Dear Maurice,
I am a Kenyan Indian, born in Mombasa but I live in Nairobi with my husband. We have been married for 2 years. We have not started a family but he has been eager to have a child but the feelings are not mutual.
It was an arrange married based on our customs but from the start I knew I would never learn to love my husband.
I am writing to you because I am confused and I need a way out. Our parents and extended family are such an integral part of our marriage that I feel suffocated at times, actually most of the time. We all live in the same compound, everyone knows everyone’s business and I can’t live like this.
I am having an affair with a black Kenyan and he treats me in ways I never thought possible. I did not even know how to love or even about men and real sex until I met him almost a year ago. The problem is when I am with him I am constantly watching over my back. He says that I have him to protect me but if my family found out I could easily disappear and I am not kidding around. How do I break away without putting myself at risk? Please give me a solution.
*To my readers. She requested I only highlight her predicament but she wants my reply to her to be private.
Maurice,
It is unfortunate that in this day and age people still racially profile each other. It’s a shame that in the so called modern society we live in we judge by race, tribe, social status & background and many other unwritten customary and traditional ‘by-laws’ that are so out dated.
I hope with generations to come that attitudes will change and one will be judged on character and merit and not by skin colour.
mauricetherapy 
Maurice I can relate. I married outside my tribe and until today it’s still frowned upon, it is sad, but I fought for my man. My husband’s family were also determined to make sure we had our way. Some tribes really need to change otherwise why pretend we are Kenyans yet we harbor negatives thoughts about each other. I am certain this story will hit a nerve with many of your readers.
i don’t think this is about race or tribe… if u never loved before getting married, n u haven’t learn t to love till now, u guys were never meant to be. love goes beyond tribal ties. thats y u are getting that love from somewhere else, because stolen love affairs are always sweeter than whet we have in reality. thats why you hide and have to look behind you every time u r with the other guy.
not loving your hubby is one thing, cheating on him is another. whichever gets your guilt tickled is probably wrong, but then again we are different…my advice, deal with life with honesty and you will have no regerets
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