Dear Maurice,
I have been married 9 years and we have 2 kids. I am 31 and my husband is 42. I love my husband to bits but we are not relating in certain areas.
Maurice asks,
Which areas are these?
She replies,
My husband likes two things above all, drinking and hanging out with his boys and to be honest they are like small boys when they all get together and like other wives in the circle I usually feel out of place when they start discussion that we can not chip in. Because we occasionally go out together when he gets home he expects sex and yet mentally I am not prepared. It puts me off plus his beer breathe and his initiations are so primitive.
Maurice asks,
How can I help?
She replies,
I think I am beyond help because I am been having an office affair that has revitalized my sex life.
Maurice asks,
For how long has this been going on?
For close to 5 months.
Maurice asks,
Are things that bad at home?
She replies,
Maurice my husband has his priorities all wrong. I got tired of being the woman who gets some only when he feels like it. I need passion, adventure, sexually stimulation, he used to flirt via phone and that stopped over 5 years ago. I am a woman and I have needs and I did not sign up to become a pussy donor.
Maurice asks,
Considering you have a family when do you have time to see this other man?
She replies,
On some occasions we see each other over the weekend but mostly we schedule our intimacy around lunch time. Honestly speaking the intimacy I receive from this man in one month is far more than what I get at home in one year.
Maurice asks,
Do you feel guilty?
She replies,
I feel like I failed in my marriage because the things I do with this man are things I have never done with my husband. The reason why I have never done them with my husband is because when I met him and got to like him I did not want to show him my slutty naughty side because I needed him to see me as wife material.
Maurice replies,
In short you played a role to lure your man into proposing. You succeeded in your mission but look at where that acting a part has led you. Sexual preferences are impossible to delete because they are part of what sexually stimulates you. You may think of it as a phase and not crave them but all that happens is that they lay dormant till someone or something activates them.
She replies,
I am confused what do you recommend because I know I can’t live dormant anymore.
Maurice replies,
There are no guarantees in life but unless you try you will never know and will live your life wondering ‘what if I had done things differently’. Unless you are emotionally attached to this other man, I recommend that you change your focus and change your current sexual environment and book into a hotel, cottage, resort, miles away from home and tell your husband you want to have an erotic getaway. On this getaway you will transform into that slut and milk your husband dry with all your seductive ways. If he knows better he will and should respond and enjoy the sexual waves of that getaway.
Make sure that you have an emergency line that only those taking care of your kids know. Your personal lines should be off. This getaway does not need any distractions. It is time to show your man the true erotic girl within you.
The above is easier said than done but we both know that if you do not attempt to salvage your marriage and sex life with your husband, your marriage will collapse. Lets avoid all that and switch on to ‘am going to ride my husband till the cows come home’ mode.
She replies,
I have always wanted my husband to watch me playing with myself. It is going to open new doors in our bedroom and I don’t know how he will react but for the sake of our marriage I hope we prevail.
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To my readers,
It is never too late to open up and share with your partner especially about your sexual preference. Make it a priority to share and refrain from judging one another. And to the MEN, please STOP pretending that you do not want a bitch in bed. Many of you do not even know what ‘wife material’ is, once you force a woman to act a certain way then you take away the primal attraction that made you pick her. And LADIES, once you gain that ‘Mrs’ status do not take it so serious that you forget that you are a woman and should maintain the lure that keeps your visual partner interested. A character you take on and choices you make can either break or make your bond. Be wise and make the right choices.
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Maurice am amazed by your stories. You are on my to do list.
maurice matheka you are doing a great job highlighting the truths of this world. through my own doing i pushed my wife into a woman’s arms. we since fell apart but i know if only i had been there and listened things might have worked out.
Maurice, I always sing about your last two sentences. More often than not, just like our sister here, living with inhibitions, which lock one’s sex fantasy world denies the same individual the benefits of the doubt. I feel sorry for the sister here because she’s acting on assumption. She has not shared what’s most intriguing in her marriage sex life. The man she’s flaming with knows and understands the predicament of the situation. She will be miserably hurt in the end because it is all a physical swing. Choices we make in marriage is all about the individual self, who keeps the gifts coming and opening that gift box every day, year after year with contentment and satisfaction. Go back to your husband and be the tigress. Let him enchant your territory and create the bliss. You destined to fail here and thereafter because you the same person. Change starts from us, effectively embracing diversity, sister. Remember though, when men meet, they in most cases resort to boyhood environment. It’s very natural.
Spot on Monari!
@Maurice – another one out of the park bro! Good stuff! Love is a choice and about being aware if those choices, and, their consequences.
Barikiwa!
Good stuff Maurice.