Remember me, the woman who came to you in January and we later had a session with my husband. I wanted to let you know that we are finally back together again. I was hurt but I was not going to throw away 8 years of marriage because of little girls.
After our session with you it took a while but my husband did come home and he explained everything. It was not easy to listen to but as per your guidance I keenly listened to every detail and I actually felt partly to blame.
Maurice asks,
Explain….
She replies,
He called me on a Friday when I was at work and he told me that he wanted to come home the next day and explain himself even if it was over between us he said he felt he owed me the truth, and he also made reference to things you had directed to him during our session.
I told him to pass by in the afternoon when I knew the kids would be out with their friends. He was on time and at 3pm we were sat together after many many months. As the conversation was kicking off he broke down and confessed to everything. He had cheated with multiple girls and he admitted that his actions were premeditated only targeting college girls who he could manipulate.
Maurice asks,
During our session he touched on sexual fantasies did he mention them?
She replies,
You read my mind. He did mention them. He said it was not an excuse but there are certain sexual desires he could not live without and that he felt I was most of the time to involved with family that I would deny him attention and sex at least 80% of the time whenever he made his advances at me.
Maurice asks,
Do you agree with his sentiments?
She replies,
Sadly I do agree that I was not there for him as his woman. There is one reference of you that stood out for him.
Maurice asks,
Which is?
She replies,
When you told him that he needs to make a decision and simplify our situation. You told him he needs to come out clean about his infidelity or let me be so that another man can care and love me the way I should be loved. That really got to him but at the time he said nothing.
Back to the revelations. He asked me if I knew the man I married sexually. I replied yes. He then asked me why I was so sexually cold to the point I became unattractive to him. I told him I did not realise that his sexuality was a priority in marriage I thought it would decline with the years and instead I put all my energies to caring for my family. I now know that was a mistake on my part. During our courtship days I always told him how as his wife I would be the kinkiest woman, how I would be his bitch for life but to be honest I thought that was just flirting, basically sweet nothings. Little did I know that he took my every word and when I did not deliver and he got tired of initiating he decided to satisfy his desires with other women.
Anyway the good news is that we are at full throttle. We are back to being a family and I am loving the sexual adventures.
Maurice asks,
What made you take him back and when did he move back home?
She replies,
1) Because I was part of the problem 2) For the first time ever my husband opened up and I saw the real him, I actually saw a glimpse of the man I first met, I had forgotten that I married a highly sexual being and that I needed to be the one to submit to his cravings. I now believe your statement when you told us that marriage is not difficult it is the choices we make within marriage that make marriage difficult. Maurice my husband moved back home in April. It was a working process to close the chapter and start afresh but we are happy and the sky is the limit. For some reason I have changed my attitude towards sex. My husband loves to explore in the bedroom and we have been reading your blog. Lets just say we have implemented erotic sex for couples part 1 to 3 and I particularly love your article ‘sex in the kitchen’ part 1 and 2. Maurice you are a freak. But without your counsel my husband and I would have faded into divorce. That I know for sure.
Maurice replies,
During our sessions I only made your options clearer, the two of you did most of the work all by yourselves. I am glad that it worked out for you. It is always good news for me to know I played a small part in keeping a marriage alive.
She replies,
You know you did more than you care to admit. Thank you.
Maurice if I were you I would be tired of reminding women that we are sexual by nature. It is good to hear a woman admit that she failed. Boss sometimes I envy your job and sometimes I ask myself how you deal with people who can not see the obvious
Kudos
we are designed that way it is not our fault
To Martin and Njoroge….. Not all men are highly sexed. Sometimes even we women end up with someone who is on a lower sexual plateau.
However I must applaude you Maurice! I wish i could convince my husband to even just read your blog ( he dismisses this topic any time i have tried).
I wish them all the best for its the opposite am the hyper one his on the low
Life….is really that simple!