Dear Maurice,
I need your help. I am in-love with my girl but she keeps hurting me.
Maurice asks,
What is going on?
He replies,
I met her over a year ago and fell for her. I have dated several women but this has changed me completely.
Maurice asks,
What do you mean by ‘changed you’?
He replies,
I was a bit of a player and never once did I feel what I feel for my girl. I want to marry her but as things stand I am upset with her. When we met she was very attentive to me as her man but know I have noticed since December she has divided her attention.
Maurice replies,
Are you implying that she is double dating?
He replies,
She hangs out with my boys a lot and I understand that she at times wants space from me, she outlined this to me when were first met so it is no surprise.
Maurice replies,
I am sensing there’s more to this story.
In late November she had traveled to the Coast with a few close pals and on return I heard hurtful stories that I just brushed off. She is a beautiful Welsh girl and gets hit on by men wherever we go but I trusted her not to fall for another.
Maurice asks,
What were you told about the Coast trip?
He replies,
A friend who was there confirmed that she had a weekend fling with one of my friends.
Maurice asks,
Have you confronted your friend and what did he say?
He replies,
That’s the thing Maurice it’s not a he it’s a she. I have known her for 8 years since we were in high school, I never thought she would stab me in the back.
Maurice asks,
How old are you and your girl?
He replies,
I am 24 and she is 23. I am wondering why she even agreed to travel if she was not interested in a relationship with me.
Maurice asks,
Who traveled where, please expound?
He replies,
I met my girl online and we got chatting for 5 months and during that time I hinted that I would fly her over to visit in October and if we hit it off we could have a future together.
Maurice asks,
What was your girlfriend doing before she flew over to visit you?
He replies,
She was doing temp work with an agency so I offered her the opportunity to visit Kenya.
Maurice asks,
Do you work?
He replies,
Yes, I work for my Dad.
Maurice asks,
Is your Dad aware that you have invited a girl, who in my opinion you hardly know, in the intention of marrying her based on a foundation that was formed via social media?
He replies,
That is not relevant.
Maurice replies,
If you need my honest opinion lets make it relevant.
He replies,
I told my Dad that she is a good friend visiting Kenya. He is ok with it. She is staying with me at my apartment.
Maurice asks,
Despite what she is alleged to have done, for how long will you sell the friend angle to your father…. until her visa expires perhaps?
He replies,
I will cross that bridge when the time comes. Right now I want your advice on what I should do?
Maurice asks,
What is your gut telling you?
He replies,
That I love her very much and I want to marry her. I am upset but maybe I should accept that her culture.
Maurice replies,
Not every white girl sleeps with women so it has nothing to do with culture. My good man I believe this girl is beyond your wildest dreams and you just can’t let go of her. She may be a new favour in your young life and trust me I understand what that can do to a young man but please face the facts that will befall you. You say you want to marry her, have you any idea what that translates to. Will you be exclusive to her for the rest of your life? Are you ready to have a wife, a woman you see every single day and at your age there goes your chance to enjoy dating multiple women before you can embark on marriage. Are you ready to be a Dad to a child or children and provide for them for 18 years+ before they eventually fly the nest?
He replies,
I will not know until I try.
Maurice replies,
This is not like drive testing a new car. This is some serious commitment. You may have the finances to have fun with her for the next 20 years but marriage is a totally different ball game. The social element that makes her attractive to you right now is the fact you are in control and what you have is based on having fun, no demanding responsibilities attached. Hosting her, feeding her, being a tour guide and going clubbing does not count.
She came over to have fun and that may involve exploring her sexual desires that you may not agree with. If I were you I would take a chill pill and enjoy the rest of her visit.
Try getting to know her, the real her. Does she have a bi curious or bisexual nature? As general talk ask her what marriage means to her. If you do keep in-touch after she has gone back home and your connection is still strong then the future will tell but for now get to know her. You invited her over so be the bigger man and do not spoil her holiday with a Spanish inquisition.
He replies,
Thanks Maurice.
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A free holiday who wouldnt.
I agree with you a chill pill is necessary. How stupid are men or in this case boys. He should have known that a girl would die for a holiday in our so called exotic tropical country. My ex husband worked for his family business. He gave me everything a girl wants apart from his heart.
Hi Maurice, I hope this mail finds you well. I hope you remember me maurice. i was your dummy in buruburu in lees’ bridal shower. My cousin has her wedding soon and wanted to know about your schedule and we have not set a date yet but wanted to know when or which month you will be available please. Kindly and tell me what are the procedures or will we just do how we did with lee. nway pleeeaaassseee. Your quick response will highly be appreciated.
Kind Regards, Yvonne(Yummy)
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