Dear Maurice,
I am a mother of 3 adorable children, 7,4 and a 2 year old and I am very married but for the last 2 years I have kept a dark secret from my husband.
Maurice asks,
How long have you been married?
She replies,
I have been married for 8 years. I had my first child when I was 22 years old.
Maurice asks,
So what is this dark secret?
She replies,
Firstly I want to share my story because I found myself in a facebook women’s group where I discovered that I was not alone. I thought I was weird suffering from some disorder until married women revealed that they too had bisexual secrets and they only felt safe to share in exclusive forums.
Maurice I am attracted to women. I have had numerous sexual encounters and truth be told I find a woman’s touch erotic, women turn me on. Am I weird?
Maurice replies,
Your sexual preference does not make you weird, it just makes you unique compared to others. When did you know that women did it for you and are you in contact with one particular woman?
She replies,
I have always known but it was 2 years ago that I had my first sexual experience with a woman and it was out of this World. Yes I have a girlfriend who is actually a fully fledged lesbian.
Maurice asks,
Why a woman, what does your girlfriend deliver that you don’t get a home?
She replies,
This is really hard for me because I love being married but sexually I married a 2 minute man and before you ask I knew it from the beginning. I have been to one of your sessions I know how you read between the lines. I knew exactly who I was marrying and I never told myself that he would improve I just knew he would be a good husband and father.
Maurice replies,
But….
She replies,
Sex for me is important. I am an extremely sexual woman, I used to make him go 3 to 4 rounds so that I too can enjoy sex. He has since slowed down and sometimes I can see him struggling to perform meaning he is only doing it for me which is a put off.
Two years ago I got chatting with one woman from the facebook group and we hit it off. We met for a girl’s night out and one thing led to another and I got addicted to her touch. She is sensual and with her I climax multiple times in a night. I thought an orgasm was what I was getting at home until I met this woman OMG.
I love the way she takes her time to navigate my body. I have over the years tried with no success to instruct my husband on how I want to be handled in bed but he has this male ego trip about him being a man so he automatically knows what I want. Why can’t you teach men to listen, to follow simple instructions. If they did women would enjoy sex more often. Many of my friends are suffering in silence, faking orgasms in the name of soothing egos. What about their pleasure is what I ask them. And I know as a result some have affairs on the down low.
Maurice replies,
It is fact that many women are having affairs to fill a certain void, a certain craving. It is also fact that many women are bi curious and some go a bit further and explore their fantasy and once they taste the forbidden fruit they tend to stick to it.
If I may ask, you have 3 kids so I am assuming your sex life at home is active?
She replies,
It is but apart from when I just want him inside me most of the time sex is for him. We don’t use protection hence the 3 kids. I have told him that I want to try out long term contraception because I don’t want more children.
I am in love with 2 people for different reasons and I don’t feel guilty when I am with her but I feel guilty when I sometimes decline my husband’s advances. I am not always in the mood to pretend I am enjoying sex. The irony is that my husband has a big dick which my girlfriends seek and yet my pleasures stem from touch and the power of the tongue.
Speaking of tongues, she is also demanding of my time and that creates a problem even though I find myself availing time to be with her. I will never leave my marriage but I know equally I will not sacrifice my sexual pleasures for the sake of morals. It is not enough to have a loving partner. Sex for me is part of the package or rather I wish it was but I guess such is life. All I can do is play my part at home and know that once in a while I go out for my orgasmic chocolate.
Maurice replies,
It is clear that you know what you want. All I advise is that you manage your home as your number one priority and never let sexual lust deter you from your family duties.
She replies,
Thanks Maurice.
mauricetherapy 
This reminds me of the issues I had with my husband. I had to stop seeing the woman after the bastard told my parents I was a lesbian but sex has never been the same I am one frustrated woman.
Did he get you or did you just decide to tell him? I would find the competition over you with another woman such a thrill, I don’t mind at all a bisexual wife.
I can relate.
i fail to understand how women can gain pleasure from each other they dont have the necessary equipment. this is just idleness. you should concentrate on being a wife. get home tend to your children and give your husband sex which is rightfully his. this is nonsense.
2 Minute man… no need to be told how well you can perform.
@Kamau.. that is a typical kikuyu man’s reaction. Are you living in the same world. You still think women belong in the kitchen. Why dont you join your brothers in the animal farm. Useless.
Hahahahaha Wairimu WORD!!!! @ Kamau, one would imagine you have gained some knowledge from that Lady’s post…. “if men would just listen and follow simple instructions….” clearly you appear as one of those men who think they know it all and actually NEVER perform!!!! Knowledge is power my friend!!! If men could do half of what a woman can do to pleasure another trust me this bi-curious thing may fizzle to a minimum.
Hahaha, ati in the farm
Wairimu relax… not all of us are narrow minded, Kamau is from an ancient school of thought.
Hehe good to know.
I am in my office playing with myself. Maurice that photo mmmmmh
any naughty gal available holla at me..
You must be working in a store or fridge, you remind me of those insane men who play with themselves in restaurants in full view of other clients.
My wife and Rasu
A woman knows where to touch as compared to a man…long live pussies al suck and play with them forever.
My husband is pretty liberal, when I told him I like girls he did not have a problem and that was 5 years ago. We have a balance between our responsibilities as parents and our sexual preference. I was lucky to meet such a man. We live in a very different World from our parents and those who refuse to adapt will inevitably find themselves alone.
Am nt against women doing women thas okay yo choice lol. Buh then again sex is all about communication. Women should tell their men exactly wht they want..
That is the point John. You MEN dont listen and you are not open to learning about our bodies.
I think you have been hanging or living with the wrong MEN Dear.
I wouldn’t mind a lesbian wife, that competition would just give me that push and thrill but just try keeping it to one lady that is if she can catch up with me.
This Story ist like we’re in the same boat .only tha mine its alittle bit unders.iseperate with my xhusband afather of three kids.he was good in bed…licking etc.
BUT. . Aman of all kind of skits.nor maids nor relative young girls imean.
Am a kenyan Lady wo moved in ubroud just because of Stress iwas going through. ., find another man who’s doing nothing in bed having agood big dick but it’s doin nothing.this dick want me just to open the pussy and put the dude without making me ready.ilove the guy .idry to teach him how to play but all in vein..long story ……ineed advise from you guys, if its a the advise is to look somebody or a man to fullfill my needs then hug mi.ican only squit) when imis my x or when iread this blog.thanks Mauris.
Is this in English, I have no idea what this lady (lovely lady)has written?
Me too lol. A case kingereza kilikuja na meli na hata samaki hawakukijua
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My dear@H.GandHomels.
Yes iknow my English is poor.but to I care? ? It’s depend the life I grow up …Maurice he’s there to save and help our marriage. If both of you were in school then be happy! If you have not understand what I wrote then leave it for me.the things is ihave no idear in any swahili nor english ihave a translation machine its helping me to understand and .I think its good to ask for (forgiveness).
Palm on face,surely!!
MEN dont listen and they are not open to learning about our bodies.
I also know how it feels, that’s why 3 somes are bliss especially the foreplay where you watch the gals at it, damn it’s a Friday.
Joy I think you have made bad MEN choices, I can give you a free therapy session.
I know how it feels to be touched by a woman. I cant describe it in words.
Men, men, men…………akina kamau wana shida.
i need me a sexy chick. Hook up anyone?
I can be a serious chic today.
I am looking for a sexy chic too, two will come very handy, you and her, anyone around for some fun?
Missy I know someone who would be a good match… can set you up for a blind date…you can thank me later…
All the same if God was first in a marriage some problems wouldn’t exist
I hear her .
Sad state of many a union it seems