Dear Maurice,
I really need your help. I met a guy who has been divorced for 2 years and has 2 kids. After his separation with his wife, he got into a relationship with some girl who got pregnant after 7 months of dating and unfortunately this guy left her. I met him and we hit it off. After 2 months of dating, we decided to move in together in order to cut costs. I moved into his house and later discovered about his pregnant ex-girlfriend . He insists that he didn’t know she was pregnant until one month before my confrontation. I am so confused I don’t know what to do. Should I move out and break up with him or should I stick around and see if our relationship will work. I don’t love him as much but he adores me to death. His ex-girlfriend is not financially stable and I suspect that is why he left her after discovering she was pregnant. I am more financially stable than him and I feel as though he is being an opportunist, I have talked with the girl and she says that he knew she was pregnant when she was only two weeks old. Please advice.
Maurice replies,
First thing, your relationship will not work itself out. Only mutual thinking will sustain a relationship. Personally, based on the above I am extremely skeptical about the survival of your union. Whatever attracted you to him only you know but lets revisit the facts. He has kids and they come as a package, are you ready for that? The other fact is that your moving in was premature in my opinion and the reason behind it ‘cutting costs’ has never been a reason for two people to move in together in the name of love.
Based on your narration this man does not appear to be honest. Your relationship foundation cannot be littered with scandal and deception. If your instincts are telling you that this man is not the one for you then you need to leave. You have already stated that you don’t really love him so why stay unless there are other lustful cravings to your relationship.
I am only speculating but I have a feeling there is more to this story, my advice is simple, I have never discouraged anyone from seeking physical pleasures, we all need them once in a while.
Apart from his evident ability to impregnate women, if this man has a side of him that you desire and it is more about fun and play then by all means enjoys the thrills but if you are seeking more from him I feel you may be the disappointed victim at the end.
I wonder if this man adores her or her financial stability. I agree that she needs to figure out her expectations where he and the relationship are concerned.
True true, it’s all about sex as there is no love there, ship and have what we call friends with benefits until you find the one.