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Dear Maurice,

I have quite the story to tell you so I hope you can bear with me as I try to narrate my life experience in marriage for the last 21 years. May I begin by informing you that I am 41 and my husband is 54 years old. I was married after dropping out of school 2 years prior. I met my husband and he took me under his wings and made me feel that I could make something of my life. He paid for my higher education and I eventually gained a under grad degree. That was my stepping stone and I will never fault him for that. He gave me an opportunity while my family gave up on me or were more interested in educating the boys, my brothers. My father never saw the value of educating a girl hence why I fought back and eventually left school after being demoralized. Any way, 2 years into our marriage my husband had an affair or what he calls a one month fling and I took time but eventually forgave him. However during his one month thrill he managed to get the woman pregnant, it was a tough time but we dealt with it the best we could.

Maurice asks,

So what is the current problem in your marriage?

She replies,

Not long ago I went through my husband’s phone and called all the suspicious sms chats. My investigation unfortunately revealed that he has been having  multiple affairs, so far I know of 6 women and one of the women shared with me that she has been in his life for 18 years and they share one child.  In short he caters for her every need as if  she was his wife. I asked her how she could do that to me, she replied that she has no ‘beef’ with me but my husband availed himself to her and she took her opportunity.

I actually believed that his cheating days were over, I have been a dedicated wife limiting my career advancements to play the good wife role and for what! Only to be stabbed in the back by the man who professes everyday to love me. Six years ago he bought himself a flashy car that suits our sons. Is this midlife crisis or is this a man who married to fulfill a societal requirement?

Maurice asks,

Despite what you know, how do you still feel about your husband?

She replies,

I am a realist, I am too old, so I think, to move on and start all over again, but how do I live with such a man? To answer your question, I care about my husband very much but the love factor has fizzled out.  Maurice what is the way forward for me?

Maurice replies,

My dear it’s never too late to try love again however I am not saying you should leave your marriage. But I must quote you, you say love has completely fizzled for you, which leads me to state, there’s no real marriage if love is the lacking ingredient. That is more of an existence in marriage. Personally I do not foresee an avenue for improvement in your marriage. If indeed you are independent you need to think about you, be selfish for once, life is too short to waste it on emotional energies that won’t be fruitful. You may end up in a lonely place for awhile but at least you will have a settled state of mind in time. Seek for happiness within you first before you seek it from others otherwise you will be in the rat race of depression. A new beginning is what I advise.

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February session bookings

I have always followed a first come first serve policy but I can only allocate date and time slots to those who pay their confirmation deposit. I highlight this because I currently have tentative bookings for the same dates. I do not want to disappoint anyone so please confirm your bookings.

Oh, I am looking forward to my Nyeri session in February.