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Dear Maurice,

What would cause a girl to dog on you even after you have given her everything she has ever asked for?

Maurice replies,

There are many reasons, why do you ask?

He replies,

I have been dating my girlfriend for 3 years and in those years she has put me through a lot. Like most people she loves to have a great time and she’s high maintenance if you know what I mean. I can afford it so over the 3 years I have given her a good lifestyle. I provide for her emotionally and financially but it never seems to be enough to make me feel like she’s exclusively mine.

Maurice asks,

You doubt her loyalty to you?

He replies,

I don’t doubt, I know she is unfaithful. I have caught her several times. In fact just this weekend, we were in Nakuru for Rugby and I caught her making out with some random guy. Needless to say, we did not leave Nakuru together, she disappeared after our argument.

Maurice asks,

Considering it seems to be a trend, why does she keep playing you, have you asked her?

He replies,

She always blames her drinking. The fact is she does go out of control when she gets tipsy.

Maurice replies,

But that’s no excuse, and stop making excuses for her otherwise our dialogue is non-productive. I believe when you decide to kiss / make out with someone other than your partner it’s a conscious decision you make whether under the influence or not. If I may ask, how old are you both?

He replies,

She is 22 and I am 34.

Maurice replies,

From one man to another, I think you know what I’m going to say regarding your generation gap. It’s not about it being a stereo type scenario but really what do you expect from a young 22 year old hyper girl. The question here is not if she can love you? The question is, can she love you the way you expect to be loved? I haven’t met her so I’m only speculating, but in my opinion she is not ready to think like you or share the same future path. It’s only fair that you put yourself in her shoes, what were you doing at her age?

He replies,

At her age I was reading hard to succeed in life. I didn’t get to play hard the way she does.

Maurice replies,

If I were you I would let her live her life. Compared to you she is still exploring her path in life which includes ‘having fun’. I’m sure I don’t need to tell you this.

He replies,

I hear you but I have strong feelings for her despite how she behaves at times.

Maurice asks,

So you love her?

He replies,

Yes I do.

Maurice replies,

It’s your choice to stay with her, but be ready for more heartaches in the future. She will grow out of it ‘eventually’ however how much more can you take of her playful manner with other guys? Only you can decide whether she’s worth the trouble.

He replies,

I won’t lie to you, I don’t think I can let her go.

Maurice replies,

Then be ready to endure whatever she throws at you. How often do you voice out your concerns?

He replies,

Dude, she apologises and I let it go, only for her to do something else I don’t approve of.

Maurice replies,

Like I said, it’s your choice, if you make your bed you need to sleep in it. I’m guessing she gives you numerous satisfying pleasures hence why you can’t leave her, I don’t blame you but beware because she’s much younger than you. Her social explorations are not fading away any time soon. Another thing, it doesn’t matter how much you spend on her, it will never guarantee her loyalty to you.