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Dear Maurice,

I am in a very complicated scenario. My marriage of 6 years is on the rocks and it all my fault and I do not know what to do to make things right. I can’t lose him, I love him so much.

Maurice asks,

What happened?

She replies,

It is so embarrassing to explain the details of the problem because certain things should not have transpired and escalated to this point. About a month ago I happened to have called my husband from work and I implied that we needed to have a chat once I got home. Little did I know that was the beginning of a terrible ripple effect.

Maurice replies,

Just to interject most men are very suspicious of the words “we need to talk”, so what happened next?

She replies,

My husband assumed the worst case scenario and opted to call a friend who totally altered the context. After attempting to guess what I might be wanting to talk to my husband about, his friend as part of his advice concluded I must be annoyed after hearsay from my girls that my husband and his friends were out of town with a unknown group of ladies. He then instructed my husband to convince me that it was an innocent weekend and that he was faithful to me. So when I got home it was shocking to hear my husband for the first time ever apologizing to me about a story I was not aware of. Automatically it was instinctual to presume the worst and I reacted irrationally in retrospect. Needless to say we had an exchange of words for hours and I packed a few clothes and moved to a friend’s with our 2 kids. I felt my husband had violated his vows and trust. He tried to beg me to hear him out but I was not listening, I wish I had.

Maurice asks,

Why is that?

She replies,

After consulting with people who were there I realized that my husband’s friend was the root cause after he misinterpreted my intent thus feeding my husband with a context that was not relevant or connected with what I wanted to share with my husband that night. What a mess, I have apologized to my husband for not trusting in him and to add salt to injury I gave him such a hard time and a lot of name calling and empty threats of future infidelity were thrown at him. My husband has not talked to me for the last 3 weeks. It has been silent treatment day in day out. The last comment he made was that he does not recognize me anymore. Does that mean he is contemplating leaving me and our children?

Maurice replies,

It is unfortunate that a series of events occurred that could have been prevented but it is my opinion that your husband just needs time to recover. He must feel as if your trust was conditional hence his reaction. Plus I believe your verbal out bursts further inflamed the situation. You need to be consistent in positively addressing him whether he reciprocates or not. In time you will go back to what you had. Let it be a lesson to both of you that seeking external advice can be detrimental to your marriage and harmony. Give him the time he needs, you will be fine.

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Saturday, April 27th, another session at the Coast. The ladies were so good to me last month I look forward to returning. Mombasa here I come again.

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