Dear Maurice, 
I have been married for 7 years. We have 2 lovely kids but I am afraid my husband and I are going to disrupt this family setting, we may soon be living separately if a solution is not found. When we got to the stage of getting married we mutually agreed that we would not change each other and yet one year into our marriage my husband begun setting terms and conditions which I profusely fought over the years.
Maurice asks,
What could be so wrong to lead you to separate?
She replies,
Before marriage we dated for 4 amazing years. My hubby was fun and adventurous and he loved me as I am. I am who I am and marriage was not going to change that, and he said we would always be the same and still play the role of bringing up our children.
Maurice replies,
I get the feeling there is something you like that your husband changed his mind about.
She replies,
When we met he knew I was bisexual and if anything over the 4 years he repeatedly said I was his dream woman. Granted he is not 
as liberal as I am but our dating years were the best. For 6 years I can say I have struggled fighting for my personality. I related to your article about a woman having several men, the difference is that I have had 2 serious affairs with women since I got married. Four nights ago my husband came across a message on my phone that was pretty graphic. He asked me if I was having an affair with a woman and I could not lie so I told him everything.
He asked me why? I told him it was because he changed into a man I could no longer recognise. Marriage took us to a place I can only describe as the sanctity of boredom. I love my husband to bits but I never prescribed to the predictable sexual life we have today. Three was never a crowd in our bed, even after the kids came we only had one over night getaway and it was my idea. I am 44 and I know what I want as a woman away from family life.
Maurice replies,
What you are saying is that your husband breached the verbal contract you mutually agreed to regarding your sex life?
She replies,
Yes, he has become the kind of man I avoided in my mid 20’s. Today he is judgmental and all of a sudden he is the author of the book of morals. Where were his morals when we used to have threesomes with my girlfriends!
Maurice I am a career woman, if you met me at work you would never guess that I had specific sexual preferences. When I am at home I play the wife and mother role to the best of my ability. But as you know all work and no play can be very boring. Should I be judged because I fancy a woman sharing a bed with me, I think not.
Maurice replies,
How is your sex life with your husband?
She replies, 
Our sex life is great, he has endurance so he still gets me there, orgasms are not my problem. I just don’t understand his change of attitude towards my sexual needs. If I knew this would one day be a problem I would have had a friends with benefits arrangement.
Maurice asks,
So how can I help?
She replies,
I have told him that we need to seek advice from a neutral person and I recommended we meet you. He has gone through your blog so he knows of you and thankfully he has agreed to meet you.
Maurice replies,
The ball is in your court. All we need now is a date, time and place. Once I get to hear both sides of the story I will be able to advice further and hopefully we can establish a mutual way forward.
She replies,
Thank you Maurice, I will get back to you soon.
mauricetherapy 
I am new to your blog and already I like the way you think 🙂
I think the husband is older. His lust for adventure may have died. He may also have a self confidence issue. Maurice can you hook me up with a woman between 25 and 30? I am 28.
This is not African culture. The worst thing we did is give women a voice. If only we had stuck to women being seen but not heard we would not be experiencing such unnatural behaviour.
@muturi.. is it african culture to cheat on and beat women
is it african culture to give us bad sex, 2 strokes and you are done
is it african culture to have african women pay your bills because you are too lazy to be a man
you and your african culture can go hang
Betty I totally second your thought,I hate the retrogressive ideologies some of us hold because they won’t see the light of generation.
Dilemma!
I am getting married in August. How do I tell my boyfriend I like girls too knowing how he hates lesbianism?
Just pop the words right on his face…. then the time for dialogue will follow.
Betty I fully second your thought,some of this ideologies some hold are retrogressive.
Maurice your blog rocks!
My girlfriend and I are impressed by your rawness. An African man this exposed is rare.
Why the heck did they even marry in the first place? Just looking for problems.
I think that man feels he has leaved d worldly life enough n he z now too into being a moral n spiritual.i dnt understand y people wen in problems n especially wen u clock a certain age we become soo prayerful n spiritual.
lesbianship is not the way forward. i rilly hate that act.how could u do that to your hubby.! women submit to your huzbants even if you r a career woman. its you to change your man.