mauricetherapy

Hi Maurice,

I am having major issues with the girl I am currently seeing. She has gone from sexy to being a pest.

Maurice asks,

What do you mean by ‘seeing’, is she your exclusive girlfriend?

He replies,

Well, she is the only girl I am seeing at the moment so I guess I can define her as my girlfriend.

Maurice replies,

I will take that as a no. Moving on, what has changed in her for her to merit being a pest?

He replies,

At first she was not demanding, if anything she could care less and that is what attracted me to her but nowadays she goes through my phone and steals credit, she even send some to her pals.

Maurice replies,

I need to profile your relationship, how old are you both?

He replies,

She is 22 and I am 28.

Maurice asks,

What do you mean by steals credit?

He replies,

She does not ask for it, she helps herself, I consider that stealing.

Maurice asks,

Does your phone have a password?

He replies,

Yes it does.

Maurice replies,

So I can only assume that her ability to access your credit otherwise known as airtime is due to her having the knowledge of your password which am sure you gave her with the intention of showing her how much you trust her.

He replies,

True.

Maurice replies,

Did it not hit you that that choice would come back to haunt you. Let me guess, does she go through your phone book and gallery asking you all manner of irritating questions?

He replies,

Yes she does.

Maurice replies,

You do realise that you set yourself up for this predicament.

He replies,

Its not just that, she wants to meet my parents as a sign of my commitment to our relationship.

Maurice replies,

Let’s step back a bit, when did you start seeing each other, and what does she do considering her age?

He replies,

Good question which leads to the problem in hand. She is unemployed but she’s in college. I met her at a out of town party through a friend last year in December. Since then we have been hooking up a lot I guess primarily because my boy is doing her friend.

Maurice replies,

So its a ‘shagging’ collaboration of some kind.

He replies,

This started as a ‘fuck plan’ and now it has mutated into a relationship.

Maurice replies,

Clearly you don’t know the rule book. If your only intention is to meet a girl and have sex you should never make it regular, that alters the dynamics and before you know it you are husband and wife.

He replies,

Dude, this chick is so ghetto there is no way I would take her home to meet the folks. First we come from totally different Worlds, she attended public schools in some remote place that I had never heard of and I went to a group of schools. You feel me.

Maurice replies,

Finally, we are getting somewhere. Despite her ghetto traits she must be pretty hot otherwise why bother with her, the problem is that you did not define your relationship. If you had from the onset you would not be in this dilemma. You may have tagged her as your play thing but over the months especially for her feelings for you have most certainly developed and no matter how you sugarcoat it if you intend to tell her that all you want is fun from this relationship then you will definitely hurt her.

He replies,

I really do not know what to do. She is hot and by far the kinkiest girl I have ever met, constantly sending me naughty photos of herself. There are things that are keeping me attached to her but I can’t see her being my exclusive girlfriend.

Maurice replies,

Its all about choices, life is full of them. If you clearly know what you want then you need to man up and tell her. Better to hurt her now rather than drag this relationship and give her further hope that you are her Knight and shining Armour. Having fun in a casual relationship is not a crime but it is important that all parties are on the same page that way no one can allege to have been deceived.