mauricetherapy

Dear Maurice,

I am what you could call a newly wed, we have only been married for 8 months and to be sincerely honest I need your intervention on an issue that is reoccurring in my home. Please give me the opportunity to give you a brief history of how I met my husband. We met by mere chance on holiday in Spain. This was 3 years ago. I am 29 and my hubby is 36. We are both career based individual and we play as hard as we work. We holiday at least 3 times a year and that has been our lifestyle ever since we were kids. We both come from the same background so when we met it was pretty easy to relate in many ways. I am an accomplished business woman and my husband is an aviation engineer and trainer.

Maurice asks,

So what is the issue?

She replies,

For the 2 years we dated before getting married my husband was extremely romantic and thoughtful, always pampering me with every chance he had. But since we got hitched he has suddenly remembered or rather transformed into a typical Kenyan man.

Maurice replies,

Please expound on that?

She replies,

We have two maids at our home yet he insists that when he comes home he should find a his favourite stir fry meal cooked by me. As he puts it, it is important for him to be received by his wife with a hot meal when he gets home. Excuse my French but that is absolute rubbish to me.

Maurice asks,

In the time you have known each other have you ever cooked for him?

She replies,

To be perfectly honest I have made him a meal from a recipe booklet at most 4 to 5 times since we met and that was to set the mood, I would rather be his kinky playful kitchen wife if you follow. My husband and I are pretty sexually active and that is the only time I incorporate seductive food. Plus we eat out 3 to 4 times a week.

Maurice my 2 sibling sisters and I were not brought up cooking in our home. We always had workers to perform those duties. I really do not see why his attitude about my cooking has changed and if anything he is a much better cook than I am. I need the man I met to return because currently at times I do not recognize him as the man I fell in-love with. How do I achieve that?

Maurice replies,

I understand your sentiment regarding your husband’s sudden change however as his wife you need to establish a schedule where you surprise him and please him as your husband with a meal from your recipe book and make it part of your lifestyle. The fact is, in the realm of matrimony previous status quo has to change for there to be mutual harmony between a couple. Considering your husband cooks you can both share in the cooking and have fun doing it. It may not be your cup of tea to be the wife that cooks but you must put effort into cooking for your husband at least once or twice a week. From what I can deduce you are what I would call a modern cosmopolitan couple and I am confident you can strike a balance and take turns cooking in your home and also once in awhile cook together and enjoy each others company while you are at it.