Dear Maurice,
I am happily married but it seems I am the only one in my marriage that is generally happy.
Maurice replies,
Please explain.
He replies,
When my wife was my girlfriend for the first 9 months she was my dream girl doing things that I would like my woman to do for me willingly not because she has to. I am happy being a husband unlike some of my friends who wish they cold reverse time and be bachelors again. I have a click of 6 friends and I think only one is happy in their marriage, the stats are not good. Anyway back to my case. We have now been together for 3 years and frankly I am lonely. If I was to describe my life, it is a routine, I go to work to provide for my wife and I come home by 6pm everyday. When I am going to be late I always tell her and to be honest my party animal days are no longer in my system so by 10 pm I am normally home. I may sound like a boring guy but I am far from it. My life routine is there intentionally so that I limit scenarios of temptation. It is a choice I made when we got married. Many marriages are not working because couple’s have not applied parameters within their marriage. For instance, why should I be in Nakuru for the weekend and my wife is in the Mara, in my opinion, that detachment when it becomes a part of your lifestyle then the fire between you burns out. I have done everything in my power to be that near perfect husband but my wife takes me for granted. I give her what she wants and I do it willingly. But when it comes to my unique needs she is failing. I used to get breakfast in bed but nowadays I must ask for it which kills the romance. Sometimes I will come home only for her to tell me she was not in the mood to cook so I get into the car and get us a take out without making a fuss but deep inside I know I am hurting because there was no effort made.
Maurice replies,
Let me take you back to the first 9 months. I am glad you are sharing your story because your predicament is common and most of the men usually have the same issues. Its always about what they miss in their woman. They miss the undivided attention they used to receive which in my opinion makes all men feel like men. Many men miss the way their woman used to get up in a happy mood and the first thing she would do is give you that morning kiss. Women don’t seem to realise that there are little things that men like about them. It could be a smile, it could be a particular meal or place you used to visit that links the two of you.
He replies,
I relate to all the above. There is a way I love my pancakes in the morning and she used to present them so well but somewhere down the line she has assumed that I no longer need pampering. I miss the days we would shower together and soap each other and basically get silly and playful whenever we got the chance.
Maurice replies,
You have hit the nail on the head. Men love to be pampered just as much as women and some women unfortunately take that for granted. The truth of the matter is that some women do not deserve the men they have because they never know what they had until that person is long gone. Have you talked to your wife. Is she aware that you are actually hurting?
He replies,
Maurice I have told her in all forms of communication. I have even gone as far as writing her a detailed email of which she had the following to say “I don’t know why you wrote that email, if you have your own issues deal with them, stop painting me as the bad person in this relationship”. That was 2 months ago. Since then I have kept a low profile. Its hard to communicate with someone who dismisses your calls for dialogue. Our sex life is dead and I am lonely to the point where for the first time ever I am looking at other women with lust. I am not trying to play ‘mr good guy’ I am just trying to keep to my vows but my wife can’t see that. Before I proposed I made a conscious decision to stick to one woman otherwise why marry a woman only to hurt her by cheating on her. I am almost at the end of the road. I try and imagine if we had a child it would probably be worst if that is possible, I hate the feeling but I am glad that we don’t have a child. I hardly recognise the woman I live with, experiencing trials in marriage is normal I guess but if you ask me after she gained the ‘Mrs’ status she changed. Maurice what do I do I have given my all to a woman who refuses to see she is pushing me away, do I have to focus my attention elsewhere for her to notice I no longer desire her?
Maurice replies,
The answer is not diverting your attention elsewhere and I know at some point one can give up especially when you have tried your best to communicate. I am a big believer of if you have tried and gotten nowhere then focus on other things that make you happy for example when I want to clear my head I go night fishing or find a karaoke bar and sing my heart out. If your partner is committed to your marriage she will notice that you have focused on other things and hopefully question why and from that point you can engage in productive dialogue and mutually move forward. What I will advise against is receiving a stimulus from other women because that is a path that is difficult to break away from and if you truly want to rebuild your bond with your wife then another woman will not aid in that development. The ball is in your court, the choices you make will dictate the direction your marriage will take.
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Maurice why is it that I get turned on by your articles even sad ones like the above? You should visit me for a good rub down.
Why don’t you intentionally focus your attention somewhere else and see whether she will change!! Being a good guy always as a man sometimes it doesn’t work. I guess you are too smooth Sir.
My friend, I’ve heard this statement “I don’t know why you wrote that email, if you have your own issues deal with them, stop painting me as the bad person in this relationship”. too.
This was after staying with her for 5years till she landed her job, I tried acting the “good guy” but to her I had become just a “wuss”. This totally killed my self esteem.
Even though you’re officially married, thank God you have no kids, my situation was the same
My good brother Maurice advices that you shift your attention to something else, that’s viable. You can spend the whole day and the better part of the night out there, but finally when you come home to someone contemptuous and no longer appreciates you. That’s a Zero-Sum arithmetic.
I walked away.
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I feel Nyambura I dont know how to describe it but there is something about your advice that is such a massive turn on
Ladies focus!
A man is contemplating leaving his wife and you are busy flirting with mr magic fingers lmao
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The brother should shift his attention to other viable pursuits & hobbies. Maybe he should also come late once in a while without explanation or notification.
Join a gym, the questions should soon follow.
In the end, he’s going to have to make it clear what he wants, if she can’t change (and women are supposed be able to change) just next the mama!
These Nairobi chics, & chics generally nowadays, have this pride & entitlement thing that needs to be put in check.
Too many other fish in the sea, who are willing to be wives, if you’re looking for that kind of thing.
And to be honest, maybe he should start flirting with the idea of just talking to other women, if he can control himself.
If he leaves tho, he shouldn’t be in a rush to settle down. Take time, see many women, make sure you get what you want.
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