mauricetherapy

Dear Maurice,

 I am 29 and I have been married for almost 6 years now. I don’t know how to say this but here goes. My husband is below par in bed and I was wondering if there was any remedy to this problem. I am tired of faking it. He used arouse me to climax or maybe that was just in my head I’m not too sure but I’m sure that for the last 5 years he has received plenty of pleasure and left me hanging. He says I am too sweet so he can’t control his urge to you know what. Is that true?

Maurice replies,

I wish I could attest it to you being sweet but that’s not the reason. Some men have a penile mishap when it comes to ejaculating too quickly. In regards to remedies, I recommend that he pulls out when he feels that sensation then he can continue arousing you either orally or by using his fingers. You must find what works for you. After the sensation subsides he can penetrate you again. There is no known pill that can prolong his urge or should I say delay the sensation. There are types creams and sprays that men can use to apply on their penis head but I would not recommend the use of these products, main reason because they can become addictive.

She asks,

Are you saying that every time we have sex he has to pull out as a way of prolonging our sex?

Maurice replies,

Yes. I do not want to give you unrealistic solutions that may not be helpful or may make things worse.

She replies,

I do not think things can get any worse. I also read about the delaying products but how would I even introduce it into our sex life without implying he is under performing?

Maurice replies,

Good point. Once you introduce any product he will immediately feel inadequate and thereafter your sex life will be none existent. I believe the ultimate goal here is how to get you to enjoy sex, which means getting you to orgasm?

She replies,

Yes, but my man never goes down on me so that option is not on the cards.

Maurice comments,

I’m assuming your husband’s fingers are all in place, if so cut his nails to avoid hurting you while he arouses you using lubricated fingers. You also need to show him where and how to touch, sex is not plug and play plus every woman has unique arousal points caused by an array of touch styles. I know you were hoping for a remedy that would make him the stud on the year but nothing about sex is rushed. When you met your husband you knew his performance abilities but you suck with him. Is that a bad thing? No, that was the choice you made. So now instead of focusing on what doesn’t work, introduce new arouse technique ideas into your sex life and explore what works for you. Oh, you said your husband has never gone down on you, well my dear you have to get him to want to explore, if you don’t try it how will you ever know if it is good or bad for you.