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Hi readers,

Just the other week, I had the pleasure of having a one on one session with a delightful woman who was also a superb host. Like with all my sessions, we broke the ice with stimulating conversation that more or less covered all manner of social dynamics that define relationships today. We touched on the fact that matrimony has evolved but not for the better. In relation to men out there, I pointed out that all men will never be equal financially and unfortunately in most cases depending on social circles a man is not defined by his character but by his wallet. As we sipped our wine, setting the mood for what was to come later that night, I asked her the following questions.

1) What is your view on today’s marriage?

Today’s marriage is largely based on what either party has to offer unlike the traditional values of love, trust and loyalty. Women have been conditioned to be children bearers and hence they feel their spouses must in part compensate then for this responsibility. If I must bear you children, then you have to make the effort to ensure I am well taken care of, I drive a decent car, have a monthly allowance and live in a suburb that will not make my friends cringe when I give them directions to my home. Let’s call a spade a spade. Marriage has become a convenience. Examples: For the perks of work, that single man/woman who can’t get a promotion due to his marital status. 2) That son who has been unduly pressured by family and /or friends 3) By reason of age/science standards.

2) What about the guy who earns 100k and is finding it hard to keep up with the demand of women. Who will marry him?

Woe unto the guy who is earning 100k and is dating from the pool of women who are earning more than he is. (Seeing as they are more sane compared to the “honey I need 5k for my rent kind of girls”). Not to say that he is written off, but let’s face it, the kind of standards the woman he wants has, he can’t afford to keep up with.

3) So in your opinion the woman who is not accustomed to the Wilson airport charter a flight lifestyle will most likely stray/cheat on her ‘good caring man’ who in the pecking order of men is socially and financially inferior?

Absolutely!! Sorry to sound selfish but every woman wants to be spoiled silly and enjoy the finer things in life. Trust me, if she could get away with it without her “loving man” knowing,  it’s a go!

4) What is your opinion on the young women who want to start life with a self made man and not the ‘servant’s quarter’ aka SQ guy who in 10 years could be the self made man but with the push of a woman?

As a woman who has done that before, I’d say this would be largely an individual choice. Ideally, it should be the way to go, but also there’s the off chance of having the man, once “getting to the top”  flipping the card on the woman who helped him achieve success and going for a more “corporate & refined ” woman.

5)What’s your opinion on the ‘sponsor’, should women endorse such titles without  considering their man could be the sponsor?

Sponsor. Allow me to laugh. This is a word coined by lazy, spoilt women who have no ambition and solely rely on a man for a season of luxury living in exchange for sex. This same women have no voice because they are totally dependent on the so called sponsors to fund their every need.
Mature, adult women who work hard to make a living do not need to have a sponsor in order to live in luxury. They have the choice of funding their own luxury lifestyle or picking from men who want to, and can afford to treat them to the finer things of life. They, have a choice in how they are treated and will not hesitate to discard a man who remotely seems to want to ‘misbehave’.

6)The Instagram culture where young women dominate, what’s your view on the social impact?

It saddens me to see how the social world defines a young woman. Unless she is half naked, partying endlessly, wearing the latest designer garb, she’s looked upon as “the chick that’s not with it”.
Parents should raise their young women to applaud and take pride in their identity, regardless of the social trends. These trends are temporary and as such shouldn’t be taken seriously. The need to instill virtue and originality has never been more crucial as it is now.

And there you have it. A woman’s view on the social dynamics and trends that mold much of our society today. When a single woman is seeking out a potential partner it is alarming that knowledge of his character is not top of her list and yet this is a character she may have to live with day in day out. With questions like; what does he drive, what does he do and how much money does he make being on the top of her list then its no wonder the criteria ends up not favouring the woman and yet the man ‘the beast’ she married is providing all her luxuries and comforts but later after the dust has settled she realises that even though she is the kind of woman who would rather cry in a Range Rover than be happy on a scooter, that Range Rover is hardly seen on their driveway, why, because her man ‘the beast’ aka husband is busy showcasing another woman in the Range Rover. Please note, she has never cried in the Range Rover but some other woman is experiencing orgasmic spasms in the back seat. The same seat where the children sit. I know, not the best of visuals right! But facts are facts despite people pretending these dynamics don’t occur.

Ladies, ladies, ladies…. some of you may hate to hear the truth but if you ask women who have been through the trials of relationships that went from rosy to sour. They will tell you that ‘yes’ money is great, riches and wealth are everyone’s goal but at what cost. Do not go out there in search of a ‘rich guy’ or as others put it, a guy with cheddar. Why, in most cases he will belong to some other woman, and perhaps you don’t care, after all women are their own worst enemies. Women have upgraded ‘back stabbing’. But ‘wait’, the man in question ‘the sponsor’ could be your Dad or boyfriend or husband. DO NOT endorse a societal title like ‘a sponsor’ and later complain when your man becomes the sponsor. It is just unfortunate that most women will crave the taste of sudden riches, women who never cultivate but love to harvest, only to be dragged through the mud by the self made man who only played the ‘loving card’ for his own benefits knowing at some point your expiry date would come.