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Dear Maurice,

I am coming to you with a heavy heart, a broken heart to say the least. Unfortunately though, my heart has been in this condition for 3 decades. Yes I have had some great times in my life but the bad times have definitely overshadowed the good. I have been married for 37 years. We have 6 children who are obviously adults now and I feel a failure to not have managed to groom my husband into a better man than he has been for all our years together. My husband has disrespected me and our family unit countless times and I have just let him get away with it for too long and now he has crowned all his bad deeds.

Maurice asks,

What has your husband done this time round?

She replies,

My so called husband has decided to get serious with a girl who is younger than our last born.

Maurice replies,

Please expound on that.

She replies,

Our last born is 28 years old, my husband is 62 and his latest victim is 26. Has he no shame, can’t he see that he might as well be dating his own daughter. What is he thinking confidently displaying her for the World to see that they are a couple who plan to wed from what I am hearing from the family grapevine? What are my choices, and leaving my home is not one of them? I have slaved for this man for too long for some young girl to come and take over my home.

Maurice asks,

For how long have you known about your husband’s mistress?

She replies,

About this particular girl, not long. However my husband has been a cheat for as long as I can remember I guess I decided to ignore his adulterous antics when it became too much, for me leaving was never an option, I took my vows seriously and I guess I have stuck it through mostly the thick of times.

Maurice asks,

When did you stop caring?

She replies,

I knew I had stopped caring and feeling in-love by the time we had our third child. After that I was on auto pilot and have been ever since. I have lived a life of weathering the storm.

Maurice replies,

It seems that you accepted your husband for the cheat he has been over the years however you still seek answers to your predicament, may I ask why?

She replies,

Despite all, my husband has this manly thing about him that just sweeps you off your feet and before you know it you are making babies with him. That is what I have held onto for all these years and to have another visible woman in my midst is what I fear.

Maurice replies,

In regards to your choices. Confront your husband about the rumours. Make it clear that if indeed he has made that choice to be with this other woman he needs to establish another home for her. I would also recommend that you consult with the legal fraternity to ascertain and secure what is rightfully yours as his wife.