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Dear Maurice,

I have been married for 11 years. I am 35 with 3 children. I am born again and I thought my husband was as religiously dedicated as I am. About 2 weeks ago I went through his phone and found numerous chats with other women, 6 women to be precise but one chat caught my attention because their exchanges were very candid and open, which does not describe the man I know as my husband. Please note I have not confronted him and that is why I am reaching out to you. I need to know on how best to tackle this issue with him. This woman , who happens to be someone’s wife asked my husband why he desired her so much and he responded by telling her that he loved her sex. He added that her pussy was sweet (words my husband would never use), apparently her pussy makes him really hard, is he bewitched? He told her he loved how she gave him a blow job and how he got turned on when she swallowed his cum. He also said “my wife would never allow such”. In the 14 years I have known this man he has never asked or shown interested in such acts. Our sex has never gone for longer than a few minutes and because he is the only man I have known sexually I thought we were both happy. Matheka, this man has shocked me, he is very prayerful and extremely strict in his home. I really don’t know what has happened to the man I knew, how can my husband text another woman how he longs to eat her pussy all night long when he has only given me minutes! Is it possible for a man to have double personality?

Maurice replies,

Would I be right to state that you were attracted to your husband because you believed he was God fearing and morally correct? If I may ask, is your husband Kenyan and how old is your husband and was he a virgin when you met?

She replies,

Yes, those were the values I stood for and still stand for hence my shock. My husband is 9 years my senior, another reason for marrying him because I thought he was mature and past this things he is portraying now. He is Kenyan and he was not a virgin when we met.

Maurice replies,

I do not want to speculate on how long this may have been going on but this is a classic case on a man who has to abide by societal norms/expectations so when you met he sold you the face that made him look like a potential husband. When you took the bait he then at some point of your courtship deemed you a potential wife and from then on he consciously made a decision that for the rest of his life he would showcase a conservative personality which adheres to the traditional setting of a family. It explains why he has been strict, to make sure he aligns you to a way of behaving as his wife that conforms to acceptable mannerism of a wife, excuse my French but I call it absolute bullshit but that’s our society sadly. Now the man you stumbled upon chatting with those women and being more open than you ever thought possible is his true character. Your husband has a sense of fetish that has always been him but he was never going to show you that side of him (the real side) because our so called conservative society does not expect married people to indulge in such sexual acts. The double standards that favour men in Kenya are unbelievable but a reality.

She replies,

Are you saying that he most probably married me because I was marriage material and a viable source to give him children?

Maurice replies,

Based on his evident double life, the answer is yes. Men rarely marry for love exclusively, there is always an end goal, especially with the pressures to marry and gain a family. It is equally as rare to find a man who marries his lust factor, meaning the woman he consistently finds sexually attractive. In short, men rarely marry their ultimate sexual mate. There are plenty of proven scientific reasons for men cheating but the most basic one is because men love thrills, our sexual ego is driven by what people call ‘cheap thrills’, the combination of conquering mixed with our procreational design is a cocktail of sexual intent. Your husband is product of a toxic society which urgently needs to review its understanding of social trends, social dynamics and human sexual behaviour. If your husband conformed to your religious guidelines you would not be in this predicament.

She replies,

But I thought men who get married are over such behaviour.

Maurice replies,

You cannot be further from the truth. There is a small pool of men in society who harbour puppy love and they truly marry for love but the vast majority have other reasons of convenience behind their decision to marry.

She replies,

Matheka you have confused me further, I was expecting you to tell me he is bewitched or it is just a phase but instead you are painting a man who has been living a double life. How do I deal with this scenario, I know I can never agree to his sexual desires? As it is I am disappointed and mad at him but I must find calm within me as expected by my faith.

Maurice replies,

Having dealt with such cases, your husband will either deny deny deny and even profess to have been possessed by demons or he will finally unveil his true self and give you ultimatums on how you will live in harmony from here henceforth. If you want to confront him, I recommend you calmly use reverse psychology. He expects you to be livid after this revelations. You need to approach him with a logical mind not an emotional one. Tell him that you have knowledge of his kinky indiscretions and that you are not mad at him but you would like to know why he has hidden that side of him, tell him you did not know he loved cumming in a woman’s mouth which will confirm to him you have seen the evidence, you then walk away to allow him to ponder over what he has just heard from his conservative wife. Your mission is to avoid him coming up with excuses and for him to tell you the truth. Once you have the truth, you can then figure out what your future will look like.

Again based on my experience with such cases, please do not find yourselves going to your local pastor or priest for prayers, he will only make promises that sound genuine only for him to remodel his avenues of seeking out his sexual thrills. The minute you confront him it will never be business as usual in your home so make your decision knowing that the tides will be rough for a while. You can always call me for me to guide you in the reverse psychology.