mauricetherapy

Dear Maurice,

I am 29 years old, married, no kids and I believe I have made the worst choice in my life.

Maurice asks,

Why would you think that?

She replies,

I have always had this dream from when I was a little girl that I would marry that guy who could make all my dreams come true.

Maurice asks,

Are you saying that is not that man you have in your life?

She replies,

That is just it, I do have that man but on the morning of the wedding its like I experienced a flash back of my time with him which has been 2 years and realised that I fell for the comforts. As I walked up towards him, he was smiling as you would at your wedding but he was happy because he knew that he was a great provider and I made him believe that was the core of my happiness. All the pampering and luxuries clouded my true feelings. When I hug him during our photo shoot I felt guilty because I felt nothing for him but I held it together. I don’t even know why I ever told him that I loved him because I never did. Yes, we had awesome times together but that was it. Maurice, I just married the wrong guy and I am confused.

Maurice asks,

When did you get married?

She replies,

We got married 6 weeks ago. Our honeymoon was about him even though I acted as if I enjoyed every moment. For most women a honeymoon in the Maldives would be a dream come true but for me it was a time to reflect. In the 3 weeks away we only had what he considers as sex once and he seemed ok with that, is that even normal, he is 35 and quite athletic. I wanted to get married so badly that I sacrificed what I knew as happiness.

Maurice asks,

What do you mean?

She replies,

I was in a secret relationship for 5 years with a man who did not have much but every time I was with him I felt happy, it was a feeling beyond just mere love, we had a connection, we went through trials together but we were not meant to be.

Maurice asks,

Why were you not meant to be?

She replies,

We came from different social circles and my parents and extended family were totally against any kind of contact with him. It got so bad that my Dad threatened to complicate his life and have him sacked because my Dad did his homework and realised he is golfing buddies with my ex’s boss. My ex is proud and after the threats and belittling from my Dad and family he gave up and closed off from me. He told me that I did little to defend him. What could I do Maurice, I have never confronted my Dad as if I was defying him, I was not brought up to do so. My parents have always steered my siblings and I and those are the unwritten rules.

Maurice replies,

What you are saying is, your husband was the acceptable pedigree of man for your parents. If I may speculate, he must be from a wealthy family with a handsome elite school education, am I right?

She replies,

Yes, you are.

Maurice asks,

My dear you are in a predicament that befalls many women and some consciously accept a life and marriage of convenience and others leave the marriage.

She replies,

I would shame my family, leaving is not an option. Do you think I can train myself to love him?

Maurice replies,

We both know the answer to that. You do not yet have children, the only thing that ties you to him is a certificate and societal expectations. You do have options but only you can make them. I am not going to feed you with false hope because in my experience with your scenario things rarely work out for the better especially for women. I recommend that you seek legal advise on separation considering its only been 6 weeks or you can contend with a marriage of convenience where he will in most cases be happy and content with status quo while you wallow in psychological misery for the rest of your life.

My advise to anyone getting married, go with your heart, defend the one you love and make a stand, people, your parents included will one day respect you for standing up for what you believe is good for you. Family making choices such as who you should marry is wrong in my opinion otherwise they should marry the person not you. When the relationship starts to fall apart many who encouraged the union are never their to help you pick the pieces so be wise and make the right choice that favours you and only you.

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Couple Session

I had earlier mentioned that I wanted to host a couple’s session, all I needed was 10 couples to show interest. Sadly I only have one couple who are interested. Once I have the numbers then we set a date, time and place. Venue will be a hired apartment most likely in Kilimani or Kileleshwa. You can text or whatsapp me 0720229351.

Ladies, you keep telling me that your men should get involved now the ball is in your court. You and your partner should enlist. The session is a platform to exchange views, share experiences and enhance your communication skills. It is not a platform to judge or point fingers.

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Due to public demand I am bringing back the offer of two dvds @ksh1,500. Inclusive of postage. Those outside Nairobi will pay an extra 400bob. Offer ends 30th May 2014.

1) A Guide To The Female G-Spot (featuring squirting)

2) Kamasutra Sexual Positions (sensual love making)

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I want to say ‘hello’ to my readers in Kampala and I hope I will be able to visit in July/August.