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Dear Maurice,

My wife and I have been married for 9 years. When we met we quickly discovered that we were very compatible in the extreme sexual preferences. We were candid enough to share our fantasies and fetishes and from there on we dated and eventually got married.

I am 37 and my wife is 33. We are your everyday family with 2 kids but while the kids are away my wife and I love to dapple in our sexual fantasies. I am seeking your opinion because after reading your posts I have related to your sex articles and I believe you are the right man to query with.

Maurice asks,

What is the issue?

He replies,

Until now my wife and I have been the envy of all our friends. We have always been known to defy all societal rules and we have been happy for years making our own.

Maurice asks,

So what has changed?

He replies,

As I said we are the extreme couple, we have had threesomes, foursome, you name it for years, once in awhile to spice a random weekend and it has always been a mutual thing but recently I over heard my wife telling one of our bunnies, that is what we call them, that she is in-love and is so confused because she also loves me. She also said “when am I seeing you again” to imply they met behind my back. For 9 years in marriage and another 3 years dating we have shared everything, it doesn’t matter how good or bad we have been an open book with one another so why can’t she just tell me that she has developed feelings towards one of our bunnies.

Maurice replies,

So let me get this straight, you are not pissed off by her love for this woman its more about not sharing with you, is that correct?

He replies,

Maurice you may think I am nuts but yes that is my only issue. Why now, what has changed for her not to be able to share with me. When we started to explore the extreme side of our fantasies it was her who had a problem and was a bit reluctant because she thought I would be lured by another woman while engaging in our adult games. But to date that has never happened because for me the thrill and excitement is only there if I am sharing that experience with my wife.

Maurice replies,

My job is not to judge people’s sexually escapades. I encourage sexually liberation. In your case its pretty simple. Based on what you have told me it should not be a problem rationally confronting your wife in a composed manner and telling her that you over heard her sharing what seemed like an intimate moment in the context of words with someone and you need her to know that you are not judging her but you need to know what that conversation was all about.

He replies,

I have a bad feeling about this. She could be planning to leave me.

Maurice replies,

Lets not go overboard and speculate, that will only stress you for no good reason. Unless you ask her you will never know the truth about that conversation she had.