Dear Maurice,
I am troubled and I need your honest opinion.
Maurice replies,
What is your issue?
He replies,
I have been married for 5 years to a woman who lives in Kenya. I am also Kenyan.
Maurice asks,
Do you not live together?
He replies,
No we do not. I live in Sweden. We thought this arrangement would not bring us any problems but it has had the opposite effect.
Maurice asks,
Why are you apart?
He replies,
I am living with my Swedish wife.
Maurice asks,
Wait a minute you have 2 wives?
He replies,
Yes, out of circumstances.
Maurice replies,
Explain.
He replies,
Over the last 3 years I have grown to like my Swedish wife but I am mainly here due to economic reasons. I was sending my wife in Kenya money until new developments occurred 2 months ago.
Maurice replies,
Go on.
He replies,
My wife in Kenya is expecting another man’s child, she is 7 months pregnant. When I asked her she did not deny but she told me it was a mistake. I do not believe her.
Maurice replies,
Why don’t you believe her?
He replies,
Because I know the guy she has been fooling around with. That was no accident. Whatever they had or have must have developed over a period of time.
Maurice asks,
Why do say that?
He replies,
Because that guy lives abroad and he has a wife. My wife in Kenya is friends with one of his sisters. Why would she do this to me I just don’t understand. I left Kenya for this life away from the woman I love so that I can improve our future prospects.
Maurice replies,
I understand what you are saying but your mutual plan was based on you pretending to be fully committed to your Swedish wife, not the most honourable plan in my book. It is clear that due to human needs your Kenyan wife chose to seek companionship with another man and that resulted to her being pregnant.
He replies,
Why would she do that?
Maurice replies,
I do not want to speculate on her reasons however sexual lust was in play at some point. My question to you is, are you ready to let go of her and make the best out of the life you have in Sweden?
He replies,
I don’t know.
Maurice replies,
You must have a clue otherwise we would not be in dialogue right now. Yes you are hurt by her actions but is there more that you are not telling me.
He replies,
I have heard that the guy’s parents want him to leave his foreign wife so that he can be with my Kenyan wife and take of his child.
Maurice asks,
Is that guy serious about your wife?
He replies,
From what I have heard he declined his parent’s wishes and stated that he only had a holiday fling and that he did not intend to get my wife pregnant. He has left Kenya and is now back with his wife and 2 children.
Maurice replies,
Based on what you have told me it seems the main loser in all this is your wife in Kenya. If I may ask, who is providing for her considering you said that you stopped sending her money?
He replies,
She is still surviving so it must be her friends helping out. Her parents want nothing to do with her.
Maurice asks,
I am curious. Do her parents know why you are really in Sweden?
He replies,
No. They think I am officially working to provide for her.
Maurice replies,
So in actual fact she is punishing herself to save face. Her parents think she is an adulterous woman to a dedicated husband who is working hard to provide for his wife.
I suggest that your Kenyan wife tells her parents the truth. There is no need for her to look like the bad girl when in actual fact you both chose to deceive your in laws.
Again, are you leaving her or staying in her life, can you forgive her and can you raise another man’s child is the ultimate question?
He replies,
No I can not do that. I just wanted to know why she would go behind my back and sleep with another man without protection. That tells me she had feelings enough to risk infection or getting pregnant. It may seem inhumane but that is not my child and I can not continue to support her. Whatever feelings I have will soon enough get out of my system and I guess I will move on with my life over here. Thank you for your time.
mauricetherapy 
boss stay he sweden. love the mzungu. how do you bring up another man’s child. if it was me i would have my boyz play game on her.
Dave,
There is nothing abnormal about raising another man’s child. The question has nothing to do with biological paternity. The question is, are you prepared and willing to dedicate your life to raising a child.
Aw man. The Kenyan wife has been royally screwed by two little boys.
@Dave.. you are so shallow minded
Maurice I could never be in this situation one because I would not endorse my husband living with another woman for financially gain and knowing myself within months of being apart I would cheat on him because I am extremely horny most of the time. Long distance wouldn’t work for me.
It sure is an unfair world. It is ok for this dude to cheat but not for his wife? it could have happened to him too to make his swedish wife pregnant. I dont blame the wife for cheating, she had to respond to natures call too. Talk of a partiachial society. Its sad Maurice that you can only be objective and non judgmental. If you ask me, dude got a taste of his own medicine. Just saying.
Being objective is my ethical duty. Correction unless the meaning of cheating has changed, this couple set themselves up for failure once they decided to live apart in the name of financial gain.