Dear Maurice,
I really need your help on a certain issue I find rather disturbing considering we are in the 21st century and not the Stone Age. I am a 23 year-old student and I have a good job. I have been dating a 29-year-old
guy since last month. He is a good person, but I find it hard to accommodate his requests. He insists that as his girlfriend I should iron his clothes, wash his boxers, serve him food and take it to him; clean his house and bedding among other things. In short he wants me to perform wifely duties for him. We argue a lot because clearly we are not on the same page. This man insists that women should treat their men the way he wants me to treat him. Having been raised by a single mum and with no father figure, I am not sure if what he says is true. Shouldn’t those duties be performed when one is married or almost married rather than in the infant stages of the relationship?

Maurice replies,
Let me begin by stating that there are no cast in stone duties that are applicable to a woman whether married or not. Those are ancient societal notions of how a woman should conduct herself. I strongly believe that whatever you do as a woman for your man should be done because you want to not because you have to.
You are only 23 years old and you’re a student. My advise to you is that you concentrate on your first priority which is your studies and avoid external influences that may stress you. It is up to you as an adult to continue your relationship with this man. However if you choose to explore that relationship please highlight to him what you are comfortable with so you can avoid being misused just because you are a woman. If he persists then I recommend you terminate your relationship with him before he becomes your worst nightmare.
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