a stale sex life.

What is sex?

If you think sex is when a woman spreads her legs and you thrust her with your aerodynamic organic rod then you will soon be wondering why your bed is cold as you lie there alone.

As I have always said, sex is a journey of physical and mental stimulation. It is a journey that should be enjoyed, you and your partner need to explore each other by teasing, kissing, touching, sensual whispers, licking; in short taking your partner on a roller coaster of sensations.

If you are a man, rest your rock hard penis for a while and utilize your strongest weapon ‘your tongue’, let her lead you to her vagina and touch it ‘gently’.

Before your fingers penetrate her make sure she’s wet. With all the seductive might vested in you take your time to lick around her neck and ears. DO NOT attempt to dig wax out of her ears, she’s meant to enjoy the licking experience. She is your cone of ice cream, take your time, her vagina is marinating at this point.

Now lets go south towards her nipples but tease her by licking and sucking around her areola. Then go back up and repeat what she responded well to. It is critical to study her responses to your every action, that way you get to know her arousal zones instead of guessing and performing a lot of trial and error.

When you eventually get round to her vagina area, again take your time, lick or suck her labia minora (aka pussy lips) and do it with care, you’re not eating a pie or trying to extract her uterus.

Now many of you will think the above is a tutorial but really it is there to highlight a few issues. Many couples do not communicate in the bedroom, they have never really known what there partner likes which has led to many awkward assumptions.

Hence why we have men who handle the nipple as if they were searching for a radio frequency. It is also the reason why some men wake up with a burning bruised penis because the previous night their partner ‘assumed’ saliva lubrication was not necessary as they were performing their ‘gear shift’ hand job maneuvers.

If communication was enforced non of the above would take place.

Some men may be saying that they can not lick their woman’s vagina which leads me to a simple question, if you don’t who will???? I ask this because in today’s modern age many women for one are not willing to settle for less neither are they willing to live life without experiencing certain vaginal pleasures. A curious vagina is very dangerous and determined. If I did not indulged in the art of canalingus I would be extremely worried. Why???? Because there are plenty of skilled ‘brothers’ out there who are willing to go down town and do the job for me.

The truth is harsh and this applies to both gender. What one will not do another will do it gladly, not just to pleasure but to prove that they are willing to venture into the sexual realm that you are not. Here’s a tip, don’t knock till you try it.

Now to the ladies. If you have a man who consistently comes home thinking of having sex with you then quit complaining. You have been blessed with a man who’s compass directs him to explore with you. There are far more women wondering where their penis is at, they stand by their window counting down hoping that the next car belongs to their penis. Would you rather have your man’s penis in your hand stroking it like there’s no tomorrow or would you rather turning your window into a light house hoping your man will dock at your bay!

If your man is on top of things and you can see his entire mental and physical function is focused on the job in hand then that is not the time to remind him that you have kids and a house help. Men love to her your sound effects, having sex on mute is like having sex with a tree, however if you really have to muffle then bite onto a pillow and maintain the flow of his sexual prowess. In short DO NOT attempt to stop an express train.

Whether you are a size 8 or 18, it is not your size that makes you a desirable woman in the long run, it is all about your attitude towards yourself. Most men are attracted to confident women who just ooze sexiness regardless of size. Plus size women usually have visually enticing breasts that shout out ‘suck me’ and we really like that.

Frequently asked ridiculous questions?

Maurice how do I tell my partner I like doggy?

Answer: Lets start with you opening your mouth shall we….

Maurice my wife does not undress in front of me, what could be the problem?

Answer: Considering I am not usually there with you, why don’t you ask your wife?

Maurice I can work with my husband’s penis but can you enlarge it?

Answer: The answer is in your statement, ‘work with what you have’. When you were his girlfriend you knew exactly what penis you were marrying so 4 to 10 years into your marriage why the sudden need to enlarge!

Maurice my wife tells me I need kissing classes can you help?

Answer: I do not offer kissing classes and I fear your question read in a certain context could imply a service I definitely do not partake in.

Maurice I finger myself a lot, can that damage my vagina?

Answer: It won’t damage your vagina however considering you do it a lot, it would be wise to refrain from doing it at work, I don’t think it is part of your work place ‘vision’ and it might distract others during board meetings.

I encourage couples not to fear or judge one another but to share their desires, their fantasies so that there can be more sexual flames than candles burning between the sheets in more homes.

Send this link to 10 of your friends or to anyone you think needs to learn from the above. Help me pass on the message of sexual liberation. If it was up to me there would be an orgasm day in our calendar but that should not stop us from embarking on a mission to liberate each other.

It has been documented that women who achieve orgasms regularly are very productive at work and when they get home they have their ‘special’ way of showing their appreciation. That should be an incentive to everyman.

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Dear Maurice,

I would like to thank you for being so informative at the session I  attended in September. Actually that was my second session with you as the speaker, my first taste of your session was back in 2011. My husband and I appreciated your g-spot dvd. I would like to give you feedback on your latest kamasutra dvd that I bought from you. It is very sensual and informative. Needless to say watching the dvds with my husband has really made us connect as husband and wife. We have realised that we had become very conservative about sex and yet that was not the case when we met 9 years ago. You are very right about couples falling into a certain mindset after having kids which kills frequent sex or sexual desire in totality. Lucky for me my husband is a willing participant in learning new things. I was really tired of spreading my legs and that’s it. As I shared with you that day my husband and I have sex at least 3 times a week and out of the 3 times I either cum once or not at all. It can be pretty frustrating because he would always cum and I am left hanging.

But that is no more.  I think my husband has changed his mindset and is more prepared to be more sensual. I do not know whether the kamasutra dvd boosted his sexual ego because he is putting so much effort to making me cum. He is taking his time when he goes down on me so am able to concentrate on his tongue motion and orgasm in his mouth. The other night something awesome happened, he made me squirt using his penis head. As you had instructed in the session I pushed my vaginal muscles outward a couple of times until somehow as he throbbed his penis I begun to squirt, once I got into the mode I continued to squirt, it was amazing. I am experiencing very extreme sensations as I orgasm and squirt at the same time. My husband was thrilled. You should have seen his face he looked like he had climbed Mount Everest.

Maurice replies,

I am glad that you are experiencing intense orgasms and squirting at the same time. I am equally glad the kamasutra dvd was of value to your sex life.

She replies,

It was and still is. Expect calls from random women I have marketed you to my friends.

I have one pending thing and I guess you are the right man to ask.

After your session I got the guts to tell my husband about my fantasy and he listened and to my surprise he agreed after he had declined when I mentioned it in passing when we were courting. I assumed he would have been more open to the fantasy when I was his girlfriend?

Maurice replies,

I would be better placed to reply if I knew what the fantasy was?

She replies,

Good point. I told him I have always fantasized over having sex with a woman. While in campus I almost had the threesome experience but the guy my girlfriend and I invited ejaculated so fast and slept. My friend and I kissed but that was it, I guess we were afraid where it may lead us. I also shared that with my husband and he just laughed.

Maurice replies,

I believe your husband is open to the idea at this point of your union because of the connection you currently have, watching sex educational material has more than just liberated your sexuality, it has opened your communication level as a couple hence why he does not see your fantasy as competition but as something you can share.

She replies,

He has conditions though.

Maurice asks,

What conditions?

She replies,

He does not want to participate in the touching. He wants to watch and arouse himself. He then wants to cum all over our boobs. He has been taking your supplements so he has a lot of semen which he loves to off load on my boobs. I recall you stating that some men love to off load on boobs, my husband is one of them lol.

Which one of us needs to pick the third party?

Maurice replies,

Considering it is your fantasy you need to pick a woman who arouses you.

She replies,

That is good because I had told him the same. Do you have any play tips for me.

Maurice replies,

I won’t write a manual for you because it won’t be spontaneous plus am sure you can get creative with ice cream and yoghurt. As part of your foreplay you can begin by massaging each other with baby oil or if you can get your hands on edible oils even better.

She replies,

To be honest I really wish my husband gets more involved on our erotic night but even if he doesn’t I will enjoy myself. Thank you Maurice you have inspired and liberated many people over the years.

Ciao Maurice,

I love reading your blog and I would like to be part of it by sharing about my sexuality. I am Italian and funnily I have been to your Country. I holidayed there 2 years ago and I loved the beach, the food and the people. I had my first mandigo experience in Kenya and I still recall it. I have always liked walking around nude and I love when people stare, it turns me on. I am very hippy and curvacious and too often I find myself nude in the house, in the garden, out at some parks and especially when I visit a friend who has a balcony I love my exhibitionism. But I have a small labia minora is that normal? And I like playing with myself. I masturbate almost everyday. And why is it that I can make myself squirt but the men I meet cannot? You write about arousal, I can orgasm when a man sucks my nipple and plays with my clitoris. My ex hated that I preferred hand stimulation to his dick. One other thing, I really enjoy anal, I orgasm so fast with anal is that normal?

Maurice replies,

Thanks for sharing. As long as you feel vaginal and clitoral stimulation there is no course to worry about your labia. Despite what many think women who masturbate tend to enjoy their sex life more than other women. It also has a lot to do with your craving for exploration. When you play with yourself you free your mind from the World and you focus on your arousal zones which in turn releases feel good chemicals that run through your brain. For you, your nipples and clitoris are prime arousal zones. Those areas are your orgasm trigger points. Every woman is different and the only way a man can satisfy a woman, like making you squirt, is by following your instructions so that he can maneuver his way around her body without much effort. Same applies to your ability to orgasm during anal. Through anal once a man’s penis hits your nerve endings he causes you to orgasm.

When it comes to sexuality there’s nothing like normal. It is about exploring and discovering what arouses you. When you get nude and walk around at that point you are expressing your sexuality and freedom. So keep doing what you do and never ever let anyone take that away from you.