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Dear Maurice,

I had everything I wanted to say at the tip of my tongue but now as I type I am wondering where I should begin. I have been married for 4 years and honestly I regret getting into this marriage. In fact I confess that on my wedding day I had my doubts about the future and true to what I felt back then I am today a very miserable woman. We have one child who is 2 years old and I feel like leaving with him.

Maurice asks,

What is happening in your marriage to cause you to want to leave?

She replies,

The question is more like what is not happening? My husband is not attentive at all. Once in awhile to shut me up he throws money at me and thinks that is what I signed up for, he is mistaken. He is such a selfish man. Since we got married he has changed into a man I do not recognise. I find myself buying all the groceries while he spends his money on trips with the boys. My husband has always been a outdoor person, he loves camping in the wild but you would think that his priorities would have changed especially after our child was born, but that is not the case. I am a mother and a wife and he is still the fun loving man I met 6 years ago. Our sex life is non existent. The last time we had sex was last year in August and before that was in November 2012. I am so tempted to cheat but I fear what he may do if he were to find out one day. He has a nasty temper on him. I am a sexually starved 31 year old woman, I can’t live like this anymore. I have confronted him with all our issues even in writing but he decides to ignore the issues stating that I am a nagging wife and that is why things between us are the way they are.

Maurice asks,

When you met him 6 years ago what kind of a man was he?

She replies,

He was kind and generous, whenever he was around we would have a blast together trotting the Country.

Maurice asks,

What do you mean by whenever he was around?

She replies,

When we met he was working in Dubai and would come home at least 2 times a year. Though we were on Skype everyday.

Maurice replies,

So what you are saying is that apart from the episodes of fun and your Skype based relationship you never got to live together before marriage?

She replies,

No we did not.

Maurice replies,

Based on your side of the story I must say that your foundation was most likely weak and that is why you are in your current predicament. You never really got to know each other. Having fun with someone who in my opinion is on some form of romance holiday visiting his girlfriend is not a basis to step into the shoes of matrimony.

She replies,

I know, I saw that ages ago but ignored the signs. What do you advise because I can not live with a man who has not woken up to the reality of providing and caring for his family? Not forgetting that I need an attentive man in all areas, I am still a woman and I need to be reminded that I am sexy.

Maurice replies,

Simple question, are you in love with your husband?

She replies,

I love him and care for him but I am not in love with him anymore. I don’t even think I ever was.

Maurice replies,

Will your husband change, I highly doubt it but miracles do happen. Do you want to continue a relationship of convenience where you will most likely begin cheating on your husband, do you want to weather the storm till death do you part? The ball is in your court. Only you can map out what future you would like to have. That said, we both know you already have one foot out the door. Are you prepared to face the World, a new start for you and your baby. There are many questions to be answered, choices to be made but all I can tell you is whatever you decide make sure it benefits you as an individual.

She replies,

Thank you, I needed to know that I am not a bad person for wanting to leave. I will let you know what I decide.