mauricetherapy

Dear Maurice,

I have dated my boyfriend for 3 years since campus. In early February I traveled with friends to Mombasa where I met this guy. At first we were just friends but 2 weeks after we returned to Nairobi I went back to Coast. I knew it was wrong but I couldn’t stay away, I wanted to know what this guy was all about.

Maurice replies,

It sounds like you and your boyfriend are having problems, is that the case?

She replies,

Our relationship is not perfect but I do love my boyfriend, but even so things that guy in Coast said drove me to travel back.

Maurice asks,

So what happened when you went back?

She replies,

We had sex and I loved it. No guy had ever made me feel the way that guy did. It was intense and for the first time I could feel him inside me. We have always had a problem with my boyfriend, he’s not that small but it takes me to concentrate before I can orgasm. Sometimes I can’t orgasm when we have sex so I have to play with myself. It has been frustrating over the years but I’ve never been able to tell my boyfriend fearing his reaction. But now with this other guy in the picture I am confused, I don’t know what to do. Apart from the sex the other guy is older and we click a lot, we can talk for hours, plus he is a sweet guy.

Maurice replies,

Its evident that you have explored the World and found sweeter pastures. But you must be careful, feelings can cloud your judgment and create a false sense of reality. You may have found a sweet guy who’s tongue is full of sweet nothings however he may also tirn out to be your soulmate at the end of it all. Only you can make that final judgment. I know you say you love your boyfriend, but are you off him sexually?

She replies,

Maurice I don’t feel guilty, what does that say, my boyfriend tries to please me in bed and if that doesn’t work he constantly treats me out and buys me gifts. But that is not doing anything for me. Am I a bad person for enjoying sex with another man and wanting to have more? Oh and by the way I did a test and I am pregnant, and I know for sure its not my boyfriend’s.

Maurice asks,

How can you be so sure?

She replies,

I don’t know what that guy in Coast does to me but he made me break my long time promise to myself, we had sex without protection. But with my boyfriend we have always used protection. The idea was to have unprotected sex on our wedding night.

Maurice asks,

Why did you sexually trust in a stranger over your boyfriend?

She replies,

When I returned to visit he insisted that we get tested so we did, how he convinced me I don’t know. Once we knew our status I felt I could trust him and thats how we ended up having sex. I must admit the more I think about his sex the more I want to go back. I don’t know if love is in the air but I am very drawn to the Coast guy. What do you advise?

Maurice replies,

For one the Coast guy is very calculative, he planned every step to gain your trust. Now, I can’t improve your sex life with your boyfriend especially now that you have met ‘Mr Stud’ in Coast neither can I tell you to stay away in the hope that your lust for Mombasa will fade. My advise is that you follow your heart.

And if you really don’t feel your boyfriend as you once did then break it off with him, not for the Coast guy but for your own peace of mind and it’s only fair not to string your boyfriend along as you establish your affair with the other guy. Have you shared with your boyfriend or the other about your pregnancy?

She replies,

No. I definitely can’t tell my boyfriend he will flip.

Maurice asks,

I’m assuming you are keeping the baby? I recommend you redo the test, it could be a false alarm, those tests are not always 100%. If you are pregnant then for sure you need to come clean with your boyfriend unless you leave him before you start showing. My dear you have choices that will define your future to make. In my opinion its important for you to tell the father that you are pregnant so that you learn of their reaction to the news. From there hence forth you will know whether you are in this pregnancy alone or with a partner by your side. Keep me posted on the developments.