mauricetherapy

Dear Maurice,

I am in need of your advice I have messed up big time and I need to salvage my marriage. We have been married for 9 years. For 9 years I was more or less the most faithful and loving wife a man could ever want. I am also a good mother to our only child who is 6 years old. In that 9 years I have been there by my husband’s side, I have been an extremely patient wife. We both work but I have always made sure that I cooked most of the evenings despite having a trained maid who is more than capable. I wanted to be the model wife, someone my husband can be proud of but over the years I realized that my efforts and commitments were not going to receive any appreciation in the way I would have liked.

Maurice asks,

What were you expecting and hasn’t your husband every complimented on your efforts?

She replies,

I expected him to notice every time I would go out of my way to make him a special meal which was at least 4 times a week. I put my every thing into pleasing him but he would only say that the food was great as a passing comment. I never felt as if it came from his heart. When we dated he would help with the dishes sometimes but after we got married it’s like he forgot where the kitchen is.

Maurice asks,

Is he currently not a good husband?

Don’t get me wrong he is a great provider and he plays his part well but emotionally I haven’t felt connected in a long time. Which leads me to the main issue. I had a moment of weakness and I shared a passionate kiss with a friend who I always suspected of having a crush on me but paid it no attention till a week ago while socializing we kissed and I loved that moment. I am not justifying my actions but I haven’t felt like a woman in a long time. My husband is always at work or at home so I know he doesn’t play around and yet I was weak enough to ignore my vows and I kissed another man and I don’t regret the kiss and how I felt but I regret my actions as a married woman. I probably sound crazy but I want your opinion. Do I tell my husband and get it out of my system?

Maurice asks,

Do you have feelings for this other man and have you been thinking about him?

She replies,

I don’t love him but I still need him in my life as complicated as it will be. I know I love my husband and he loves me.

Maurice replies,

There’s no justification as you said however those moments do arise that sway you to your predicament. If indeed you want to stay married and attempt to rekindle a time you were connected to your husband then I would advice that you do not stir up negative energy by confessing. Concentrate on dialogue with your husband from now on. I can not tell you to choose your friends but your male friend is a negative distraction and will not aid in rekindling with your husband. Begin to do the things you used to have fun doing together and make time for each other. The transition of communication will not be easy neither will it yield instant results but it is time you stopped feeling lonely and began to feel like a woman from the attention you receive exclusively from your husband.