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Dear Maurice,

I would appreciate your advice. I am 22, an ‘A’ student and currently still studying as I figure out what I want to do with my life. But my relationship is entirely another matter! I have always liked dating an older girl, my previous girlfriend was 21 and I was 16 . Three years ago I met a woman who is 48 and we have dated ever since. She was married once but divorced 6 years ago. We live together and have done for just over 2 years. My problem is that she is overly possessive, she dislikes my pals and hates me around girls my own age. I do not think I can live under her conditions. How can I make her less stressing?

Maurice asks,

Very interesting dynamic, question, how did you meet? And what keeps you together and thirdly what led you to live with her, what do your parents think?

He replies,

We met at a party, my older brother took me to some party and one thing led to another. She at first gave me a hard time, the whole ‘am too young’ vibe but I persisted and by some luck I got to fuck her. That is when things changed. She began to pursue me ‘guns blazing’, texts every day of how much she missed my dick blah blah blah. It felt good to be told how my dick was much bigger than her ex husband and that I lasted longer than she ever thought possible. She says am cute, and I am equally attracted to her, she has massive boobs and she puts many girls my age to shame. Maurice this woman is FINE. On finding out I was dating an older woman my mum threw me out. Dad had an issue but he did not give me the ultimatums that caused me to leave home. He pays for my education.

Maurice asks,

Do you have much in common in regards to conversation?

He replies,

I believe we do. She has always told me how mature I am but she just hates my other social circle.

Maurice replies,

Let us make one thing clear, my job is not to judge but to give you a practical analysis of your predicament and on that note I must speculate that she caters for you 100% under her roof. She basically caters for your everything is that correct?

He replies,

Yes she does.

Maurice replies,

If you do not mind sharing, can you tell me what she has done for you in way of investment?

He replies,

When we met one of the first things she did was to change my wardrobe and she has consistently kept me fashionable. In May last year she bought me a BMW and it is in my name. The list is endless, she is generous.

Maurice replies,

I hear you, but now my good man, you need to understand the lifestyle dynamic you live in comes with conditions. There is a reason men decline being kept by a woman. Some men have at some point in their life come across a woman who had the financial capacity to willingly take care of them as a trade off for something she craved but those men weighed their options, and though tempting they opted not to subscribe to living conditions that would only be short lived. If you are living under her roof, living off her money then you must abide by her rules or walk away. This is a grown woman with a somewhat set mind mould, there is no changing her perception on how you should behave within her space.

I am curious, when did your problems with her begin?

He replies,

Last year she followed me out of town and caught me red handed with another girl. She really embarrassed me in front of my friends. On the spot, she asked me to make a choice between her and my friends. She gave me 10 minutes as she walked towards her car. I  grabbed my stuff and we left in a convoy. It was a Friday night, it was in Naivasha. We did not even drive home, I followed her into some resort and we spent the weekend there. I thought we were done but clearly she had other plans. I remember she told me as we were fucking that if she ever catches me again we are done. I have been a good boy ever since.

Maurice replies,

I don’t envy you, you have had a taste of good living for the last 3 years. The question is simple, if you want freedom will you muster the will to walk away? It’s a similar choice that young women make when dating much older men. The good life is lustful, its succulent in so many ways, am sure it avails the sexual prowess conditions that keep you shafting her the way you do. My good man, you have a choice to make!

My advice to you, from one man to another. You need to concentrate on your studies and achieve those ultimate grades to secure and steer your own future. She could drop you tomorrow and then what!!!! Make sure she is not your only focus. As for your relationship, keep giving her what she likes (better you than men much older who will fail her between the sheets). In my book every woman deserve a tasty cookie (ok maybe not all). I believe you get my drift. Thank you for sharing your story. I am relieved to know that there is a younger generation of men that represent sexual alphas, I was getting worried!

He replies,

I see your point. Thank you Sir.