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Dear Maurice,

I have been married for 4 years. I am 27 and my husband is 35. We have a two year old baby boy who misses his father and the reason a must stress on that is because for the last year my husband has not been present in our home as he once was. With his salesmanship job he has always traveled away for a day or two and this was at least once a month. I know his job demands for him to travel but for the last year I have been suspicious of some of his abrupt travel plans out of town.

Maurice asks,

Considering you have confirmed he has always traveled on business, what makes you suspect any foul play?

She replies,

My husband has always had a prior schedule from work which notifies him of his itinerary for each month, but that changed to the point that he would travel even though there was no scheduled trip to see his clients. After living and knowing a man for over 4 years you get to know his routine and how he plans his day to day business, it has never been so spontaneous and rampant. I am afraid of the worst.

Maurice asks,

Which is?

She replies,

The thought that my husband may be having an affair and using his job as a pretext. Despite my suspicion I have given him the benefit of doubt for one year but now I can’t take the not knowing status. I do not know if this is relevant but a few months ago I could have sworn that I heard my husband call me by some other woman’s name but I can’t be sure because it happened so fast during an intimate moment.

Maurice asks,

May I assume you have not confronted your husband with your concerns?

She replies,

How do I even begin, I have severally checked his phone for any odd dialogue with a woman or women and found nothing. I have consistently checked his clothes and bag for any receipts that may indicate that he was not alone on his trip and again my search has been fruitless. I have no proof so any allegations would not be founded. Is there a possibility that he is just a calculative cheat who knows how to conceal his adultery?

Maurice replies,

The truth is the possibilities are endless but unless you casually confront him in the pretext of wanting to find out more about his random trips that are not part of the schedule then you will never know the truth. He may convince you and indeed be honestly working during his random trips or you may sense a few white lies, some form of hesitation in the way he responds to your polite questioning.

Avoidance of tackling this matter will only result to speculative theories when all you need to do is sit your husband down and share a candid chat about your concerns. Though, I strongly recommend that you do not imply that you doubt his loyalty to you, because if you do then he will do what most men do well, he will shut down, after that getting through to him will be futile.