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Dear Maurice,

I really need your help. I made one small mistake and now my man does not want me back in his life.

Maurice asks,

What did you do, and when you say your man, is he your boyfriend or husband?

She replies,

He is my ex boyfriend. Three years ago I left him because we were struggling financially. I left him with our child who was 2 years old at the time. We lived in an SQ in South B.

Maurice asks,

Why did you leave him?

She replies,

Please do not judge me. I just felt he was not trying hard enough to progress in life and I fell for another man who promised me a lot that I wanted only for him to disappoint me. I wanted bigger things in life and thought this other man would offer me a better life but all he did was use me.

Maurice replies,

So why do you want your ex back?

She replies,

Even though I was with the other guy I always followed up with my ex especially on social media. When I found out that his catering business had gained traction and that he had moved from the SQ to a two bedroom house I felt guilty for leaving him so I came back and begged him to see my son. He agreed and told me that he had never restricted me from seeing our son but we are done as a couple because I chose to leave him for another man. I have been staying with him since November because the man I was with stopped paying for my one bedroom apartment. I have tried everything to seduce him into bed but he said he can not even get an erection for me. Maurice, I am so stressed. Can you imagine he allows his casual girlfriend to sleep over with our son in the same house. When I am sleeping with my son I sometimes hear them having sex in the other room. This is so wrong. Please help, how do I get him to chase her and want me again?

Maurice replies,

Honestly, I really don’t see you having a future with him. The minute you left him because you felt he was not providing as you expected he was most likely hurt for a while and at some point he moved on. You are actually lucky you have a good ex who is mature enough not to punish your son by preventing you from contact. As for his ‘casual girlfriend’, that’s his house, you abide by his rules or you find your own place. He is very much entitled to have sex with whomever he wants. You have no right to attempt to dictate. You should be grateful that you have a roof over your head and I am sure he is feeding you. I am curious, this other man who let you go, what happened?

She replies,

Maurice, you are being so harsh with me. I made a mistake and I regret it.

Maurice replies,

That is fair enough, but it’s my duty to point out the facts. So what happened with the other guy?

She replies,

He is married. I was with him for 3 years. He treated me like a queen and last year in September out of nowhere he told me that he no longer loved me and that he was giving me 2 months to find a place to stay. I pleaded with him but he told me he had already invested more than he had planned to. He had promised marriage but kept delaying so last year in July I called his wife and told her that I no longer wanted to be a secret and that did not please him. He continued to pay my rent and upkeep but he went quiet for a month.

Maurice replies,

So you dated a married man for 3 years hoping that he would deliver paradise. I hope you realise that all your current problems are self inflicted. You left a man who was struggling with his hustle and decided to become another man’s lust factor, and then you killed that lust by disrupting his family. How old are you if I may ask?

She replies,

I am 24.

Maurice replies,

My dear, you need to humble yourself and slow your roll. I feel that you have a sense of entitlement and that you believe that you deserve luxury just because you are woman. You will not survive the social arena with that attitude. You have a commodity called a vagina and once men establish your material desires they will dangle that carrot and surely you will be baited ‘hook line & sinker’. By the time you realise your social errors your vagina will have mileage with nothing to show for it. Yes you made a mistake but it was not a small one. You crushed a man’s ego and now you want him back because he is doing well for himself which in my books means you want to be a parasite in his life. It is offensive to men to think that your wrongs can be rectified or forgiven by the use of your feminine lure. You are mistaken. I have seen your photo and I can attest to the fact that you are an attractive young woman but to your ex, your vagina lost value the minute your devalued his manhood. It’s as simple as that. For how long as he allowed you to stay at his place and if he were to ask you to leave where would you go?

She replies,

The married man never wanted me to work. He used to give me 40k per month after paying for my bills. I have a small salon but it is struggling. I can only afford a bedsitter but those areas are usually dangerous. He told me he is giving me until July to sort myself out. Instead of being rude can you give me a solution!

Maurice,

It is unfortunately that all you have digested is my perceived rudeness. It would be great to instantaneously pull out a rabbit from my magical hat at this point but after analyzingthe variables your odds are extremely slim. Maybe in the future he may want you back for some reason or another but for now I would advice that you live by his rules and seek out an alternative place to stay. Find a balance, live within your means as you reconnect with your son and find ways to improve your business. Those in my opinion are the things you need to concentrate on and stop meddling in your ex’s affair otherwise he might eject you sooner. I strongly urge you to remodel yourself and strife to becoming a better focused independent woman. If you continue to flaunt your youthful beauty the vultures of this World will devour you and if you meet the wrong click they will turn you in their recreational centre.

She replies,

So I am supposed to live under those conditions?

Maurice replies,

My dear, your ex is housing you and feeding you. After all you did to him he is also giving you access to your son. I know your issue is that you cannot handle rejection and that you hate having to see him sexually connected with his girlfriend but those are the consequences that befall you considering you were the one that planted the seed that led to this point. When I consider all the facts, it is not in my power to make your ex find you attractive. Like I said, your priority should be your son and your business. You should give love and men a break before they break you. I wish you luck my dear.

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Dear Matheka,

Let me cut to the chase. I urgently need your help. I have been married for 12 years. When I met my husband he was the most charming man. He promised me a life of luxury and love. In my analysis, he delivered 100% on the luxury but in the department of love I can give him 2/10. He is the kind of man who has never apologized but finds it necessary to buy me a gift or take me out for an expensive dinner rather than say sorry and I have to put on a face of happiness. The only good thing to come out of our marriage is our 2 lovely daughters. Regrettably, if I knew what I know today I would not have entered into marriage. I don’t know whether these are words from a bitter woman but I think that men who overly shower women with money are compensating for something. I say this because I met my husband during a period when I was dating several guys and even though my husband has a sizable tool our sex life as been terrible. Yes, he is the father of my children but bad sex is just bad sex. I will quote your words ‘a vagina responds to stimulus, it does not recognize relationship labels’ ..PREACH ON. When I read those words, it’s like you were talking about my vagina. I have never had an orgasm with my husband, mind you he is built like a rock. He is one of those gym fanatics. To look at he looks delicious but his game is usually a 2 minute or less affair, he only has energy to lift weights lol. His spontaneous ejaculating has been horribly consistent. My ex who is married used to give me the most sweaty sex ever, complimented by his ability to make me orgasm with his tongue. I digress, its been 12 years of settling and I am done.

Maurice asks,

How can I help?

She replies,

I have a friend who will remain nameless and I want you to take me through the journey you took her on. For obvious reasons I can’t name her but she said if I mention “Meru delights” you will know who she is. You really helped her, I have been a witness to her transformation. I am willing to do whatever it takes. These are the areas I need you to work on, my self esteem, my damaged mind set towards men & sex and obviously I want to learn how to squirt. I want to be able to have casual sex and enjoy it. I don’t care how many sessions we need I just need to begin my transformation.

Maurice asks,

For me to fully understand the context of your transformation, I need to understand your journey to this point. Why did you marry your husband and why did you not have a life with your ex? You also said you are done, are you done settling with status quo and now you want to improve things with your husband?

She replies,

As I said, my husband is a charmer which is evident from the 8 women he has had affairs with. But the blame also falls on me because I left great sex because my ex was not ready to commit to marriage. So I know I chose security over a man who was my compatible and a great friend till this day. Matheka, at 36 I am no longer naive, I know underneath all that charm and romance I was nothing but a conquest and because of my beauty I got the extra luck of being married to a rich man. They say it’s every girl’s dream. Thankfully, I am a woman who knows better. I plan to leave him by August.

Maurice asks,

If I may ask, have you ever stepped out on him?

She replies,

Unfortunately I have only known one sexual partner despite his 8 women. We have not made love in 14 months and since 2009 we have probably had sex once or twice a year. Matheka save me from my frustrations! What has kept me busy has been my children and work. So are your magical fingers up to the task, I would like us to begin in 2 weeks? I have an apartment in Kilimani of which my husband does not know of (a girl must take care of herself lol) and that will be our venue for our sessions. Oh, I also want you to teach me how to engage and manipulate men. May be I am old skool. I have always given a man the lead but now the confidence instilled by our sessions should give me the upper hand, does that make sense?

Maurice replies,

It makes a lot of sense now that I understand the context. One of the things that keep me motivated in my line of work is that I have the skill to empower a woman’s sexuality and elevate her self esteem which is reflected in her day to day life. I look forward to our sessions, there is much for you to learn and experience. Who said I have magical fingers?

She replies,

lol Matheka, it is a known secret among women, your name pops up in women forums more than you think. Take pride, no other has your kind of fame. I am a marketer, my advice is own your brand and run with it. You are a very lucky man because no one can match you or take that status from you. Thank you so much for your time. I eagerly await. I will share specifics in due course. Have yourself an awesome week.

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Dear Maurice,

I hope you are good. I decided to contact you after the Whatsapp session we had with my group last week. It was very informative and quite the eye opener. Oh, I must mention that at first we were very skeptical about inviting you to our Whatsapp because most of the men thought you were fake, actually if it wasn’t for the female vote who were in full support of you the session would not have taken place. But once you commenced with your voice notes and you spoke a lot sense you suddenly became the best speaker we have ever had in our forum. Some of your previous haters are not your biggest fans, it was a job well done. Now, I have an issue that I could not share in the group though I did ask a few questions and I appreciated your responses. I am 32 and a self made successful software developer. For 3 years I have been dating my soul mate. I could marry her tomorrow but I am so afraid to give her my love. Truth be told 4/5 years ago I was a womanizer but since meeting her, life shifted for me. I fell in-love and her sex is off the hook, it feels great to be with her. But even though she professes to love me I don’t think she is ready to be fully mine.

Maurice asks,

Why would you doubt her?

He replies,

She is constantly on her phone, especially at night, chatting, chatting and more chatting. I even tested her concentration span towards me over a period of 9 months and she has failed miserably. How do you text people when out on a diner date. I would expect conversation but all I get is divided attention. I got tired of fussing and now I pretend I am ok but I am not. She also jumps at any out of town plan without a thought of what I think. I have never given her conditions, I don’t support regimental attitudes but there is only so much a man can take.

Maurice replies,

I need to ask. Has she ever been different in the 3 years? How old is she and what does she do for a living if at all?

He replies,

For the first 2 years we were not living together but for the last year I have seen a side of her that I can’t handle. She is 28 and she works as a restaurant manager. She has been in hospitality for the last 4 years. She works crazy hours at times so when we are together I expect her to catch up with me not social media. I miss the way we would fool around in bed and just consume each other in our own bubble. Am I being unreasonable?

Maurice replies,

You are not being unreasonable. However, when you started dating, was it just fun and more fun without future expectations? I ask because I sense that she may not have had long term focus in your relationship. This has nothing to do with her loving you, love is just a psychological condition which does not guarantee mutual future goals or possibilities. One can love someone for particular reasons that don’t have any connection with relationship advancement like marriage. That does not mean one loves you less, it just means that your journey may not be towards the same destination.

He replies,

Okay, wow. I did not look at it that way. So what does that mean for me?

Maurice replies,

Can you say that you and her are close friends, apart from having fun that is sexually influenced, would you confidently say you that you cuddle up to each other and feel like the World would end without each other, do you share a closeness that redefines logic, do you have laughs that leave your ribs hurting, do you go out socializing and instead of allowing your environment to control you you stay united and embrace each moment together, do you sometimes feel like you breath the same air, yours is uncontaminated and pure? If none of the above resonates with your relationship attributes then my friend, your relationship was most likely formed on a weak foundation. Loving someone is sweet and intoxicating, you can even taste it in your mouth but the problem is, that sweetness is not replicated in her mouth for you to share in the delights. She is most likely enjoying the tidal wave not knowing that in the horizon you seek to find calmer shores where you can settle with her.

My professor once told me that love is extremely dangerous because loving someone only guarantees how you feel and that there is no way of measuring another human being’s love for you not unless you are shallow enough to perceive love by material things you gain.

Does that make sense?

He replies,

Boss, you are good. I really love this woman but as I was reading your sentiments it hit me that you have more or less described my relationship.

Maurice replies,

I am not good but thank you. I have just witnessed this scenarios for a long time and I make my deductions based on information shared. Human behaviour is pretty predictable if you understand the variables involved. If I may, when you met her, what were the striking things about her? And please I know you are in love but don’t sell me some lovey dovey story because you did not know her when you made your move.

He replies,

Hahaha… mate she was fly as fuck. She has this coke bottle figure and for sure I wanted to tap that ass. We got acquainted and at some point my mission was accomplished. I had no plans to continue contact but after a few outings I got to know her and enjoy showing her off and here we are years later.

Maurice replies,

You have just described how 95% of men view there initial contact with a woman they end up marrying. It is always good to accept your initial intent as a man, other things just develop as a bonus to the male lust factor. The irony if I may call it that, is that you are now the one in your relationship who can’t get enough of her.

He replies,

So there is no future with her?

Maurice replies,

I did not say there is no future with her. Even if you left her because you were in a hurry to marry, you have likely odds that you might meet someone who’s compatibility is much worse. The pastures are not always greener. I can tell you that despite your current in-love feelings for her, once you marry her, her newly acquired title of wife can easily change your perception of her, instantaneously you can go from the man who could not breath without her to a man who takes her for granted every day because you suddenly view her as your property and not as your soul mate. It happens to a majority pool of men. One day you were the King of love and the next day you are that guy who disappears like Kalonzo or comes home at 4am smelling of another woman.

From one man to another, I know us men pretty well. Love is great but it’s not enough to keep you interested once you begin to feel you own her, you need to understand that your love right now is fueled by your lust factor. You need to nurture and keep alive the side of you that looks at her as your hot coca cola bottle woman/girl. If you don’t that intoxicating flame will be extinguished by a sudden shift of psychology when you picture her as your wife and future mother of your children. My good man, all this love you have will disappear and you might notice any change until its too late. Too many couples fall under that sequence of events and it’s not necessary. If marriage happens for you and her let it be a bonus. It should never be the deciding factor of whether you are going to be together or not. In short, I do not want to save your relationship in the future, I would rather hear you tell me that you found an equilibrium and that you still happily together 10 years from now than hearing that you got married only to experience 10 years of misery. The ball is in your court.

He replies,

Hahaha ati Kalonzo. I hear you bro. What can I say, it has been enlightening and I will apply your knowledge. I agree, I don’t need to be married to quantify my happiness, that makes a lot of sense. I think you need to talk to my boys, out of 7 of them non is faithful and they find me weak when I share my love stories. Thank you. I will keep you in the loop if you don’t mind?

Maurice replies,

You are welcome. Please do . My goal is to keep your relationship flame burning with you making the right choices. Like I said, 95% of men behaviour and think like your boys. Its funny how it is forbidden in many male forums to admit you can love a woman and yet about 50% of those 95% are like a little poddle in their homes.

He replies,

True that, cheers bro.

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Dear Matheka,

Happy New Year. I hope you are keeping well since our session in November. I recall you asking for feedback so here goes. Firstly, I would like to thank you for the eye opening candid chat we had during our session. It was depressing to have you confirm a few things about my marriage but I guess I always knew but lived in denial for many years. Secondly, apart from my sexual life, which I will go into, I am thankful for the information you shared which hit home in relation to my marriage. My husband and I had a serious talk where we looked at our viable options and we recently decided not to get a divorce but live together as friends. Frankly, a divorce would be too expensive and we feel our kids still need both of us to live under one roof. Even though my husband refused to attend our initial consult session he agreed with 80% of what you shared with me. We have a guest wing and that is where he will be living and we shall review that status after 2 years. Our discussion also touched on the sensitive matter of dating other people and we came to a mutual agreement. We have a transition to adapt to but I am confident that the harmony you spoke about will be achieved.

Now to my sex life. I have consistently followed your program on a daily basis and I must admit true to your word you have transformed my womanhood. Like I said when we first met, I thought squirting and even multiple orgasms was a myth but I guess when you are dealing with the maestro himself aka vagina whisperer, you can’t fail. I also discovered what you meant when you told me that my vagina does not respond to social defined labels but responds to a stimulus which contradicted what we are taught by society, that you will only enjoy sex with the man you love. Your stimulus theory has been confirmed repeatedly because despite loving him and thinking of him as my ultimate man, sex with my husband was nothing but obligational and has been for years. Then a week into our session I applied what you taught me with some other guy and the water works were in full display. He even commented ‘your husband doesn’t appreciate this’, I had to tell him that it had never happened with any other man. You should have seen the pride in his face, as if he had conquered the World. Just as instructed I told him to patiently alternate between licking my urethra zone and my clit. I felt the build up and he told me to let go. I splashed on his face. He got up with this mighty look on his face totally convinced he could move Mountains and like you recommended I gave him the credit. Oh, before I forget, I ventured out and tried out my fantasy with a woman and I love it. It was by far the most sensual sex I have ever experienced. All in all my sex life and over all outlook on life has changed. As you well noted, one of my main issues was that I was a stickler for societal rules and morals. I have since learnt to be more flexible in my day to day life. I have also learnt to find happiness within myself instead of relying on external love and affirmation. I believe that the work you do is critical in changing mindsets and giving people direction in their relationships. Many of us are sold into the Disney version of marriage ‘happily ever after’ and to be perfectly honest, if I could turn back time, I would never have rushed for a marital status that would become my source of misery for 8 years out of 9. Anyway enough with memory lane, I will now only focus on the things that bring me joy and Matheka you have bought me a lot of joy and I will be forever indebted to you. I have asked a friend of mine to see pronto, she is also a member of the denial club and I know she will benefit from your session(s). God bless you and have a marvelous 2018.

ps: when I googled you and saw you rate card I thought you were too affordable considering the value you offer. I think you should charge a premium rate, after all what value do people put on their relationship. Having been a participant of an extravagant wedding, I now believe people spend unnecessary amounts, hundreds of thousands, millions on their wedding day. So they should equally want to pay premium to sustain their relationship. Food for thought.

Maurice replies,

Thank you so much for the feedback. The above is what keeps me motivated to do my job. It is important that one finds inner peace and happiness. It is equally important for people to understand the social variables that determine a functional cordial relationship opposed to a relationship that offers nothing but boredom, misery, insecurity and an assortment of emotional constant distress. Psychology teaches us that there is how you think things should be and then there is the reality of how things will undoubtedly be if you do not adopt a program to cultivate an endless yield of mutual goals, desires and aspirations that nurture a loving and conducive relationship between two people. As long as I can help one person at a time, that’s fulfilling enough for me. Have yourself a superb 2018.

In 2018, more couples need to embrace sexual knowledge and discovery.

More women need sexual liberation, they should learn how to orgasm to the point of squirting.

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Dear Matheka,

I wish you a happy new year. It has been a long journey since I met you in August 2016. I want to begin by thanking you for your patience with me. We chatted for months before I ever got the courage to meet you and you never gave up on me. Even though my marriage ended, I must admit that I am in a much better space. When I met you my confidence and self esteem was at its lowest point but through our sessions I gain self awareness and inner love for myself that had be beaten out of me for 9 years. Marriage is overrated and until I met you I actually thought it was my fault that my husband repeated emotionally crucified me. If I knew then at 22 what I know today I would have taken my time before getting into marriage of which I thought was the epitome to becoming a woman. I believed in my husband, he was my King almost a God in my World. How could a man who loved me hurt me was my thinking. I always heard women complain about men but I told myself that my baby was different, he was the exception to the rule. Little did I know he fed me a false narrative, constantly seduced me with his charming ways as he cultivated relationships with other women who facilitated in his sexual escapades. Then I met Matheka. The man who tells you as it is and truth be told I kind of hated you for telling me the truth about my marriage. One trait I hope you maintain is your ability to listen, that was refreshing. You let me vent without judgement and for that I appreciate your patience.

In March 2017 I could not believe my husband’s actions when he brought his girlfriend into our home and gave me an ultimatum to stay or leave. He also was truthful enough to admit that he walk away from our last session because of your deduction that he may not have loved me as he had claimed. It was pretty hurtful to learn that my marriage was a convenience for him, that I was only a trophy wife. Matheka I cried for days after he told me but I overcame the hurt.

Fast forward, you periodically checked on me and I remember reading one of your posts about a woman who had rediscovered herself and it sparked my interest. We continued our chats and in September 2017 I told you that I was ready to turn a new leaf in my life and so we had our sessions. All I can say is wow wow wow, you have completely transformed me as a woman. For once in my life I can say I know myself. My mentality towards sex has totally changed for the better all thanks to you. When you kept saying you teach a woman to own 70% of her ability to orgasm, I had no idea what you meant but now I know and I am a beneficiary of your teachings. Excuse my TMI moment but after months of practicing the vagina muscle movements you taught me, I had sex with that stud I told you about and he was so thrilled when I squirted. The man can’t stop texting and calling me, he always finds an angle to bring up squirting. It’s laughable, the things that excite you men but I am not complaining. After your counsel I am getting to learn the true nature of men rather than the mythical man most of us women want men to be. Matheka, because of you and I never thought I would say this but I am able to have casual sex and enjoy sex like never before, whom am I kidding, in my marriage orgasms were miracles almost unheard of but today I can make it rain lol. As you can see I am on a roller-coaster which was influenced by you. You took me from a very dark place to a place full of peace, hope and happiness. Thank you for all that you did for me and I hope my story will encourage other women to spread their wings and rediscover themselves. Be blessed Matheka.

Maurice replies,

For once I am speechless. Such feedback is why I keep doing what I do to help individuals like yourself. We all love a great story especially if it has a happy ending. But not all relationships will witness bliss or end as per the vows couples exchange. Life is unpredictable, in our society today there are far more social variables that can collapse or discourage a functional relationship than those who impact on a relationship positively. Despite all the cultures, traditions and religious elements that are meant to enforce social discipline, people will still misbehave and break the unwritten rules of society. However, if we were more open to discussing and debating human behaviour based on proven scientific research we might solve some of our social problems that plague our society. It all begins with catching up with data that updates you with the ever evolving human being. Happy New Year to you, be well and be safe.

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Mr Matheka. I hope this finds you well. I have a pressing matter and I was referred to you by a counsel that I had initially consulted. He was not able to satisfy my quest, he implied you were more open to tackling sexual matters.

Maurice asks,

What is your issue?

He replies,

Firstly, I am 36 years old. I am an accomplished Engineer and a giver at heart. My issue is about a lady who is currently in my life. She is 25 and jobless. I cater for all her needs. I bought her an apartment and a car. I maintain her day to day life and I do my best to love her but after all this pampering she dares to insult me with her sexual needs.

Maurice asks,

Would you say you are conservative?

He replies,

Matheka, don’t get me wrong. I am exposed, in my studies I have traveled the World but I do not see why I should indulge in unnatural acts. For example, she wants me to suck or lick her private parts, am not sure which is which. She tries to touch and suck my member during sex and it feels very uncomfortable when she sucks me. There is a time I felt like doing my business in her mouth and she was not fearing me cumming, what is wrong with this woman. I told her about my past sex life where I would climb the woman and after I was done that was it. She told me there was more to sex between a man and woman. She tells me to hold it in and I can’t. it is alleged men go for long like 10 to 15 minutes, is this even practical? I do not know why she insists on this kind of engagement.

Maurice replies,

What you may call unnatural acts are natural sexual acts for many people in our ever evolving World. You may be well traveled but I have a feeling your travels were about your studies and field of expertise so I highly doubt you dabbled in sexual exploration hence your demeanor. There is actually nothing wrong with your sexually preference, each to their own, but your problem is stemming from the fact that you are dating a woman who is more versed in the sexual realm. In my professional opinion, a conservative should never date a liberal because at some point your persona differences will creep up and begin to tare into your relationship.

He replies,

I have told her to quit behaving like she does. Considering I am running her existence can she not sacrifice her ungodly exposure and settle with me without stressing my life.

Maurice asks,

I am curious, for how long have you dated her?

He replies,

I have known her for almost 2 years. By the way, I consider her my second wife. I am married with children. I want to tame her. She needs to conform to my traditional lifestyle.

Maurice replies,

If I may ask, did you not begin your relationship with her for her to be your fun factor considering you have a wife?

He replies,

Yes, I got bored with my wife and found a lot fun with her. What is your point?

Maurice replies,

Well, you may not understand male sexual psychology but the fact is if you attempt to change her, when she is meant to be your girlfriend not wife, you will only be molding another wife and at some point you will again find boredom in another woman and the circle will repeat itself. You will replace her, I guarantee you. For whatever reason you found your wife boring and proceeded to seek thrills elsewhere, men do this all the time. But I urge you not to transform your girlfriend into a wife, your mindset, your perception about your union will kill your relationship.

That said, in context, your relationship will be difficult. Unless she is willing to transform into your ideal conservative traditional woman, of which I do not advocate for, I foresee a string of future issues and many will be driven by her resentment towards you. Humans have been known to change their entire character to please others but that creates room for long term resentment. Only you and her can come to a mutual agreement but in an ideal World you would seek out for an equally conservative woman and officiate your second wife union with consent from your wife. Again, I remind you, despite your distaste for cunnilingus and fellatio you engaged another woman for her ability to give you thrills that lack in your home. If you continue with your current trajectory your lust factor for her will disintegrate.

He replies,

I am confident that she will conform otherwise I will take back everything I her availed for her.

Maurice replies,

That my friend is your prerogative. However, in my book it defines you as a man who is willing to use his financial prowess to in-slave a woman. She is most likely grateful that you are taking care of her but do not ignore the fact that there is a part of her that in time will rebel especially if she feels entrapped beyond her threshold to persevere with what she may rightfully perceive as harsh conditions. My job is to highlight the possible social variables that may destabilize your relationship. Take my consult into consideration and re-evaluate you true need for another woman in your life.

He replies,

Matheka, as much as I did not want you to over analyse me, I respect your trade and I will consider your advice. I am curious as to why you did not ask or bring up my wife?

Maurice replies,

Only amateurs would bring up your wife. Your consult was about your relationship with girlfriend. I deal with each case as presented. To give you constructive consult I must address your issue with facts relating to your dynamic and not through emotional disposition or social psychological engineering. People like yourself come to me because my job is not to judge you but to understand your dilemma and give you information, based on a professional perceptive, that will aid in your quest, what you do with that information is entirely up to you.

He replies.

Asante Matheka. If you don’t mind I shall revert back for more consult once I figure out what I want. Be blessed.

Maurice replies,

You are very welcome.

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