Dear Maurice,
Dude I like what you are trying to do here but society in my opinion sucks. I am proud to be Kenyan but I am not proud of what our society has become. I was married to the love of my life for 7 years. On the 5th year I traveled about for further studies, not just for me but to better life for myself and my wife. She had the choice to join me abroad but she did not want to interrupt her career and I understood where she was coming from. After all you are meant to consider each other’s aspirations and dreams in a marriage.
Maurice replies,
It sounds like the perfect balance.
He replies,
Yes it does on paper but the reality is that my boy was tapping my wife about 4 months into my departure. This was my boy, the one guy I trusted with my life. with my wife. I was there for him when he went through a messy divorce and that was his thank you to me, what a friend absolutely hopeless. I am so glad we hadn’t started having children that would have been a mess. I don’t even know why I am telling you all this, maybe I just needed an outlet and you provide the best forum for it. I guess I also want other men to know that trusting your male friends is at your own risk. I would like to believe there are men out there who are real pals but they must be a rare breed.
Maurice asks,
How did you find out about the affair?
He replies,
A year before I came back home I suspected something but I had no idea it involved a friend of mine. My wife’s attention changed, she would not text or call or facebook me as she did before. When I would try and call she would not always answer my calls and later make up some excuse to why she didn’t answer or reply. I was afraid to acknowledge a breakdown in our marriage, I wished for it to be my own insecurities but the truth eventually came to me via other friends plus my wife owned up to it saying she was lonely and vulnerable at the time. She asked me to forgive and that she had learned her a lesson and would never repeat it again.
It was too late for me. I learned a valuable lesson, which was being a good man to your woman never pays. I have given up on women in totality.Before I got married a played all the games men play with women so when I got married it was time for me to change my ways and dedicate myself to one woman. For what I now ask myself? I had all the chances to fuck around while away but I fought temptation and was loyal at all times. Another thing that hurts is that my wife made me vow numerous times that I would be faithful to her unconditionally and I kept that promise as her man, again for what!
Maurice replies,
Mate I would be lying to say I know what you are going through but don’t punish all women for one woman’s mistake. You are right to some point, not all women appreciate a good man but there are those who do so don’t give up on women.
He replies,
Maurice I play by my own rules nowadays, I put myself first. After I gave up our life and left her the house and car I started a fresh. I went from the picket fence mansion to a one bedroom apartment but I am happy. I don’t answer to anyone and won’t be doing so for a long while to come. More like never. No one can give me back my 7 years of dedication so I am not willing to entrust another woman with my time and love. My policy with women is simple, we hookup, we have fun, we fuck, and fuck some more then we part ways till we need each other for more fun.
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That’s all I have to say, looks like Maurice found out the hard way. Had he been lucky like I was finding this blog like I did in my 20’s it probably would have saved him a lot of heartache. It destroys every stupid naive fantasy you might have about love, women and people in general tho’.
Nothing wrong in knowing who and what we are deadline with. We call us human but in reality we are nothing more than primates. Throughout life I’ve seen firsthand how people act and make decisions like they were still chimps/cavemen. And that’s exactly what we are, 10 000 years of civilization of 150 000 years as a specie? Civilization hasn’t changed our brains. The guy going after a stupid but good looking girl and neglecting a faithful hardworking plain Jane – that’s our chimp brain. Hundreds of millions of girls going after men they know are bad for them – that’s cave girl brain looking for the alpha male. Wake up people, there’s no such thing as “the one”. A girl is easier to keep if you are moderately mean and aloof from time to time – it’s just the truth! And you know it! Back in your subconscious minds you all know men only go for looks and maybe faithfulness and girls go for social status, strength and confidence (preferably in a ass hole-way). You are well aware of this, and since you are, how can you believe in such a thing as love? The woman that says she loves you will lust after any man that is more alpha than you, and if she feels she safely can switch partner the fantasy will become reality (remember, only if she feels it’s safe, a monkey only let’s go of one branch after he’s got a good grip on another one).
The only way we can go back to “love” as it was in the ol’ days is if we get really religious again and exercise harsh punishment and social shaming for adultery and divorce and make the men wear the pants again, because the only love a female can feel for a man is respect, if he’s the alpha in the household he will have that. Women like when men are more powerful than them and shun weak feminist men like the plague. So in a way you can make a woman love you, make her respect you and FEAR crossing your line.
Dear Maurice,
I feel really bad for your boy. Am truly sorry that the so called “love of his life” made him change and not appreciate women and love all together.
Personally, I blame the wife as she was the one supposed to uphold her vows and keep her marriage together. I feel your boy coz I was there and loved with all my heart only to have my hubby cheat on me and make me stop being the Naive little gal and became this bitter person for a while.
Please dont give up on women and love there are good people out there. Maybe this gal was not for you and its sad it took 7years. Random sex is just a way for you to deal with the pain in your heart but its not helping. Take some time out to reflect and focus on the way forward. Please, please dont let this cheat of a woman and boy change you as you will have let them win.
dude, as hard as it may be, forgiving that woman and working through the issues one day at a time will almost guarantee the perfect woman in your life – if such a thing exists. You’ve had your revenge, and, she is, like you said, ”the love of your life” A very rare thing. Many people never find that. You did. The one who can NEVER be forgiven is your boy. But then again, as a rule your close pals are the most likely to do something coz there already exists an emotional relationship btwn them and your woman. Fact.
Random sex with myriad random girls may be enjoyable, but nothing beats sex with a woman you truly love, esp when described as ”the love of my life” Random sex becomes empty, not to mention dangerous. I know. Having to use a condom all the time is just shitty, and with whisky in the system, mistakes are bound to happen! I know.
Go back to your woman. Go back to the love of your life.
I wish her can learn to trust again afterall most people have been thru such heartaches.
Poor Maurice. Forgive and move on. You will find love again once thats done. Good luck!