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Dear Maurice,

I have only been married for 9 months and already things have changed in our home. I am 26 and he is 31.

Maurice asks,

What has changed?

She replies,

My husband has been coming home at 2am and sometimes at 5am even on week days and yet he has to go to work.

Maurice asks,

Was this his character before you got married?

She replies,

In the 4 years I have known him he has always liked his outings but we were mostly together and if we were out late it was during the weekend. For some reason after our honeymoon he changed. He leaves me at home and never bothers to inform me of his whereabouts. When I text him he does not reply so I get worried. I call his phone and sometimes he answers and sometimes he does not bother. I need to ask, am I becoming the stay home wife who will eventually have to chase their man begging him to come home? If that is the case I would rather not go on and bail before a life of misery befalls me.

Maurice asks,

What does he say when you confront him?

She replies,

When he gets home most of the time it is pointless talking to him, he is drunk and when he does speak he says “we’ll talk tomorrow let me rest”. He then goes on a mission of invading that discussion. Its a circle, our sex life has been affected. There is no connection. I miss the way we were, the laughs and the way we occasionally cooked together and enjoy our wine.

Maurice asks,

Did you live together before marriage?

She replies,

No. We were dating but we did not live in the same town. Luckily the company I work for has branches around the Country so I transferred to make sure our marriage would work.

Maurice asks,

How much time did you spend together while you were dating considering you lived in different towns?

She replies,

Every other weekend one of us would visit the other and on long weekends we would milk every minute. It was fun when we were dating but currently I do not recognise the man I an living with. The only positive I can think of is the weekly flowers I receive at the office. But I would rather have his attention I don’t care much for treats. There is a weekend I was away with my girlfriends and during that whole time he did not call to check up on me, all I received was a text saying ‘safe trip love you’.

Maurice asks,

I need an honest non emotional answer, why did you get married?

She replies,

After 4 years of dating we thought it was the next step to affirming our relationship. I needed his commitment, I want a family and I can only have that with a man I am married to. Does that make sense?

Maurice replies,

Yes and no. Yes because you wanted to move your relationship to the next level as people say ‘especially women’ but no because your union affirmation was based on gaining a status in society and there lies your root problem hence your predicament. Like many women you wanted a ‘serious’ relationship, whatever that means and the variables of that type of foundation have led you to your current dilemma.

She replies,

Maurice, are you saying my husband was not ready for marriage?

Maurice replies,

No, what I am saying is that your husband most likely fulfilled your need to become a wife. For him nothing has changed, by any chance have you in any way hinted he needs to be more responsible now that he is your husband?

She replies,

I have done what any woman would do and told him that in marriage one must change and focus on other things apart from having fun and taking road trips. If we are to start a family we need to get our priorities in order.

Maurice replies,

My dear, I hear you loud and clear but the problem is that your expectations are not aligned with his. If anything based on dealing with similar cases your husband is most likely pushed away by the changes he knows he has to make to satisfy your future expectations. What you desire to move forward in your relationship makes sense but it has to be mutual for it to impact positively. For now I believe your husband has put up a fence and gone on the defensive which for many men translates to ‘keeping away’ to avoid confrontation or arguments. What was once fun has turned serious for your husband and unfortunately that has altered his mindset.

The average couple, who live together, in our modern busy World see each other 10 to 15 hours per week, and I am not talking about actual quality time. Even though you have dated for 4 years your accumulated time together in my opinion was not enough time to get into matrimony. I recommend that you seek guidance from an impartial professional so that the facts can be laid down and hopefully that platform will allow both of you to open up and state your true feelings. The outcome of that forum will steer your relationship. I am here if you need me.

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