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Dear Maurice,

I have been married for 7 months. I met my husband just over 2 years ago. We have no kids as yet. I would like your opinion of something that has bothered me since I met my husband.

Maurice asks,

How can I help?

She replies,

I have read your articles on sex and I must admit a lot of it has confirmed my worries but I thought it would be better directly asking you about my sex life which to be honest I have not been happy with for a long time. When I have sex I can only cum if a man takes time, at least 20 minutes or more. It is not of my making it is just the way my body responds.

Maurice asks,

So what you are saying is your husband does not get you there or has never gotten you there.

She replies,

Correct, he has never made me cum but he thinks he has. Sometimes I feel guilty lying to him and I do tell him that I haven’t cum but I always make up an excuse. Our sex life has always been about my husband and never about me. I have read in many of your articles that couples should communicate but unfortunately my husband and I fell into a routine where he assumes he is the ultimate performer and I am the ultimate faker.

Maurice asks,

What do you need from me?

She replies,

I need to stop faking. I need to feel what I used to feel with an ex boyfriend of mine. I have realised that I met my husband and immediately fell in-love with his ability to provide for me and in that department he is perfect but now I need to experience an orgasm with my him. This is the man I chose and I thought he would improve with time but it has gotten worse because within the first 4 months of courtship our sex went from 4 times a week to 2 times a week and sometimes we can go a whole week or more without sex. My other issue is that 99% of the time I am the one that initiates. I am tired and I fear the future if this continues. I had never thought of cheating till recently when I met my ex clubbing and though I declined his advances I knew what he could offer me.

I miss the feeling of a man’s endurance and what it leads to but I know if I give into my cravings there will be no turning back. My husband has tried viagra but it does not increase his vigor to get me to orgasm. When he is on viagra we can go 2 or 3 rounds but the orgasm is always elusive because after a few minutes he cums. It is so frustrating because I start to lose my sex drive with him. I did refer my husband to your blog but after reading erotic sex for couples he said that men from your region are obsessed with sex and that most of the advise is not practical for a man his age. You see what I am dealing with and he is only 34 you could think he was 70 years old. Can the vigrx plus herbal supplement make him go for longer?

Maurice replies,

No it cannot. It will increase his capacity to have sex by giving him the mental and physical stimulus required but it probably won’t improve his sexual longevity. Sexual endurance is what you seek in your bedroom and the unfortunate thing is there is no known remedy that substantially increases male endurance. Have you tried having him induce an orgasm by going down on you. That works for many women and his tongue shouldn’t get tired because part of satisfying a woman is asserting patience and effort.

She replies,

My husband has never sucked my pussy. From the on set he made it very clear that he can never do that. In short Maurice you are saying that I am doomed.

Maurice replies,

It is not about being doomed. When you met your husband you sampled his sexual performance and for some reason even after not being satisfied by him you decided to continue courtship and eventually married him. My dear you need to work with what you have. The two of you need to research on alternatives ways of making you achieve orgasm, that is your only option. Sometimes being open to your spouse reveals a reality which requires attention and if you are committed to each other then things can only get better or rather the potential is there.

She replies,

I see your point but I know it is going to be an uphill task to change my husband’s thinking about sex. It is as if he faults me when I don’t cum.

Maurice replies,

Nothing good comes easily in life. Remember patience and effort is what you need. If your husband cares about your sexual satisfaction he will apply the necessary effort.

She replies,

Anyway let me be positive about the possibilities. Thank you for your advise.