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Dear Maurice,

Kudos to you for your work and keep it up. I don’t really have a problem its more I can’t help myself. I am not married nor do I have a steady girlfriend. I have been dating 3 women within the last 5 years and they offer me everything a man can want. I am a hard working normal 29 year old guy. One woman is 24, the second 31 and the third 42. The older women are married but the younger is single but dating me and maybe other guys I don’t really care though. From the start, with all three I made it very clear that all I wanted was a no strings attached relationship and that I was already committed to another woman, you know how it is, if I had said I was single I wouldn’t have gained their interest. So here I am 5 years later rotating three women as I please but I need your advise on something or more to the point I have studied their character traits and I’m puzzled to why I can’t let go of any of them even though two are married and one is kinda hinting she would like to be exclusive with me but I’m not ready to go down that road and I don’t think I will be for a while to come.

The 24 year old recently finished her further studies and now has a job. She is fun loving and we go out a lot, on my tab may I add, and I just hate the fact that she rarely offers to treat me out, I just think she’s a selfish girl but boy can she do her thing in bed. She has a lot of stamina and rides me to fitness.

Mrs 31 is not a looker to be honest but she has the legs of a bull, so well curved like the Williams sisters, and a body to die for plus she is kinky as hell, she’s taught me a few tricks over the years. I can say we have some form of raunchy chemistry but in some twisted way sometimes I spend nights listening to her domestic problems and having to comfort her as she cries. It does give me the satisfaction that she can open up to me but there’s only so much I can listen to, you know. I’m not a therapist maybe I should refer her to you? I’m serious dude.

And then there’s Mrs 42, now she is extra ordinary, she is a super model, how I ever got her in bed I have no idea but she makes younger girls look like ugly Betty, you know from the TV series. When we met she made all the rules and one of them was never talk about her husband which was fine with me. Dude, she is loaded and I get to drive all 6 cars that she shares with her husband. Maurice, she rolls in some hot cars what!!! Her husnand is always on some business trip so we get to spend time at their place, dude they have a pool and an in house bar, you don’t want to know what we get up to or maybe you do! But this is what puzzles me Maurice. She treats me like a King. She welcomes me into their home without fear of her girlfriends or house helps; her two kids study abroad so they are only in Kenya for holidays, Maurice she washes my hands before every meal and she loves to cook for me. Her home is uptown with all modern fittings like with washing basins but still she insists on washing my hands and occasionally gives me a full body scrub, what is that all about, I’m not complaining not at all, but a woman of her caliber would not ordinarily be doing such things or is that just a stereo typing of sorts. She is nothing like Mrs 31, as in she is more of a romantic, she hates the F-word and she has taught me about making love, Maurice I don’t know how to explain it but sex with her is slow and sensual, with a lot of depth, she loves it when I whisper certain things to her it really gets her going and until I met her I never knew how that kind of intimacy could arouse me, its mind blowing to say the least. Mrs 42 is the one who wants out of her marriage to be with me. Maurice I’m not ready to be exclusive but I don’t want to lose her. Do I love her I don’t know, but I’ve never experienced the attention she gives me and its more than just money it’s the way she makes me feel like a man. She’s the only one I can text mushy stuff and yet I’m not a mushy kind of guy but she loves it when we are apart flirting via phone. Has she gotten to me? And if she has, why do I still want the other two women? Sorry Maurice I know this is a difficult one but I need to hear what you think is going on in my life in regards to my fear of commitment. And no, I was not hurt by anyone in previous relationships.

Maurice reply:

Firstly thanks for the kudos, I do try. Now, now my good man, you are surely a ladies man. Your comment about being ‘single’ cracked me up and yes in some situations the odds are better when you seem committed, it’s a criteria attraction in women that is yet to be totally defined, it clearly works for you. This is what I think is going on in your multi-relationship circle.

You probably met Miss 24 looking for some fun, a fling but not one that would last too long but then she gave you a taste of her pie and you liked the custard mix that tantalized your taste buds if you get my drift. So since your first bite into her pie despite her selfish ways you have been lured back by her sexual performance, aka female horse riding skills.

Mrs 31, from your description its obvious why you are with her. Through visually enticing attributes that she possesses, she activated a cocktail of neurochemicals and they probably went through the roof and heightened your primal instincts. A woman’s facial beauty is sometimes not important if she has been blessed with a lean muscular physique. I am sure many men can attest to that. That physique, because men are visual beings, can induce very naughty thoughts of animalistic sex and the craving is one of ultimate desire.

Last but definitely not least is Mrs 42. She has touched your heart, your soul perhaps hence why you had more to say about her. She makes you feel like a man and as most men know that feeling is very powerful. She uses her femininity to show you how she feels. Truth be told, she treats you how she probably wanted to treat her husband and maybe he never noticed or appreciated her for who she is. You may say you are not a mushy guy but part of you that she sees so clearly is very caring and loving. It’s an unconscious characteristic in you hence why she puts the effort to make you feel like a King. Many women when they display this loving nature and their partners don’t notice they give up, but with your Mrs 42 she has never changed her ways of treating a man. She would rather give it to a deserving man ‘you’ rather than abandon her gift of treating a man like a woman should. I applaud her for that. As you have described she has taught you sensual loving and I totally understand why that will stand out compared to your other women. By the way regardless of caliber or status if a woman feels you she will do anything to please you.

I conclude with this, you must ask yourself, for how long will you play a multiple role? Men can engage with women for a long time without involving emotions but at some point the initial excitement of multitasking like in your case gets a bit tedious. Mrs 42 has groomed you to the point you had to write to me. She is the reason you’re  confused about what it is you need to do about your current multiple love life, if I may call it that, after all there are attributes that you subconsciously love in each woman. From one man to another my friend you are in a deadlock. Why? Because in my opinion you and Miss 24 are not going anywhere, I don’t see a solid relationship with her. Then you have two married women. With Mrs 31 it’s all physical and at the same time she cries for her husband while with you, you are her replacement, her comforter, you are probably a good listener again showing that caring attribute that you so run away from but it’s part of you. Mrs 31 will never leave her marriage nor should she do that, she should face her demons and try and mend her marriage or leave. Finally Mrs 42, without going into your age difference, I must say you went from toy boy to someone she, in my opinion, found solace in and love. In a different life time may be this would be the solid relationship that we all seek but I don’t see it working out ‘till death do you part’ for you and her. However, the above are just my opinions, you now have a series of variables to deliberate on and establish your path to finding what you desire most, I advice, go with your heart not with the male instinct of lust. Good luck my friend.

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