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Dear Maurice,

I am a 42 year old woman with a 48 year old hubby. We have been married for 17 years almost 18 and yes we have had our ups and downs like any other marriage but by the time my hubby was 42 his sexual hunger had declined, at first I thought he had another but later found out it was a physical thing on his part after he visited a clinic. He just could not get it up and it was frustrating for both of us but selfishly I was only thinking of my needs which to be honest needed some urgent attention. Anyway I was reading up on how to improve a man’s erection and many of the sites were just selling products that I was not ready to try out and how would I even bring up the topic of him swallowing some random pills. Saying that though I one day went up to my him and just let it out, I had found the answer to our problem though I could not believe I was going to propose it, I asked him if he was open to me hiring a stripper to give us a private dance at the privacy of our home. Shockingly he declined the offer stating we were too old to start exploring such adolescent behaviour but I was not ready to take no for an answer so I just tricked him with a notion of a romantic dinner and I gave our house help an off that night.

He was out till 7pm, when he got home I served him and he served me, he always had that gentleman touch, I guess that’s the reason why I still Love him, anyway after the meal my ‘q’ was “baby what would you want for dessert” at the precise moment I unveiled what I was wearing under my ‘normal’ dress and it was a very dark red bikini outfit and his eyes just opened up… for a minute I thought he was going to have a heart attack and to add to the blend a very hot stripper who I had personally picked from a line up ‘somewhere’ appeared and gave me a lap dance.

My hubby to describe it was simply gob smacked he did not utter a word he just sat there watching as this hot young girl ‘if I may really stress she was hot’ played around with me touching me in places I never knew would get me to scream (at my age). At this point the stripper had lured me to the sitting room, hubby was still sat at the dining area which was a few metres away still not saying anything but I could see a change in his eyes, he was getting turned on, the stripper then majestically cat walked towards him and took his hand and brought him closer and as he watched she, in her own sexy way, whispered “join us”. My hubby was a bit shy but he came over and she told him to kiss me then she also kissed me and that went on for about 15 minutes and before you knew it I was naked and so was my hubby. Maurice he had the most solid hard-on I had ever witnessed him have unless it had been so long I had forgotten his manhood abilities. We had what I can call the most thrilling, exciting, exhilarating experience ever, I could literally feel my heart and his beating and the rush was overwhelming, I even had what I can only say were multiple orgasms. I mean no amount of words can describe that night.

My question to you is, it has now been 2 months since that night and for some reason we want to experience it again, is it wise, and is it addictive to the point where one of us will not be able to sexually function without it? We equally want it and I’m not at all threatened by having a stranger in our home because I had the last stripper tested before she came over we went together and I paid for the full package. The other thing is that I noticed that my hubby was turned on more when the stripper played with me and as a woman even though it was my idea it was a great feeling to know that she was not the main attraction on the night. Is this my husband’s fantasy that has come to reality after all these years? If it is I’m fine with it because our sex life has improved immensely.

Maurice’s reply:

I must admit your story makes feel there is hope for so many relationships out there, they just need to open up to the endless possibilities of igniting their connection in one way or another. I want you to know that you are a very special woman I say this because you were willing to explore unknown domains of sexuality in ways that unfortunately most of society would regard as immoral as if morals are the foundation of our society today!

Considering your sex life was re-ignited by this experience I personally do not see a problem with the occasional naughty night with a stripper. I can only caution that ‘yes’ it can be addictive and became a fundamental requirement to stimulate you and your husband which is not bad until one of you feels that without the stripper there’s no fire and that can create a rift between you. However to add to your visually induced stimulus I recommend that you acquire adult themed videos that you can now and again pop into the DvD and trust me most of the time you will only manage to watch 10 minutes if that before you get aroused and you turn on each other with that lust filled atmosphere. It’s like a room engulfed by gas then you light a match! With your husband having this fetish for girl on girl action a good DvD will soon replace the need for an actual third party to be present, it will also be easier on your pocket, sex is great but lets limit your expense to gain satisfactory sexual desires.

Would you say that your communication has improved since your erotic night?

She replied: Maurice it has tremendously

Maurice’s reply:

That’s super. Now you can find out more about one another I wouldn’t be surprised that your husband for instance has other desires, other fetishes that he hasn’t told you about.

She replied:

Maurice I hope one of his desires is to take me up the rear, it sounds weird for a woman my age but I’m feeling so sexually liberated that I’m willing to explore many things some I can’t even tell you right now maybe later.

Maurice’s reply:

Hold your horses there my dear. Give your husband time to digest the numerous sexual acts you have embarked on already unless you have already hinted to him! If you do experiment ‘taking it from behind’ make sure you have a lot of lubrication also make sure that you take your time to ‘de-virgin’ that new area just as you did your vagina. For some women the best position is missionary but with your legs pulled back as close to your head as possible (maintaining comfort though) or doggy style at the edge of your bed with him standing and your body from the waist tilted forward and your ass spread out. Last but not least your hubby will most probably love the new tight feel, especially if his penis has a good sized girth that you feel at entry. To start with your hubby must thrust slowly, if anything you should at ‘ever inch’ tell him how you are feeling so that you establish a comfortable thrust phase and rhythm. This will increase the sensations that may lead to orgasm. Many women have achieved the great ‘O’ from anal sex some have even squirted due to the penis head girth rubbing the G-Spot.

I do hope you continue to explore your sexuality and maintain a healthy communication link and do keep me posted it has been a pleasure to share with you.