Dear Maurice,
I am a divorcee. My man cheated on me 2 years ago and got another woman pregnant. I am not dating, I am mingling in search of that man that will hopefully want a relationship but to no avail at the moment.
Maurice asks,
What do you mean by to no avail?
She replies,
Last year I met a white guy and we hit it off and I also got friendly with his girlfriend. We lost touch for awhile and early this year we hooked up for drinks and I really enjoyed his company and still do. But recently I have issues with him.
Maurice asks,
What issues?
She replies,
I have given him so much over the last 4 months and yet he is reluctant to give me what I want from him.
Maurice asks,
What have you given him that merits a return?
She replies,
I have been there for him in every way as a woman plus I have given myself to him in ways I thought not possible.
Maurice replies,
What you are saying is that you have given yourself sexually to him?
She replies,
Yes and I feel he is not fully committed to me.
Maurice replies,
I am interested in knowing what you have given him that you thought was out of the norm unless I am mistaken?
She replies,
He has sexual preferences and they are not what most men would request. To be honest he is the first guy to ever request such sexual acts.
Maurice asks,
When you say most men are you referring to the general population of Kenyan men?
She replies,
Yes. He likes anal sex, deep throat and he makes me pee on his face.
Maurice asks,
So by you performing these sexual acts you believe he owes you?
She replies,
He does not owe me but as a man he should be able to consider my needs.
Maurice replies,
What are your needs and I am assuming that you are currently just mingling?
She replies,
Ok, I like him and yes I am mingling and having fun with him but I need him to step up and provide for me because I never deny him what he likes sexually.
Maurice replies,
From what I have understood he is not your boyfriend and am I right to state that when you are together he caters for everything whether you stay indoors or are out socializing, is that correct?
She replies,
Yes but why does he have a problem when I ask him for money to make my hair to look beautiful for him and why can’t he bail me out when I need rent?
Maurice asks,
I am sure you have dated black men, have you ever asked a black man who is not your boyfriend to pay your rent?
She replies,
No I have not but this guy can afford it. Even though I work he should be willing to help me out when the need arises.
Maurice replies,
Why because he is white? Before we go on I thought you had said he has a girlfriend?
She replies,
We don’t discuss her.
Maurice asks,
Are you in-touch with his girlfriend consider you became pals?
She replies,
Yes, we are friends and we socialise once in a while.
Maurice asks,
Is she aware that you are sleeping with her boyfriend?
She replies,
No she is not. You will think I am a bitch for saying this but what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her and from what I have heard from her she is trying to trap her boyfriend with a baby. They have only been together for 11 months.
Maurice replies,
So you must be the guardian angel coming to his rescue. I am appalled and I am going to be blunt with you. This is how I see it. You, just like his girlfriend are an opportunist. In my book there is no difference between you and his girlfriend if indeed your version of her intent is true. This guy is not your man neither is he a potential anything at this point, why? Because you have not stated that he has promised a future with you so I can only speculate that he is in it for fun.
The fact that he sleeps with you does not merit or dictate that he owes you anything. If he wants to become your provider then that should be out of choice not through emotional black mail of which I hope you are not applying by sending him text messages attempting to make him feel guilty. That is a useless strategy that women use to manipulate their way. Personally I really do not understand why vagina has such universal value and the same is not accorded to the penis. It is ridiculous. When was the last time you heard a man complaining that he gave himself to a woman and did not get bus fare or cash to visit his barber.
My advise is that you either continue having fun with no expectations or be upfront enough to tell this man that you need him to accommodate your needs as part of the package. He will then give you his response, and stop implying that he is using you. You speak of commitment, well he is committed to having fun with you, that is a form of commitment in the realm of men. He is spending to entertain you, isn’t he, and like I implied that should not come with financial gain which labels you as a gold digger. Note, considering he is cheating, it could be any other woman but luckily for you he is still hovering around you.
She replies,
Don’t you think that is judgmental and harsh?
Maurice replies,
If you consult with me then you give me the leeway to voice my opinion. I am not in the business of sugar coating.
mauricetherapy 
Women kwani they think we pull out money from our ass!
Fucking is a pass time activity, do you pay your pal when you go round for a spot of footie, no you dont. Money hungry bitches no wonder they are fucking dogs in Mombasa.
Maurice i have to applaud you on this one.Your response deserves a Grammy award.Thats a money hungry bitch right there!!!.some women are ridiculous.Thinking that by fucking a mzungu their fortunes will change overnight.
Matheka well done. My experience with women is vast at the age of 52. One thing that sticks out like a sore thumb is all of them are gold diggers only the degree separates them. They are a species that like to complain and sometimes you must play the fool to survive that hostile atmosphere.
So, she leaves her man for cheating and she does the same to someone else’ man!
Lol. Maurice your response is both brutally honest and amusing.
This is why i fear white men sexually that is. I think they are bored with ‘traditional’ sex. They want just too much and anything goes.. as for anal sex isn’t that some painful shit??!
@Ann, I have been married for 16 years and anal is the only way I know how to cum. At first it was a bit painful but once I learned how to control his depth when he hits the spot which dear maurice will confirm is connected to my gspot I cum without fail.
Maurice your tackle was superb and very professional. Point blank and wasnt judgemental. cheers
Dude, just saw a show called connect and you were on the bench. Found your analysis interesting on the issues – I’m even more impressed with this site – real talk! Keep it up ndugu! Will be contributing in future. One day you should allow my bros and I to pick your brain….
PS:…more women need to take that horny goat weed…in copious amounts.
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You and your bros can pick my mind anytime
Good stuff! Will take you up on that. Have a good one bro.
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