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Many people have several theories or rules when it comes to approach. A common question is, are women allowed to make advances towards men…. personally I must ask ‘what century do you live in to ask that question’. I know we live in an African setting but can we not behave like primitive primates, we are civilized ‘I hope’ enlightened people.

Despite many applying some traditional rules about courtship. There is nothing wrong with a woman approaching a man. Yes it is true that some men do not encourage it but don’t go messing it up for other men who gain a certain thrill from being pursued by a woman especially in a club setting.

Here is some reality, have you gone to a certain social venue long enough until you notice the usual ‘feline’ suspects! I am referring to them as feline because just like a Cougar they are normally there to prey on the unsuspecting men. You may ask who are these men…. well they are usually the men that fill tables with alcohol, showing off their wallet ability but they never get much in return if you get my drift.

So in my opinion there is nothing wrong with either gender making the first move. That said, there are things men should stop doing especially on my blog. STOP being so obvious, women know you want the cookie but there are ways of asking for that cookie without using the word ‘fuck’.

Get flirty, get creative with words that paint an erotic scenario. It is all about painting a mental image that will be appealing to the woman, get her curious, lure her, seduce her and just maybe she might give it up like naughty by nature. I hope for your sake that your performance will match your vocal prowess.

If you are a woman and there is a guy you like and you are sure about how you feel about him then do not waste time because female predators are prowling in every corridor and he may be snatched by another so hurry and make that move. I want to be very clear that the 90 day rule is useless. If a man really wants your vagina he will portray and play any character until the day you feel he is worthy thereafter ‘shock on you’ when he stops taking your calls or engaging with you at all even though he was by your side for months. It was an act to secure and gain your trust as your vagina marinated so why not just decide from the onset whether you are having sex with him or not. Prolonging the inevitable is counter productive.

I know people or rather women fear rejection, the truth is there are no guarantees to initiating. So what if he rejects you, there are plenty of fish ‘ask men’, do you know how many times a man has been rejected in his lifetime! What you need to know is that with practice you will get better and you will be able to filter out the probabilities by learning to scout for compatibility and like minded characters. The trick of the trade of courtship is first perform a recce on the person of interest before you begin to open your ‘heart’ to the wrong person. I know it is easier said then done but it does minimize failure.

On a night out, alpha females and males are brilliant at sniffing out and attracting potential ‘shags’ hence why they never worry about getting laid. Unlike the larger pool of society they do not ask when and where will I get laid its just a matter of what time and for how long.

I must highlight that some failures will occur if you do not fit in with the dynamics of a social arena. For instance, do not indulge in a social arena where a certain class of society hang out because you will most likely stick out like a sore thumb. However, ‘blonde’ seductive women can get away with being less exposed because most men out clubbing are not seeking an intelligent vagina. But if you are a man and you do not look the part plus you are on a budget and your ability to interact is lacking the women will notice and will avoid you at all costs. Why is this, its simple, because the women in that establishment only interact with a certain caliber of men. Women love the finer things in life. To the men choose your hunting grounds carefully otherwise you will struggle to maintain a woman who is used to dining at exclusive restaurants, a woman who loves a glass of red wine by the beach, a woman who knows that red wine goes with a tender mushroom pepper steak yet you ordered for mukimu and nyama choma. And guess what, you just flew her there randomly after work.

Ladies the most important thing is that you must put yourself out there. What is rejection, it may hurt at first but so do your heels that you wear in the name of fashion. I know men make it easy by taking rejection and moving on to the next victim but you must take that step to weather the storm and go for what you want before he or she belongs to someone else.