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Mr Matheka. I hope this finds you well. I have a pressing matter and I was referred to you by a counsel that I had initially consulted. He was not able to satisfy my quest, he implied you were more open to tackling sexual matters.

Maurice asks,

What is your issue?

He replies,

Firstly, I am 36 years old. I am an accomplished Engineer and a giver at heart. My issue is about a lady who is currently in my life. She is 25 and jobless. I cater for all her needs. I bought her an apartment and a car. I maintain her day to day life and I do my best to love her but after all this pampering she dares to insult me with her sexual needs.

Maurice asks,

Would you say you are conservative?

He replies,

Matheka, don’t get me wrong. I am exposed, in my studies I have traveled the World but I do not see why I should indulge in unnatural acts. For example, she wants me to suck or lick her private parts, am not sure which is which. She tries to touch and suck my member during sex and it feels very uncomfortable when she sucks me. There is a time I felt like doing my business in her mouth and she was not fearing me cumming, what is wrong with this woman. I told her about my past sex life where I would climb the woman and after I was done that was it. She told me there was more to sex between a man and woman. She tells me to hold it in and I can’t. it is alleged men go for long like 10 to 15 minutes, is this even practical? I do not know why she insists on this kind of engagement.

Maurice replies,

What you may call unnatural acts are natural sexual acts for many people in our ever evolving World. You may be well traveled but I have a feeling your travels were about your studies and field of expertise so I highly doubt you dabbled in sexual exploration hence your demeanor. There is actually nothing wrong with your sexually preference, each to their own, but your problem is stemming from the fact that you are dating a woman who is more versed in the sexual realm. In my professional opinion, a conservative should never date a liberal because at some point your persona differences will creep up and begin to tare into your relationship.

He replies,

I have told her to quit behaving like she does. Considering I am running her existence can she not sacrifice her ungodly exposure and settle with me without stressing my life.

Maurice asks,

I am curious, for how long have you dated her?

He replies,

I have known her for almost 2 years. By the way, I consider her my second wife. I am married with children. I want to tame her. She needs to conform to my traditional lifestyle.

Maurice replies,

If I may ask, did you not begin your relationship with her for her to be your fun factor considering you have a wife?

He replies,

Yes, I got bored with my wife and found a lot fun with her. What is your point?

Maurice replies,

Well, you may not understand male sexual psychology but the fact is if you attempt to change her, when she is meant to be your girlfriend not wife, you will only be molding another wife and at some point you will again find boredom in another woman and the circle will repeat itself. You will replace her, I guarantee you. For whatever reason you found your wife boring and proceeded to seek thrills elsewhere, men do this all the time. But I urge you not to transform your girlfriend into a wife, your mindset, your perception about your union will kill your relationship.

That said, in context, your relationship will be difficult. Unless she is willing to transform into your ideal conservative traditional woman, of which I do not advocate for, I foresee a string of future issues and many will be driven by her resentment towards you. Humans have been known to change their entire character to please others but that creates room for long term resentment. Only you and her can come to a mutual agreement but in an ideal World you would seek out for an equally conservative woman and officiate your second wife union with consent from your wife. Again, I remind you, despite your distaste for cunnilingus and fellatio you engaged another woman for her ability to give you thrills that lack in your home. If you continue with your current trajectory your lust factor for her will disintegrate.

He replies,

I am confident that she will conform otherwise I will take back everything I her availed for her.

Maurice replies,

That my friend is your prerogative. However, in my book it defines you as a man who is willing to use his financial prowess to in-slave a woman. She is most likely grateful that you are taking care of her but do not ignore the fact that there is a part of her that in time will rebel especially if she feels entrapped beyond her threshold to persevere with what she may rightfully perceive as harsh conditions. My job is to highlight the possible social variables that may destabilize your relationship. Take my consult into consideration and re-evaluate you true need for another woman in your life.

He replies,

Matheka, as much as I did not want you to over analyse me, I respect your trade and I will consider your advice. I am curious as to why you did not ask or bring up my wife?

Maurice replies,

Only amateurs would bring up your wife. Your consult was about your relationship with girlfriend. I deal with each case as presented. To give you constructive consult I must address your issue with facts relating to your dynamic and not through emotional disposition or social psychological engineering. People like yourself come to me because my job is not to judge you but to understand your dilemma and give you information, based on a professional perceptive, that will aid in your quest, what you do with that information is entirely up to you.

He replies.

Asante Matheka. If you don’t mind I shall revert back for more consult once I figure out what I want. Be blessed.

Maurice replies,

You are very welcome.