mauricetherapy

Dude I need your opinion on my love life.

Maurice replies,

What is going on?

He replies,

I am dating a woman much older than me and I also have a girlfriend who is my age mate.

Maurice replies,

When you say older how much older?

He replies,

I am 21 years old and she is 42.

Maurice asks,

Continue….

He replies,

I really like the older woman and how she takes care of me and the things she has taught me over the last 2 years. But I think I love my girlfriend.

Maurice replies,

Now, stop right there. When you use the word love you do understand apart from the mental positive energy that comes with it a level of commitment is also attached.

He asks,

What do you mean?

Maurice replies,

Are you ready to be with one woman for the rest of your life and are you ready to support your alleged loved one and in time a baby or babies?

He replies,

I am not ready for all that, I am still in campus.

Maurice replies,

I am glad you said that and at 21 years of age you should be studying as your primary priority and having the social fun youth your age have and stop implanting love notions that you will not handle when your girlfriend demands that you commit to her. She may be your age mate but I am willing to bet her expectations are more long term than short.

He replies,

You are right she keeps talking about us having a family when we finish campus and start working yet we only started to see each other less than a year ago.

Maurice replies,

There you go. It is better to tell your girlfriend that you just want to have fun for now than to lead her on and break her heart after she has invested years into your unpredictable future. So what is the story with the older woman, will you continue to see her?

He replies,

Apart from liking her very much I don’t have the choice of leaving her because she pays for my education and maintenance. We can’t be together because she is married, we only see each other when she can get away. My parents live in Nakuru and can’t afford to educate me.

Maurice replies,

Well that is your life, but I must correct you on something. Apart from fun and sex of which I know she must like from you otherwise why maintain you, what else do you have in common with a 42 year old woman? Lets be realistic. The main reason she is seeing you is because of your sexual ability or ability to sexually follow instructions to her satisfaction, correct?

He replies,

Yes that is correct. What about my girlfriend’s mum?

Maurice asks,

You’ve lost me.

He replies,

My girlfriend and I are currently studying at the same campus in Nairobi and we are both from Nakuru.

Maurice replies,

I am still lost.

He replies,

I met my girlfriend through her mum. I am still with the mum.

Maurice replies,

I have a very creative mind but I hope you are not implying what I think you are. Are you sleeping with your girlfriend’s mum?

He replies,

Yes. She was one of my first experiences with an older woman.

Maurice asks,

From what age have you been with older women?

He replies,

Since I was 16. I don’t know why but I love older women. They know what they want and they don’t stress me like younger girls.

Maurice replies,

You are right older women do know what they want and they don’t stress you because at the moment they are the facilitators, the ones calling the shots without much expectation from you other than you company and sexual ability. That would drastically change if you were to get married to one of them and then she noticed you were not pulling your weight to assist her. Even though you must be feeling on top of the World the fact is you are merely providing a service as a younger man who can easily be manipulated for personal gain.

So lets recap this jungle of love you are in. You are currently maintained by an older woman and you are sleeping with your girlfriend and her mother. I have to ask, if you like older women so much why did you have to target your cougar’s daughter?

He replies,

While dating in Nakuru I got friendly with the daughter but only as friends. When she joined campus in Nairobi her mum asked me to look after her.

Maurice replies,

Something tells me your version of ‘looking after’ is very different to what you were asked to do.

He replies,

We were out one night and one thing led to another.

Maurice asks,

When in Nakuru how do you juggle your girlfriend and the mum?

He replies,

We agreed never to show our feelings in front of the mum, though my girlfriend is finding it harder to pretend with every visit.

Maurice replies, ‘you think’. It must be painful for her to see you with her mum and that is why I strongly recommend that you detach yourself with one of them, though either way you are doomed, that’s my personal opinion.

He replies,

This is complicated. How do I choose?

Maurice replies,

What you need to ask yourself is what future do you want, are you working hard in campus so as to one day stand on your own two feet without relying on anyone? If so, who is currently adding value to your life so that you can reach your future goals. If you can separate fun from the realities of life then I am confident you will make the right choice.