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These days the pressures of sexual life are so immense that men have resorted to penis enhancement products ‘hoping’ to perform better.  Many men who engage in penis enlargement programs have become so obsessed with adding extra inches that they tend to forget just how important the girth of the penis is, it is extremely important in my opinion. There are exercises that men can perform at least twice a week to keep their penis healthy.

A large number of men that want to improve this part of their anatomy have turned to penis pump, penis enlargement exercise programs, male enhancement pills, and in some cases even surgical procedure. All in the name of pleasing women and becoming the Kings in the bedroom, even after achieving a few inches many still fail to satisfy women for one reason or another. It is also important to note that some of these products have side effects that may lead to penal problems. However there are those that have positive results but these results take a minimum of up to 9 months or more for your partner to actually feel a difference once she is penetrated.

These men who indulge in penis enlargement tend to think that the length of their penis is far more important than its girth (thickness) but what they fail to realise is that it takes a mixture of personal skill and interest in learning a woman’s body to fully satisfy her. A “healthy penis” is one that has both adequate length and girth. You’re probably wondering why the girth of a man’s penis is so important when it comes to satisfying a woman’s sexual needs.

There are two main pleasure zones of a woman stimulated by penis intercourse; one is located at entrance of the vagina and the other about 2 to 3 inches in the vagina on the top end where you find the G-Spot. These vagina areas are very sensitive and rich in nerve endings that can induce an orgasm or squirting. A man with a long thin penis simply goes in and out during intercourse and fails to fully stimulate the areas that provide a woman with the sensations of pleasure. However, men with thick penises expand the vaginal entry tissue and stimulate a larger number of nerve endings.

The clitoris is the central point of sexual pleasure for many women. It has one purpose and one purpose only and that is to provide a woman with pleasure during the act of sex, this can be through penetration, licking or sucking. A thin penis most likely won’t rub up against the clitoris and bring out those moans of sexual pleasure that men love to hear. Don’t worry all hope is not lost for thin penis barriers, there are certain sexual positions that make it possible to brush up against the clitoris during sex but it requires some skill and effort on the man’s part.

All in all the above only applies to women who react to intercourse and can easily gain pleasure in form of a orgasm or squirting if the penis is used to push the right buttons. It also does not mean that a short penis cannot satisfy a woman, that’s a myth. Many studies show that girth stimulates the vagina walls in different ways depending on the sensitivity of the woman’s vagina. A man with a lot of girth, compared to length, will most likely induce sensations by his penis spreading the vagina walls and the ‘in and out’ thrusting will create friction that will excite the woman increasing the possibility of satisfaction.

However it is important to note that women are different, with a variety of pleasure zones, you may enhance yourself and not deliver after all that effort and money, it’s easier to communicate and find out what ‘really’ gets her ticking!

Dear Maurice,

I have just turned 19, with an almost one year old baby girl.

I met my baby daddy at a party and we hit it off. He was straight up and told me he was not looking for a serious relationship because he was already married with kids. He is 22 years my senior and I love him so much. I knew what I was getting into but I expected him to be there for me whenever I need him. I live with my folks and it has caused problems between my parents. My mum is not pleased as you can imagine and my father blames me. Mum has tried to convince dad to seek legal action but dad has declined that option. He says when I turned 18 I became an adult and since I have always fought him about his strictness under his roof I should take responsibility and stop blaming a married man. I know in the past I have many times threatened to leave home to gain my freedom when I became 18 but I did not expect my own father to turn his back on me. Dad has made it clear that he will not confront my baby daddy nor does he want anything to do with the man I love, because he will not be responsible for destroying another man’s marriage but if I insist I can do it alone. My dad also told me that I should be ashamed of myself for dating a man who is his junior by 5 years that really hurt me. I was brought up by dad and mum with the mentality that love is unconditional regardless of race or age. Mum supports me but she will not go against my dad’s final word. I do not know what to do. My parents are supporting my baby and dad loves his grand daughter, he is always worrying about her, for that I love him despite our disagreements. Maurice my life has be turned upside down I had plans to further my studies in the States and many other ambitions but now they are on hold. I also want my daughter to know her father. Baby daddy’s position in all this is that he will only support me the much he can if I agree to sign a document stating that I will never ask for more than what we agree and that his family should never know about us. He is offering me fifty thousand per month until our daughter is 18. He says he will help me plan for our baby’s future through a savings scheme. I am confused but I feel like taking his offer. But will our love die with this mess.

Maurice’s reply:

I have tried to evaluate your matter without being too parent-ish. But I must start by pointing out that our parents apply certain boundaries to limit us from situations that may affect our life in a negative way. Parents are our defense system and we will undoubtedly not conform to every boundary but they do care about our well being. I believe your dad is saying “I told you so” in his own fatherly way. Now what is important at this stage? The answer is obvious, your baby’s future. I’m happy that your parents are fully supportive in regards to the care of your baby. You did not mention that you are currently working so I’m assuming you are fully reliant on your parents. If you are under their roof then your dreams are not at all lost. You can still further your studies and became independent. I’m sure your parents will help you to achieve your goals as they tend to your child’s growth. Focus on that first and schedule when you will resume studies, set yourself a time table with deadlines. This will guide you in monitoring your level of achievements and also formulate a time table that allows for you and your child to bond. I do not want to advise on the legal channels you can take that you can receive by visiting an advocate or institution that deals with family legal cases. Financial assistance from baby daddy will help but if you pursue it be ready to go to court and sometimes it can drag for months or years but let me not speculate on an area that is not of my expertise, seek guidance from professionals in that sector. What I will tell you, is despite your love for your baby daddy please doesn’t hope for an ending where you and him are happily together under one roof as a family. That is extremely unlikely, in other words the odds are very much against you. You unfortunately were a victim of an older man’s lust to score points by dating a younger woman.

Concentrate on caring and loving your daughter and please mend bridges with your dad; I believe with wisdom, and life’s lessons, he foresees eventualities that he may not want you to experience hence why he has decided to take care of you without flaring up the unknown. My closing statement is, you were blessed with a child and all you can do is love your child everyday and give your child the best life has to offer relying only on your ability and efforts once you are out of your parent’s home.

Dear Maurice,

When I was 21 I left home because of a man and I never wanted my parents to know him or meet him. Why, because no one is good enough for my parents. It’s just the way they are. That was 8 years ago. I keep in-touch with mum but Dad disowned me completely. For years, mum tried to get me back home to visit but I always declined until she got used to us communicating via phone or sometimes email. My parents are well to do people and so the man I fell for, who is 7 years my senior, would have never met their approval for many reasons of which I am fearful to tell you as I write this letter to you. Maurice my man is sweet and very caring just the way you normally describe the caring factor in your articles. We have 3 kids and we love them to bits.

We are comfortable but I’m not at all living the luxury live I had at home. Thankfully mum made sure I finished my studies and I eventually became independent. We both work and we give our children the most attention that we can. If anything weekends are just for family. My man has he’s boys but they are on the back burner that’s how considerate he is. I normally force him to take a break from us to spend time with his peers and do their thing. I think I have managed to create a balanced live where no one feels trapped by the other. Maurice my man is my first love and he is the only man I have ever dated. Due to the family rift we moved away and we live in a different town from our parents. According to his parents he has a come we stay woman and yet we are married. This is so because we are related by blood. Maurice I fell for my cousin big time, we used to just joke about flirting and only if we were not related we would date but then one night we were out of town and shared the same room, we had done so many times, but this particular night we shared a lot of heart to heart and realized we had so much in common and we kissed. That was it, we chose to move away and the rest is history. I need you to tell me how to connect with my family because I miss them, I want my kids to know their grand parents and other family members but I know their reaction will be very negative; neither will anyone in the extended family support our actions. I personally don’t feel ashamed; we have lived a life of nothing but love and happiness. We have taken care of our downs together which has really helped us stay so close. I think I read somewhere that you don’t advocate for people to share their problems with friends or third parties, well I have never so your theory has some merit. Who do I approach first, how do I begin to explain that I am married to my cousin?

Maurice’s reply:

Only if it wasn’t for your relation dilemma you would be the nearest to the perfect couple. From your letter it seems you have shut yourself off from your families for a long time. I understand your need to acquire lost time with your family. However you must be prepared to be rejected and as per African traditions you have broken quite a few and your situation is not rare but it’s not always easy for cultured families to accept your incest practice. Despite your near perfect life with your man your family will most likely only see it in the light of what was initially committed which was incest. There’s no easy fix here. You need to meet you mum, if indeed you are sure you want to go ahead with this, there’s no turning back once you embark on this journey. Let your mum’s judgment dictate the path, 8 years is a long time and the family social dynamics have for sure changed and only your mum is your inside source. Involving other family members unless your mum advises so will be futile.

This is what I suggest. Travel back to your home town and book into a hotel and from there you can start a 2 day talk with your mum. The first day will be your testimony and it will give your mum amble time to absorb the news. By the second day I’m sure she’ll have thought it through and she will advise you further. Remember to give her details of how it all happen, show her pictures of her grand children and let her see it in your eyes that life has been good to you. That you have a loving happy family unit and even though it’s not the conventional family unit ‘society would expect’ you would have it no other way. If you are not convinced and I know you are then you can’t convince anyone else. Another thing, if you are a religious person you may also, in cahoots with your mum, seek guidance from a pastor or priest. Many families always have a link with their local church pastors or priests so that is an avenue to consider to have a man of the clothe aid in bringing harmony between you and your family. I wish you a peaceful transition if you chose to engage your family and if you would please keep me in the loop. I hope my opinion leads you to a fruitful path.

Foreplay

Foreplay is an important part of a woman’s sex life. While men might enjoy it too, it tends to be the woman who needs the pre-play effects to really get her in the mood. We all enjoy a quickie now and then, but it’s that prolonged, teasing foreplay that really gets us in the mood and anticipating what is to come.

Most women know how important foreplay is, yet so often men just don’t seem to get it. Did someone misplace the memo? No matter how often you say it, or hint at it they just don’t get it! So many women give up on the experience of intoxicating pleasures, they just take what they get and try to enjoy it, but yet they know and feel that something is missing. Am I right?

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be like that. Here are some ideas.

Men, make it part of the whole evening, or the whole day. If you are going out for dinner or a movie, try touching her, flirting with her and treating her like your naughty irresistible sexy vixen throughout the evening. Hold her hand, rub your hand along her thigh, nibble her ear, whisper to her how much you want her. Those little affectionate attentions will add up as the evening goes along, and make her feel sexy and wanted, which should always be the case. Spare a few minutes in the day to send her erotic messages. Send her a text, an email, leave her a little note, Google map her and pretend you can see her naked in her office; GET CREATIVE! Tell her you want her to touch herself during an office meeting, tell her you can taste her tell her to gently rub her phone against her thigh and sexy pictures, and text you the photo. While she might not actually do all this, it’s the thought that you put in her mind that will work for you. Women love erotic suggestive messages that let her know you are thinking of and lusting for her.

Compliments, compliments, compliments are encouraged. But they must be sincere! Do you like how she looks? Have you noticed a new look? Then tell her. While out and you happened to be walking behind her maybe climbing some stairs and those jeans fit her so tightly bringing out her luscious booty or she’s wearing a little dress and from that angle behind her you can just about see as her bottom sways, from left to right, curves in all the right places! So tell her how succulent she looks. She will like to hear that her look turns you on inducing x-rated thoughts, how she sounds, how she feels. I know you hear me! Get sensual in the car; at home use every available room and take her in your arms. When you kiss her, really kiss her. Not just a peck, but with passion, slow kiss, ask her how she likes it, ask her if she likes her upper or lower lip sucked. Put your heart and your last ounce of lust into it!

Ladies, tell him what you like. Do you like to be teased? Do you like to be licked from one end to the other? Go on tell him. Ask him to do it, in your own sexy voice command him to do it. Asking your partner is okay, it’s part of the play, and you may be surprised at how eager he is to fulfill your desires. Taking instruction from a sexy voice can be a massive turn on for a man. Show him where to explore. Guide his hand, his mouth, and any other parts! Show him how you like to be touched, caressed. Whisper to him when to slow down, when to increase momentum; take him on a journey to a land known to the two of you. When you get there you will both know without asking!!!

Desires

When it comes to bedroom matters or should I say sex humanity has over centuries evolved and a variety of desires have been derived from the need to explore new sensations and thrills. I believe they call it ‘eating the forbidden fruit’ but I thought as kids we were all told how fruits are good for our health so I’m sure by adulthood we may have an addiction to sweet fruit in which ever form they come!

The desires I speak are better defined as fetishes. A fetish is a personal liking for a certain sexual act or attribute. In many cases fetishes do not require intercourse as we know it. I know some men may ask ‘no intercourse’ then what’s the point? Well let me tell you that men take their manhood tool too seriously and should try out other forms of sexual acts that may achieve orgasmic results that conventional sex cannot.

Let’s look at a few fetishes; A couple that love to have sex either being watched or putting themselves in a situation where they could be seen by a snoopy neighbour. Having sex at the window over looking other homes or at a balcony, for many people this is a major turn on and a rush of sensations stimulated mentally or visually create a very electric sexual session. The phrase ‘back seat of my jeep’ was not a sales pitch for a car dealership it implies and induces mentally visions of having sex on the back seat of a car.

Another fetish is where you have a couple who love to play with food, you name it they have tried it. They get creative with chocolate, ice cream, whipped cream and strawberries, cake with loads of cream to smear on parts of their bodies that are most sensitive. This form of play is also very vital when you want to set the mood, get the burners warming up and get the blood rushing in all the right places especially for men. It’s great and exciting 4-play and once the heat is right the sexual session can be overwhelming and satisfying for both parties.

The sense of touch in the right places can stimulate a ‘high’ achieving an awesome turn-on, it is advisable to always ask your partner where they love to be touched or licked and how they like it. Once you understand your partner’s most sensitive parts of the body then you can arouse sensations that will make them want to ride the ultimate rollercoaster if you get my drift!

Fetishes are not only common with couples. Individuals who make it a point to self arouse are actually doing themselves a big favour by learning and experiencing their most erotic pleasures in the comfort of their own company. This over a period of time links their mental receptors with the areas they touch (play with) to elevate their sexual self awareness. When they have a partner they know exactly what does it for them, what takes them to cloud nine and it decreases and eventually eliminates any inhibition they may have. So what I am saying is practise does make perfect in this scenario.

When it comes to attributes in regards to fetishes especially with men you will find men who love feet, boobs, ass or a full size woman with love handles. These may seem like the ordinary likes of any man but that would be entirely wrong. Men look for certain attributes, even though they may dabble with women who don’t have those unique attributes, they eventually go for what they like most in a woman.

Dear Maurice,

I need your help. I attended one of your sessions during my girlfriend’s bridal shower and I regret not asking you questions but at the same time I did not want to disclose my issues to my friends.

I was married for 11 years to a very abusive man, however the first 2 years were ok. He never hit me but he verbally put me down for so long that I began to believe that there was something wrong with me. He would take me out only to embarrass me in-front of friends and strangers in social places. He was so nice when it came to the build up to any night but after a while I realised it was just bait for me to suffer later. He constantly told me off in public telling me how un-sexy I was, how I had added too much fat yet I was only a size 12 at 37 years. I know I am beautiful but he had such power over me especially mentally that I was sure I was the problem. That I did not live up to his expectations. It’s like I was the ugliest woman around him.

Anyway after 9 years of this treatment I got the courage to leave him and for a good 3 years I was unable to engage with any man until early last year. I am a single mother with 2 children that are my life. Lucky for me I work and I don’t rely on him. He does his part for his kids and he sees them cause I believe they need to bond with their father despite his torture over the years. My children love their father so I chose not to keep them away from him because that would be punishing them not him. But as for me he is history emotionally.

Last year in March I met this guy who somehow reminded me that I am still an attractive woman. He was such a gentleman yet he is 4 years my junior. Maurice I fell in-love with this guy and I must admit that even my ex was never that loving while trying to pursue me. This guy swept me off my feet completely. My friends were a bit iffy about me dating a younger guy but they also told me that life is too short and you will never know till you try something out. With this new guy in my life it was one treat after another for 10 months, compared to my ex this kind of treatment was out of this World. He literally pulled chairs and the wax as seen on romance movies but something changed when we went to the AG’s and got married. I did not want a flashy wedding because it would remind me of my first marriage which was supposed to be for life, till death do us part.

I know you are thinking she did what after how long. Yes it seems I made another error in judgment. How can a man change so drastically until you don’t even recognise him. We both work but he seems reluctant to share in the bills and do his part and yet he lives in my apartment. When we got married he left his place and moved in with me which at the time I thought was the making of a happy marriage full of bliss, shock on me. I had no idea that he was such a drinker and he flirts around even in my face. Maurice this guy was not acting in this manner for months how can one hide their true character for so long. When courting me he spared no cost to please me and pamper me. He made me feel young and hot again, we went out and danced like mad, the way he held me in public and showed me off to his boys who if I may add have tried hitting on me a couple of times but I have declined their advances. For the last 5 months he has hardly shown me any attention as he did before.

I feel like I have 3 kids in the house. I need a man. He goes out without me and comes home smelling like buzz and sometimes I can smell perfumes on his clothes that I don’t wear. What is going on? What have I gotten myself into? Does he really love me?

Maurice’s reply:

My dear I feel for you especially regarding the verbal abusive that is very damaging to a woman’s self esteem. No woman should go through that. As much as I sympathise with your current situation I must say in my opinion that despite the fact that it’s not always about the time you take to know someone, I believe you rushed into this relationship to fill a void that you had for 3 years.

Humans needs some form of companionship and I guess for you after 3 years of keeping off men you met what I can only describe as a cougar predator. These are men who seek or have a fetish for older sexy women. Your appeal to them is more powerful that any 18 to 24 year old if you get my drift. Why? Because at your age your body is well defined, you are the true definition of a beautiful woman and that turns on their charm and the more street wise they are the more socially equipt they are to sweep you off your feet. I am not saying that younger men can’t sustain a relationship with older women ‘not at all’, all I’m saying is that in your case the probability is, he met you and as a visually enticed man you stimulated his primal instincts and the thought of having you as his woman was equally as mind blowing unfortunately this is usually a mental rush of chemicals of lust in men that are short lived.

The other unfortunate thing is that despite the negative outcome this guy actually finds you hot otherwise he wouldn’t be in your life at all. I believe you hit the nail on the head when you referenced that he was not ‘acting’ in this manner before. The primary here is that he has been ‘acting’ a role in which he feels great to have you, the older sexy hot woman in his arms, it’s a mental stimulus but like I said it is rarely the making of a long term relationship unless you try and change his mind set. You asked if he loves you, well I can tell you that he loves his heightened ego levels, he loves his environment (the relationship setting) but he hasn’t bloomed to be the man you wanted or thought he was. I do not know him to make an accurate profile of his character but one thing is clear, that you have been through the thick and your newest love might be beginning to experience life even in his 30’s.

I am sure a part of you knew that this was trial and error, it’s in us as humans to seek a mate maybe you need to re-think your path and concentrate on your children and enjoy life, take each day has it comes. The answer may not be to dump him but have a heart to heart with him, see how he reacts, and bring out the good in him and try and steer him to understanding your needs and for you to acknowledge that as a younger man he will need time to adjust to a bit of crash course growing up.

If he stays and in time you notice some effort in his behaviour then you are on the right path. If he leaves then you have saved yourself years of efforts that bear no fruit.

– Maurice

Chocolate Lust

It has untold and incredible powers and can make you its slave and really arouse your passion and desires. It possess the ability to lift our spirits like nothing else, it can inflame sexual passions within us, cause our senses to be heightened, make us more happy and content, give us the ability fly high and to touch the sky. What else can make life content and satisfying, the way that devouring chocolate can?


Chocolate is loved by one and all because of the following reasons. You are never too young or too old for chocolate. People of every age relish it. It is very easy to get and you can have it all through out the year. You can ask a stranger for chocolate without getting your face slapped. You can make chocolate last as long as you want it to. You can offer chocolate to someone who is sad and make him or her happy again. You can bring back the smile on a persons face by offering chocolate. You can have chocolate on top of your desk during working hours without upsetting your colleagues. You can have as many kinds of chocolate as you can handle.

With chocolate size doesn’t matter. It’s all good! Chocolate is considered as the most powerful aphrodisiacs. It induces the wildest behavior and elevates your passion and desire. It provides the best prelude to passionate, romantic and sensuous lovemaking. Here are a few ways you can enjoy chocolate in the heat of passion. Pour melted chocolate on your partner’s body and lick it off slowly. I always recommend the ‘dotted line’, all you do is apply chocolate dots from head to toe or to be more precise ‘neck to toe’ so that the dots look like a ‘Y’ shape. Thereafter work your way up or down wherever you want to start your journey of sensual passion just be assured it can spark very intense sensations. Share chocolate or chocolate ice cream after love making. Great pillow talk, share fresh strawberries dipped in chocolate after making love. Share an intimate moment in the nude together with the classic solid milk chocolate bar or the bar of your choice.

Does it have to be chocolate, many will ask, and the answer is ‘no’, it can be any food that you both enjoy and have fun with it, create your own games using your bodies as the platform. From there anything is possible, this form of play can arouse people and many have been surprised by the long term effects of introducing ‘food’ into their time of passion. NEVER hold back from exploring new territory, it’s fun and the unknown can stimulate one’s erotic nature so why not, go for it.

 – Maurice

Without going into the complex web of relationships, I must share that the saddest thing is we will all be hurt once or twice or even have countless encounters with hurtful moments.

Those you LOVE ‘care for unconditionally’ will not always see it till it’s too late, yet those who care less about their partners seem to get the attention you seek; which makes you wonder is life not just unfair? Hence why I believe “good intentions never win”

As a man I am expected to care for and protect my woman no-matter what. This I should dedicate to doing every single day, but it takes waking up every day and looking into the mirror and thanking God for having such a wonderful woman. That said, both men and women will find that person who they can give their all to, but unfortunately they might never get the same back. So here comes the hurt; you then try your best to step up your game to show them over and over and over again but nothing comes of it… they don’t see that you could give up so much for them… that you could sacrifice your life for them to live on if it came to that.

Then one day you muster the courage to let them go and hurt for some time. Yes. Broken hearts do mend but the mind never forgets the memories of all those good times, and as you flick through your album of memories you ask God if that day could just be granted one more time just to share a moment to go back in time and embrace what you once called the best days of your life.

Are we losing the value of being sentimental as a society? If we are I honestly don’t want to be part of it.

– Maurice