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Dear Maurice,

I have a serious issue with my husband and it’s causing frequent arguments in our homestead. To make it worst we are exposing our 2 kids to negativity. I have tried to shield my kids over the years but things have gotten worse and my kids are no fools they can see what is going on between me and their father.

Maurice asks,

So what is this issue and for how long has it dragged on for?

She replies,

Well, let me start by telling you that I have been married for 11 years, I am 34 with 7 and 8 year old. Their Dad is 41 heading 20 because he still behaves as if he is in his early 20’s. It all started when I was pregnant with my first born. There was a sudden change in character, my husband in my opinion became or chose to be irresponsible. Always coming home late, and when I say late I mean 2am, 4am, and despite coming home so late he would insist not to be bothered with my questioning after all he provides and he always reminded me that he is the sole provider in our home and he does a good job of it, so he should not be faced with my questioning. Over the years he has made it very clear that he is the alpha omega in our home and that I should not dare interfere with his social life, at times he even calls it his private life. What kind of a husband would talk to his wife he that manner and I often ask myself what I saw in him 14 years ago. I want to leave him if am honest.

Maurice replies,

You seem to have made up your mind considering what you have gone through, so how can I be of assistance?

She replies,

It has been confirmed that my husband’s latest victim is my sibling sister, she is 23, has always admired my husband but I did not anticipate his lure and charm to work on her.

Maurice asks,

Are you saying your sister has confessed to having an affair with your husband?

She replies,

Yes she confessed and she had no apologises to make, she told me that she understood him better than I ever did. I threatened to expose her to our parents and extended family but that did not faze her at the slightest.

Maurice asks,

What does your husband say regarding their affair?

She replies,

He has denied it. He says that in the past they have flirted ‘only’ and that it must be a practical joke. As if flirting is any better, can you counsel my sister in my presence? I need you to drive it through her thick skull that there’s no future with my so called husband, can you please help?

Maurice replies,

Yes I can help however it’s going to be a tall order to get your sister to attend the session. What I recommend is that I get to speak to her via phone first. Once I establish a baseline with her she may feel comfortable to meet me so she can voice her side of the story. If she feels that we are ganging up against her, our efforts will be futile.