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Having a threesome helped our marriage

August 24, 2011 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

I am a 42 year old woman with a 48 year old hubby. We have been married for 17 years almost 18 and yes we have had our ups and downs like any other marriage but by the time my hubby was 42 his sexual hunger had declined, at first I thought he had another but later found out it was a physical thing on his part after he visited a clinic. He just could not get it up and it was frustrating for both of us but selfishly I was only thinking of my needs which to be honest needed some urgent attention. Anyway I was reading up on how to improve a man’s erection and many of the sites were just selling products that I was not ready to try out and how would I even bring up the topic of him swallowing some random pills. Saying that though I one day went up to my him and just let it out, I had found the answer to our problem though I could not believe I was going to propose it, I asked him if he was open to me hiring a stripper to give us a private dance at the privacy of our home. Shockingly he declined the offer stating we were too old to start exploring such adolescent behaviour but I was not ready to take no for an answer so I just tricked him with a notion of a romantic dinner and I gave our house help an off that night.

He was out till 7pm, when he got home I served him and he served me, he always had that gentleman touch, I guess that’s the reason why I still Love him, anyway after the meal my ‘q’ was “baby what would you want for dessert” at the precise moment I unveiled what I was wearing under my ‘normal’ dress and it was a very dark red bikini outfit and his eyes just opened up… for a minute I thought he was going to have a heart attack and to add to the blend a very hot stripper who I had personally picked from a line up ‘somewhere’ appeared and gave me a lap dance.

My hubby to describe it was simply gob smacked he did not utter a word he just sat there watching as this hot young girl ‘if I may really stress she was hot’ played around with me touching me in places I never knew would get me to scream (at my age). At this point the stripper had lured me to the sitting room, hubby was still sat at the dining area which was a few metres away still not saying anything but I could see a change in his eyes, he was getting turned on, the stripper then majestically cat walked towards him and took his hand and brought him closer and as he watched she, in her own sexy way, whispered “join us”. My hubby was a bit shy but he came over and she told him to kiss me then she also kissed me and that went on for about 15 minutes and before you knew it I was naked and so was my hubby. Maurice he had the most solid hard-on I had ever witnessed him have unless it had been so long I had forgotten his manhood abilities. We had what I can call the most thrilling, exciting, exhilarating experience ever, I could literally feel my heart and his beating and the rush was overwhelming, I even had what I can only say were multiple orgasms. I mean no amount of words can describe that night.

My question to you is, it has now been 2 months since that night and for some reason we want to experience it again, is it wise, and is it addictive to the point where one of us will not be able to sexually function without it? We equally want it and I’m not at all threatened by having a stranger in our home because I had the last stripper tested before she came over we went together and I paid for the full package. The other thing is that I noticed that my hubby was turned on more when the stripper played with me and as a woman even though it was my idea it was a great feeling to know that she was not the main attraction on the night. Is this my husband’s fantasy that has come to reality after all these years? If it is I’m fine with it because our sex life has improved immensely.

Maurice’s reply:

I must admit your story makes feel there is hope for so many relationships out there, they just need to open up to the endless possibilities of igniting their connection in one way or another. I want you to know that you are a very special woman I say this because you were willing to explore unknown domains of sexuality in ways that unfortunately most of society would regard as immoral as if morals are the foundation of our society today!

Considering your sex life was re-ignited by this experience I personally do not see a problem with the occasional naughty night with a stripper. I can only caution that ‘yes’ it can be addictive and became a fundamental requirement to stimulate you and your husband which is not bad until one of you feels that without the stripper there’s no fire and that can create a rift between you. However to add to your visually induced stimulus I recommend that you acquire adult themed videos that you can now and again pop into the DvD and trust me most of the time you will only manage to watch 10 minutes if that before you get aroused and you turn on each other with that lust filled atmosphere. It’s like a room engulfed by gas then you light a match! With your husband having this fetish for girl on girl action a good DvD will soon replace the need for an actual third party to be present, it will also be easier on your pocket, sex is great but lets limit your expense to gain satisfactory sexual desires.

Would you say that your communication has improved since your erotic night?

She replied: Maurice it has tremendously

Maurice’s reply:

That’s super. Now you can find out more about one another I wouldn’t be surprised that your husband for instance has other desires, other fetishes that he hasn’t told you about.

She replied:

Maurice I hope one of his desires is to take me up the rear, it sounds weird for a woman my age but I’m feeling so sexually liberated that I’m willing to explore many things some I can’t even tell you right now maybe later.

Maurice’s reply:

Hold your horses there my dear. Give your husband time to digest the numerous sexual acts you have embarked on already unless you have already hinted to him! If you do experiment ‘taking it from behind’ make sure you have a lot of lubrication also make sure that you take your time to ‘de-virgin’ that new area just as you did your vagina. For some women the best position is missionary but with your legs pulled back as close to your head as possible (maintaining comfort though) or doggy style at the edge of your bed with him standing and your body from the waist tilted forward and your ass spread out. Last but not least your hubby will most probably love the new tight feel, especially if his penis has a good sized girth that you feel at entry. To start with your hubby must thrust slowly, if anything you should at ‘ever inch’ tell him how you are feeling so that you establish a comfortable thrust phase and rhythm. This will increase the sensations that may lead to orgasm. Many women have achieved the great ‘O’ from anal sex some have even squirted due to the penis head girth rubbing the G-Spot.

I do hope you continue to explore your sexuality and maintain a healthy communication link and do keep me posted it has been a pleasure to share with you.

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Don’t hate on him just because he gets laid often

August 24, 2011 by MauriceTherapy

A very curious girl in-boxed me and asked…. how is it that a man can claim to have ‘dated’ or should we say had flings with over 1,000 women in his life time and the question was…. is this possible? ….well its simple….

Take a guy who is now 30 years old, if he started seeing girls at 15 years… well that’s 15 years of experience, let’s now say he had flings with an average of 10 girls a month for 15 years… the math is simple 15 years x 12 months x 10 girls…… work it out, so  ‘no’ he is not bragging it’s so ‘do-able it hurts’.

The unfortunate thing is that this kind of guy is considered as the player type ‘why because he has had a string of girls that ‘exceed’ the limit of morality, commitment, society’s rules. Who sets these guide lines? Who follows them to the ‘T’?

It’s like the Mututho Law!!! Idiotic…. Who are we kidding, majority who will judge this guy unfairly will be those women who perhaps recall a time they were played so they categories this guy as the same breed.

Before you jump into conclusions and try and analyse how he managed to ‘date’ all these girls let me state before you do that ‘they were not commercial girls’. He met them in clubs, bars;  social arenas offer a mix of characters, there are those girls who are game for anything and there are those hoping to meet ‘Mr Right’.

This guy’s approach or strategy is simple and not time wasting. When he visits a social place he plays the numbers game, hopping from one girl to the next over the hours spent at this social place. The beauty of it is that with every flirt, with every hint of his intentions to ‘bed’ someone that night he then leaves the choice to the girls he has shared a chat with. So what do we have here, we have multiple girls who have all encountered this guy, all with a lingering thought of whatever flirty comment he implanted in their mind in the eventuality that one girl will be curious enough to want to know more about this ‘odd’ elusive guy. She will want to unveil the mystery behind this guy. There you have it, she has taken the bait, she’s hooked and he reels her in. Curiosity always killed the cat if you get my drift!

Now that he has a sure ‘shag’ for the night and he has from the beginning made it very clear that he only seeks a no strings attached affair and the girl is game its a mutual consent with no deception tactics involved.

It gets interesting though because during that evening he has at least chatted up 5 girls or more, numbers were probably exchanged whether they lead anywhere is anyone’s guess. However he has create an opportunity for curiosity to develop with each girl he spoke to meaning a marinating period has been achieved and in many cases a few of those who declined his offer on the night will one day say “what the heck at least the dude had balls to approach me and imply he wants to do me”, and by that time one of the social reasons that makes this girl call the guy is because her usual subtle approach guy (the guy who is always so sweet at first while courting) has disappointed her for far too many times so she tries something different knowing very well it could be the best thing or the worst mistake. So she gambles.

If we go back to the core reason for this article you will find that if this guy socialises just 2 weekends per month, Friday and Saturday, that’s 20 girls per month, and these are girls he meets in social places. I have not listed the ones he meets at his local kiosk for morning bread, local supermarket, friend’s place maybe a house party, family functions, weddings he may attend. Can you see how the odd just get better for him.

I will state this for a fact considering this guy does not believe in deception tactics to bed women. He is upfront with his intentions ‘AT ALL TIMES’ with women and he leaves it to the women to decide. This clearly shows that the day this guy decides his days of multiple women are done, the woman he decides to exclusively date or marry you can be assured that his commitment level will hold far more weight and truth then the usual sweet guy approach which is most of the time full of ‘sweet nothings’ that only lead to a hurting woman once he gets what he wants. The ‘sweet nothings guy’ is the player not the guy who has been with 1,000+ women by the time he’s 30. Judge him or not, at least he has the balls to spell out his intentions instead of feeding women with false hope.

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Failed to Satisfy

August 15, 2011 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

I don’t know how you can help but I am in a dark lonely place and I need to get out of this place but I don’t know how. I have been married for 19 years, got wed when we were both 18 years old. I make a very good living with my business, it was a blessing in my youthful years, we live in a upper class estate and I give my family everything they need even though my wife too works I provide everything as I want to do so.

My problem is that for the last 7 years if I approximate I am sure that my wife fakes her orgasms and at first I didn’t really care as long as I got my share of pleasure but it started to affect me and instead of confronting the issue with her I opted to date other women who would constantly praise me through my ability to pamper them with gifts, residential bills, holidays out of the country and even cars. I must admit that these women who are five in number have over the years really boosted my ego even when at home things were not so good I always had these women to make me feel like a man. Sooner or later I realised that I was in the same predicament with a few of the women, not satisfying them in bed although my urge for sex was higher with them than with my wife. She is not aware of my ‘playing away’ antics and if she is she is doing a good job of pretending because we still are intimate but once only in awhile when we are both under the influence of alcohol. I feel like my playing away ways have now become an addiction and seeking praise from random women who I seem to attract is the order of my life. I love my wife and honestly if she has also been cheating on me I deserve it but can I revive our marriage, our communication, our love?

Maurice’s reply:

First things first let’s get it out of the way that there is no excuse for cheating, however that said, there is a male driving force that has to be satisfied at all costs, that primal instinct to mate. This is the male thirst for the opposite sex and it involves ‘ego boosting’ through soothing words from a woman and especially in your case with the thoughts of you not being man enough in the bedroom must be hard. Please understand that I am not at all supporting your cheating option but confirming that for men the ‘ego’ is one area that constantly needs to be soothed with words from a woman to affirm your manhood. Does it improve your bedroom skills? The answer is ‘no it does not’ but as long as a man’s ego is elevated by whatever influence he will do his best to return to the source that provides this manhood feeling, it’s a form of positive appraisal and is key to a man’s mental stability in a relationship.

Old habits die hard and there is no particular formula that will give this situation a quick fix. I recommend that you do not tell your wife about the affairs in case you were planning to do so. I do not see that as a remedy. They say ‘the truth will set you free’ however this situation will mostly likely set your marriage ablaze and that we need to avoid otherwise you will not salvage your relationship. There may come a time when if you accomplish to regain your communication and candid talk between you, you can tell her about your indiscretions but for now we are not yet there and it might not be an option only time as I mentor both of you will tell.

I want us to meet so that we can have a one on one and address the a few issues and I will also be able to evaluate your honesty based on my questions on the day we meet. In short why embark on a journey to rekindle your love with you wife if during the process your side kicks will still be part of your life, I’m not judging you I’m only stating a possibility. I have dealt with couples and not all have 100% solid intentions to renew their love. Considering you have had multiple affairs I can not take your word on this particular key element so I need for you to get yourself tested for any STDs. If you are willing to do so then I am able to monitor over a period of time and assist in improving your current marriage status. Are you willing to get tested?

He replied: Yes I am willing to do anything to regain my bond with my wife like we once had.

Maurice’s reply:

Then I believe we are on the right path. Once we know your STD status it will determine the direction to take but first one step at a time. I look forward to meeting you, please do call me so we can arrange a suitable date to meet.

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Why men want to get bigger downstairs!

August 11, 2011 by MauriceTherapy

These days the pressures of sexual life are so immense that men have resorted to penis enhancement products ‘hoping’ to perform better.  Many men who engage in penis enlargement programs have become so obsessed with adding extra inches that they tend to forget just how important the girth of the penis is, it is extremely important in my opinion. There are exercises that men can perform at least twice a week to keep their penis healthy.

A large number of men that want to improve this part of their anatomy have turned to penis pump, penis enlargement exercise programs, male enhancement pills, and in some cases even surgical procedure. All in the name of pleasing women and becoming the Kings in the bedroom, even after achieving a few inches many still fail to satisfy women for one reason or another. It is also important to note that some of these products have side effects that may lead to penal problems. However there are those that have positive results but these results take a minimum of up to 9 months or more for your partner to actually feel a difference once she is penetrated.

These men who indulge in penis enlargement tend to think that the length of their penis is far more important than its girth (thickness) but what they fail to realise is that it takes a mixture of personal skill and interest in learning a woman’s body to fully satisfy her. A “healthy penis” is one that has both adequate length and girth. You’re probably wondering why the girth of a man’s penis is so important when it comes to satisfying a woman’s sexual needs.

There are two main pleasure zones of a woman stimulated by penis intercourse; one is located at entrance of the vagina and the other about 2 to 3 inches in the vagina on the top end where you find the G-Spot. These vagina areas are very sensitive and rich in nerve endings that can induce an orgasm or squirting. A man with a long thin penis simply goes in and out during intercourse and fails to fully stimulate the areas that provide a woman with the sensations of pleasure. However, men with thick penises expand the vaginal entry tissue and stimulate a larger number of nerve endings.

The clitoris is the central point of sexual pleasure for many women. It has one purpose and one purpose only and that is to provide a woman with pleasure during the act of sex, this can be through penetration, licking or sucking. A thin penis most likely won’t rub up against the clitoris and bring out those moans of sexual pleasure that men love to hear. Don’t worry all hope is not lost for thin penis barriers, there are certain sexual positions that make it possible to brush up against the clitoris during sex but it requires some skill and effort on the man’s part.

All in all the above only applies to women who react to intercourse and can easily gain pleasure in form of a orgasm or squirting if the penis is used to push the right buttons. It also does not mean that a short penis cannot satisfy a woman, that’s a myth. Many studies show that girth stimulates the vagina walls in different ways depending on the sensitivity of the woman’s vagina. A man with a lot of girth, compared to length, will most likely induce sensations by his penis spreading the vagina walls and the ‘in and out’ thrusting will create friction that will excite the woman increasing the possibility of satisfaction.

However it is important to note that women are different, with a variety of pleasure zones, you may enhance yourself and not deliver after all that effort and money, it’s easier to communicate and find out what ‘really’ gets her ticking!

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Having an older married man’s child

August 11, 2011 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

I have just turned 19, with an almost one year old baby girl.

I met my baby daddy at a party and we hit it off. He was straight up and told me he was not looking for a serious relationship because he was already married with kids. He is 22 years my senior and I love him so much. I knew what I was getting into but I expected him to be there for me whenever I need him. I live with my folks and it has caused problems between my parents. My mum is not pleased as you can imagine and my father blames me. Mum has tried to convince dad to seek legal action but dad has declined that option. He says when I turned 18 I became an adult and since I have always fought him about his strictness under his roof I should take responsibility and stop blaming a married man. I know in the past I have many times threatened to leave home to gain my freedom when I became 18 but I did not expect my own father to turn his back on me. Dad has made it clear that he will not confront my baby daddy nor does he want anything to do with the man I love, because he will not be responsible for destroying another man’s marriage but if I insist I can do it alone. My dad also told me that I should be ashamed of myself for dating a man who is his junior by 5 years that really hurt me. I was brought up by dad and mum with the mentality that love is unconditional regardless of race or age. Mum supports me but she will not go against my dad’s final word. I do not know what to do. My parents are supporting my baby and dad loves his grand daughter, he is always worrying about her, for that I love him despite our disagreements. Maurice my life has be turned upside down I had plans to further my studies in the States and many other ambitions but now they are on hold. I also want my daughter to know her father. Baby daddy’s position in all this is that he will only support me the much he can if I agree to sign a document stating that I will never ask for more than what we agree and that his family should never know about us. He is offering me fifty thousand per month until our daughter is 18. He says he will help me plan for our baby’s future through a savings scheme. I am confused but I feel like taking his offer. But will our love die with this mess.

Maurice’s reply:

I have tried to evaluate your matter without being too parent-ish. But I must start by pointing out that our parents apply certain boundaries to limit us from situations that may affect our life in a negative way. Parents are our defense system and we will undoubtedly not conform to every boundary but they do care about our well being. I believe your dad is saying “I told you so” in his own fatherly way. Now what is important at this stage? The answer is obvious, your baby’s future. I’m happy that your parents are fully supportive in regards to the care of your baby. You did not mention that you are currently working so I’m assuming you are fully reliant on your parents. If you are under their roof then your dreams are not at all lost. You can still further your studies and became independent. I’m sure your parents will help you to achieve your goals as they tend to your child’s growth. Focus on that first and schedule when you will resume studies, set yourself a time table with deadlines. This will guide you in monitoring your level of achievements and also formulate a time table that allows for you and your child to bond. I do not want to advise on the legal channels you can take that you can receive by visiting an advocate or institution that deals with family legal cases. Financial assistance from baby daddy will help but if you pursue it be ready to go to court and sometimes it can drag for months or years but let me not speculate on an area that is not of my expertise, seek guidance from professionals in that sector. What I will tell you, is despite your love for your baby daddy please doesn’t hope for an ending where you and him are happily together under one roof as a family. That is extremely unlikely, in other words the odds are very much against you. You unfortunately were a victim of an older man’s lust to score points by dating a younger woman.

Concentrate on caring and loving your daughter and please mend bridges with your dad; I believe with wisdom, and life’s lessons, he foresees eventualities that he may not want you to experience hence why he has decided to take care of you without flaring up the unknown. My closing statement is, you were blessed with a child and all you can do is love your child everyday and give your child the best life has to offer relying only on your ability and efforts once you are out of your parent’s home.

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Married to my cousin

August 10, 2011 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

When I was 21 I left home because of a man and I never wanted my parents to know him or meet him. Why, because no one is good enough for my parents. It’s just the way they are. That was 8 years ago. I keep in-touch with mum but Dad disowned me completely. For years, mum tried to get me back home to visit but I always declined until she got used to us communicating via phone or sometimes email. My parents are well to do people and so the man I fell for, who is 7 years my senior, would have never met their approval for many reasons of which I am fearful to tell you as I write this letter to you. Maurice my man is sweet and very caring just the way you normally describe the caring factor in your articles. We have 3 kids and we love them to bits.

We are comfortable but I’m not at all living the luxury live I had at home. Thankfully mum made sure I finished my studies and I eventually became independent. We both work and we give our children the most attention that we can. If anything weekends are just for family. My man has he’s boys but they are on the back burner that’s how considerate he is. I normally force him to take a break from us to spend time with his peers and do their thing. I think I have managed to create a balanced live where no one feels trapped by the other. Maurice my man is my first love and he is the only man I have ever dated. Due to the family rift we moved away and we live in a different town from our parents. According to his parents he has a come we stay woman and yet we are married. This is so because we are related by blood. Maurice I fell for my cousin big time, we used to just joke about flirting and only if we were not related we would date but then one night we were out of town and shared the same room, we had done so many times, but this particular night we shared a lot of heart to heart and realized we had so much in common and we kissed. That was it, we chose to move away and the rest is history. I need you to tell me how to connect with my family because I miss them, I want my kids to know their grand parents and other family members but I know their reaction will be very negative; neither will anyone in the extended family support our actions. I personally don’t feel ashamed; we have lived a life of nothing but love and happiness. We have taken care of our downs together which has really helped us stay so close. I think I read somewhere that you don’t advocate for people to share their problems with friends or third parties, well I have never so your theory has some merit. Who do I approach first, how do I begin to explain that I am married to my cousin?

Maurice’s reply:

Only if it wasn’t for your relation dilemma you would be the nearest to the perfect couple. From your letter it seems you have shut yourself off from your families for a long time. I understand your need to acquire lost time with your family. However you must be prepared to be rejected and as per African traditions you have broken quite a few and your situation is not rare but it’s not always easy for cultured families to accept your incest practice. Despite your near perfect life with your man your family will most likely only see it in the light of what was initially committed which was incest. There’s no easy fix here. You need to meet you mum, if indeed you are sure you want to go ahead with this, there’s no turning back once you embark on this journey. Let your mum’s judgment dictate the path, 8 years is a long time and the family social dynamics have for sure changed and only your mum is your inside source. Involving other family members unless your mum advises so will be futile.

This is what I suggest. Travel back to your home town and book into a hotel and from there you can start a 2 day talk with your mum. The first day will be your testimony and it will give your mum amble time to absorb the news. By the second day I’m sure she’ll have thought it through and she will advise you further. Remember to give her details of how it all happen, show her pictures of her grand children and let her see it in your eyes that life has been good to you. That you have a loving happy family unit and even though it’s not the conventional family unit ‘society would expect’ you would have it no other way. If you are not convinced and I know you are then you can’t convince anyone else. Another thing, if you are a religious person you may also, in cahoots with your mum, seek guidance from a pastor or priest. Many families always have a link with their local church pastors or priests so that is an avenue to consider to have a man of the clothe aid in bringing harmony between you and your family. I wish you a peaceful transition if you chose to engage your family and if you would please keep me in the loop. I hope my opinion leads you to a fruitful path.

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Foreplay

August 10, 2011 by MauriceTherapy

Foreplay is an important part of a woman’s sex life. While men might enjoy it too, it tends to be the woman who needs the pre-play effects to really get her in the mood. We all enjoy a quickie now and then, but it’s that prolonged, teasing foreplay that really gets us in the mood and anticipating what is to come.

Most women know how important foreplay is, yet so often men just don’t seem to get it. Did someone misplace the memo? No matter how often you say it, or hint at it they just don’t get it! So many women give up on the experience of intoxicating pleasures, they just take what they get and try to enjoy it, but yet they know and feel that something is missing. Am I right?

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be like that. Here are some ideas.

Men, make it part of the whole evening, or the whole day. If you are going out for dinner or a movie, try touching her, flirting with her and treating her like your naughty irresistible sexy vixen throughout the evening. Hold her hand, rub your hand along her thigh, nibble her ear, whisper to her how much you want her. Those little affectionate attentions will add up as the evening goes along, and make her feel sexy and wanted, which should always be the case. Spare a few minutes in the day to send her erotic messages. Send her a text, an email, leave her a little note, Google map her and pretend you can see her naked in her office; GET CREATIVE! Tell her you want her to touch herself during an office meeting, tell her you can taste her tell her to gently rub her phone against her thigh and sexy pictures, and text you the photo. While she might not actually do all this, it’s the thought that you put in her mind that will work for you. Women love erotic suggestive messages that let her know you are thinking of and lusting for her.

Compliments, compliments, compliments are encouraged. But they must be sincere! Do you like how she looks? Have you noticed a new look? Then tell her. While out and you happened to be walking behind her maybe climbing some stairs and those jeans fit her so tightly bringing out her luscious booty or she’s wearing a little dress and from that angle behind her you can just about see as her bottom sways, from left to right, curves in all the right places! So tell her how succulent she looks. She will like to hear that her look turns you on inducing x-rated thoughts, how she sounds, how she feels. I know you hear me! Get sensual in the car; at home use every available room and take her in your arms. When you kiss her, really kiss her. Not just a peck, but with passion, slow kiss, ask her how she likes it, ask her if she likes her upper or lower lip sucked. Put your heart and your last ounce of lust into it!

Ladies, tell him what you like. Do you like to be teased? Do you like to be licked from one end to the other? Go on tell him. Ask him to do it, in your own sexy voice command him to do it. Asking your partner is okay, it’s part of the play, and you may be surprised at how eager he is to fulfill your desires. Taking instruction from a sexy voice can be a massive turn on for a man. Show him where to explore. Guide his hand, his mouth, and any other parts! Show him how you like to be touched, caressed. Whisper to him when to slow down, when to increase momentum; take him on a journey to a land known to the two of you. When you get there you will both know without asking!!!

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Desires

August 10, 2011 by MauriceTherapy

When it comes to bedroom matters or should I say sex humanity has over centuries evolved and a variety of desires have been derived from the need to explore new sensations and thrills. I believe they call it ‘eating the forbidden fruit’ but I thought as kids we were all told how fruits are good for our health so I’m sure by adulthood we may have an addiction to sweet fruit in which ever form they come!

The desires I speak are better defined as fetishes. A fetish is a personal liking for a certain sexual act or attribute. In many cases fetishes do not require intercourse as we know it. I know some men may ask ‘no intercourse’ then what’s the point? Well let me tell you that men take their manhood tool too seriously and should try out other forms of sexual acts that may achieve orgasmic results that conventional sex cannot.

Let’s look at a few fetishes; A couple that love to have sex either being watched or putting themselves in a situation where they could be seen by a snoopy neighbour. Having sex at the window over looking other homes or at a balcony, for many people this is a major turn on and a rush of sensations stimulated mentally or visually create a very electric sexual session. The phrase ‘back seat of my jeep’ was not a sales pitch for a car dealership it implies and induces mentally visions of having sex on the back seat of a car.

Another fetish is where you have a couple who love to play with food, you name it they have tried it. They get creative with chocolate, ice cream, whipped cream and strawberries, cake with loads of cream to smear on parts of their bodies that are most sensitive. This form of play is also very vital when you want to set the mood, get the burners warming up and get the blood rushing in all the right places especially for men. It’s great and exciting 4-play and once the heat is right the sexual session can be overwhelming and satisfying for both parties.

The sense of touch in the right places can stimulate a ‘high’ achieving an awesome turn-on, it is advisable to always ask your partner where they love to be touched or licked and how they like it. Once you understand your partner’s most sensitive parts of the body then you can arouse sensations that will make them want to ride the ultimate rollercoaster if you get my drift!

Fetishes are not only common with couples. Individuals who make it a point to self arouse are actually doing themselves a big favour by learning and experiencing their most erotic pleasures in the comfort of their own company. This over a period of time links their mental receptors with the areas they touch (play with) to elevate their sexual self awareness. When they have a partner they know exactly what does it for them, what takes them to cloud nine and it decreases and eventually eliminates any inhibition they may have. So what I am saying is practise does make perfect in this scenario.

When it comes to attributes in regards to fetishes especially with men you will find men who love feet, boobs, ass or a full size woman with love handles. These may seem like the ordinary likes of any man but that would be entirely wrong. Men look for certain attributes, even though they may dabble with women who don’t have those unique attributes, they eventually go for what they like most in a woman.

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Married Twice, and Unhappy!

August 3, 2011 by MauriceTherapy

Dear Maurice,

I need your help. I attended one of your sessions during my girlfriend’s bridal shower and I regret not asking you questions but at the same time I did not want to disclose my issues to my friends.

I was married for 11 years to a very abusive man, however the first 2 years were ok. He never hit me but he verbally put me down for so long that I began to believe that there was something wrong with me. He would take me out only to embarrass me in-front of friends and strangers in social places. He was so nice when it came to the build up to any night but after a while I realised it was just bait for me to suffer later. He constantly told me off in public telling me how un-sexy I was, how I had added too much fat yet I was only a size 12 at 37 years. I know I am beautiful but he had such power over me especially mentally that I was sure I was the problem. That I did not live up to his expectations. It’s like I was the ugliest woman around him.

Anyway after 9 years of this treatment I got the courage to leave him and for a good 3 years I was unable to engage with any man until early last year. I am a single mother with 2 children that are my life. Lucky for me I work and I don’t rely on him. He does his part for his kids and he sees them cause I believe they need to bond with their father despite his torture over the years. My children love their father so I chose not to keep them away from him because that would be punishing them not him. But as for me he is history emotionally.

Last year in March I met this guy who somehow reminded me that I am still an attractive woman. He was such a gentleman yet he is 4 years my junior. Maurice I fell in-love with this guy and I must admit that even my ex was never that loving while trying to pursue me. This guy swept me off my feet completely. My friends were a bit iffy about me dating a younger guy but they also told me that life is too short and you will never know till you try something out. With this new guy in my life it was one treat after another for 10 months, compared to my ex this kind of treatment was out of this World. He literally pulled chairs and the wax as seen on romance movies but something changed when we went to the AG’s and got married. I did not want a flashy wedding because it would remind me of my first marriage which was supposed to be for life, till death do us part.

I know you are thinking she did what after how long. Yes it seems I made another error in judgment. How can a man change so drastically until you don’t even recognise him. We both work but he seems reluctant to share in the bills and do his part and yet he lives in my apartment. When we got married he left his place and moved in with me which at the time I thought was the making of a happy marriage full of bliss, shock on me. I had no idea that he was such a drinker and he flirts around even in my face. Maurice this guy was not acting in this manner for months how can one hide their true character for so long. When courting me he spared no cost to please me and pamper me. He made me feel young and hot again, we went out and danced like mad, the way he held me in public and showed me off to his boys who if I may add have tried hitting on me a couple of times but I have declined their advances. For the last 5 months he has hardly shown me any attention as he did before.

I feel like I have 3 kids in the house. I need a man. He goes out without me and comes home smelling like buzz and sometimes I can smell perfumes on his clothes that I don’t wear. What is going on? What have I gotten myself into? Does he really love me?

Maurice’s reply:

My dear I feel for you especially regarding the verbal abusive that is very damaging to a woman’s self esteem. No woman should go through that. As much as I sympathise with your current situation I must say in my opinion that despite the fact that it’s not always about the time you take to know someone, I believe you rushed into this relationship to fill a void that you had for 3 years.

Humans needs some form of companionship and I guess for you after 3 years of keeping off men you met what I can only describe as a cougar predator. These are men who seek or have a fetish for older sexy women. Your appeal to them is more powerful that any 18 to 24 year old if you get my drift. Why? Because at your age your body is well defined, you are the true definition of a beautiful woman and that turns on their charm and the more street wise they are the more socially equipt they are to sweep you off your feet. I am not saying that younger men can’t sustain a relationship with older women ‘not at all’, all I’m saying is that in your case the probability is, he met you and as a visually enticed man you stimulated his primal instincts and the thought of having you as his woman was equally as mind blowing unfortunately this is usually a mental rush of chemicals of lust in men that are short lived.

The other unfortunate thing is that despite the negative outcome this guy actually finds you hot otherwise he wouldn’t be in your life at all. I believe you hit the nail on the head when you referenced that he was not ‘acting’ in this manner before. The primary here is that he has been ‘acting’ a role in which he feels great to have you, the older sexy hot woman in his arms, it’s a mental stimulus but like I said it is rarely the making of a long term relationship unless you try and change his mind set. You asked if he loves you, well I can tell you that he loves his heightened ego levels, he loves his environment (the relationship setting) but he hasn’t bloomed to be the man you wanted or thought he was. I do not know him to make an accurate profile of his character but one thing is clear, that you have been through the thick and your newest love might be beginning to experience life even in his 30’s.

I am sure a part of you knew that this was trial and error, it’s in us as humans to seek a mate maybe you need to re-think your path and concentrate on your children and enjoy life, take each day has it comes. The answer may not be to dump him but have a heart to heart with him, see how he reacts, and bring out the good in him and try and steer him to understanding your needs and for you to acknowledge that as a younger man he will need time to adjust to a bit of crash course growing up.

If he stays and in time you notice some effort in his behaviour then you are on the right path. If he leaves then you have saved yourself years of efforts that bear no fruit.

– Maurice

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Chocolate Lust

August 2, 2011 by MauriceTherapy

It has untold and incredible powers and can make you its slave and really arouse your passion and desires. It possess the ability to lift our spirits like nothing else, it can inflame sexual passions within us, cause our senses to be heightened, make us more happy and content, give us the ability fly high and to touch the sky. What else can make life content and satisfying, the way that devouring chocolate can?


Chocolate is loved by one and all because of the following reasons. You are never too young or too old for chocolate. People of every age relish it. It is very easy to get and you can have it all through out the year. You can ask a stranger for chocolate without getting your face slapped. You can make chocolate last as long as you want it to. You can offer chocolate to someone who is sad and make him or her happy again. You can bring back the smile on a persons face by offering chocolate. You can have chocolate on top of your desk during working hours without upsetting your colleagues. You can have as many kinds of chocolate as you can handle.

With chocolate size doesn’t matter. It’s all good! Chocolate is considered as the most powerful aphrodisiacs. It induces the wildest behavior and elevates your passion and desire. It provides the best prelude to passionate, romantic and sensuous lovemaking. Here are a few ways you can enjoy chocolate in the heat of passion. Pour melted chocolate on your partner’s body and lick it off slowly. I always recommend the ‘dotted line’, all you do is apply chocolate dots from head to toe or to be more precise ‘neck to toe’ so that the dots look like a ‘Y’ shape. Thereafter work your way up or down wherever you want to start your journey of sensual passion just be assured it can spark very intense sensations. Share chocolate or chocolate ice cream after love making. Great pillow talk, share fresh strawberries dipped in chocolate after making love. Share an intimate moment in the nude together with the classic solid milk chocolate bar or the bar of your choice.

Does it have to be chocolate, many will ask, and the answer is ‘no’, it can be any food that you both enjoy and have fun with it, create your own games using your bodies as the platform. From there anything is possible, this form of play can arouse people and many have been surprised by the long term effects of introducing ‘food’ into their time of passion. NEVER hold back from exploring new territory, it’s fun and the unknown can stimulate one’s erotic nature so why not, go for it.

 – Maurice

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