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Dear Maurice,

I need your help on something I am a virgin at 28, don’t laugh but I am, and soon I will be wed and it’s going to be my first night with a man, I am worried about pleasing my man do you have any tips for me? 

Maurice’s reply:

Well for one congrats for hanging onto your virginity for this long. Where do I begin, for many people the wedding night means fire works between the sheets. But as a virgin it’s worth taking time prior to the wedding night to talk about it with husband to be. Tell him about the parts of your body that when touched arouse you, give you the chills (and I don’t mean make you feel cold), if he pays keen attention to your reaction as he explores your body with his hands or tongue, after all licking the right places in the right pace can create very intense sensations, he will in turn discover new areas of your body that excite you. It’s all about communication, communication, communication.

The wedding night is always a night with many expectations and that can really put pressure on your performance. If you’re a virgin you will have many questions lingering, many will go unanswered because you may not want to ask your friends to give you a crash course on how to mount your husband on your first night, excuse my French but one of you will be ‘mounting’ the other on the night so it’s natural to be concerned. If you’re not a virgin, you might feel pressured to ‘out do’ yourself on the night. Regardless of how much experience you have you need to take the pressure off your mind. The only thing that matters on the night is the passion you have for one another that passion will ignite a fire that will burn beyond your wedding night if you get my drift.

It’s always a plan to have a tot or tot to relax the nerves; however that’s not my professional advice it’s more a social trend. One factor that can especially affect the man is attempting to maintain an erection soon after a heavy meal, we all know how during a wedding food is plentiful and some do tend to over do it. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the delicacies of the wedding but please make sure your man has time to digest his meal(s) before indulging in any sexual activity otherwise it will be short lived. About 4 hours after a meal will suffice if you really want him to out perform himself. Another tip despite what people say… alcohol can ruin your perfect night so do not over do it otherwise one of you will enter the washroom to freshen up and find the other dead asleep, not a good beginning to your matrimony.

Let’s recap on the above, talk about your likes, feel no pressure go with the flow and enjoy each other exclusively, enjoy your food ‘you paid for it anyway’, have a few drinks but have a limit and await to create sparks between the sheets ‘hopefully’. If your husband to be really knows how to keep you happy then knowing that this will be your first time his efforts should be about making the experience memorable and comfortable for you period. Your skills will be developed in time and trust me a time will come when he won’t be able to keep up with your ‘desire’ for a good long haul bedroom session with him, I’m sure you know what I’m saying!

Thank you for your mail you have inspired me to write an article on this special wedding night look out for it.

She replied:

Maurice thank you so much for your advise, I wrote to you in January incase you don’t remember. I shared your reply with my hubby and to my surprise he took it very well to point where we both decided to be utterly open up to each other every day no matter what. It has been 8 months since our wedding day and you gave us a new attitude towards sex. I can say we are doing fine. Keep doing what you do. You may not know it but your words impact people in a positive way.

Maurice’s reply: I am lost for words, thank you, I do what I can but it is important for couples to understand that I only guide them in the direction I see best for them thereafter they steer their relationship’s future.