mauricetherapy

Dear Maurice,

I have been dating my boyfriend for a year. He is sweet but lacking experience in the bedroom department. I am frustrated because I have never cum once with him I always have to fake it and its getting a bit tedious.

Maurice asks,

I feel your frustration however this is a question I have asked so many times its also becoming tedious for me, when you first slept with him you clearly did not enjoy the sex, then you repeated the same act over and over and now its been one year. Did you think his penis was ‘playing hard to get’ or should I say ‘hard to please’? It may seem a bit harsh but its a logical question.

She replies,

Maurice please be nice. I did not fall for him just for sex. I love him and I thought he would improve and learn to satisfy me after a while. My girlfriends told me about certain positions that would make it more enjoyable for me and I have tried them all.

Maurice asks,

Let me guess, none have worked otherwise you wouldn’t be writing to me.

She replies,

One almost worked, I felt something different but then he came and the feeling went. He then fell asleep.

Maurice comments,

I see, so your girlfriends fed you with sex tips that elevated your man’s penile sensations but not your own which was the ultimate goal in the first place. In the one year have you enjoyed sex at all I know I implied you haven’t but I would rather hear it from you?

She replies,

I do enjoy when he goes down on me but that’s about it. He really does try to please me but he just doesn’t get me there.

Maurice comments,

Please expound on ‘he doesn’t get you there’, I would hate some readers to think he was actually driving you somewhere.

She replies,

Lol. Maurice he gets tired fast. When he cums I am pleased because at least I know I excite him. But I need him to do the same for me. I know I can orgasm but not with him.

Maurice comments,

Hmmm…. and how do you know this?

She replies,

During the weekend of Sevens I met a guy on the Saturday and on that night we ended up in Naivasha. He was with his pals and I was with 2 of my girls. In short one thing led to another and we had sex. It was, I am lost for words, this guy made me feel things I had not felt before even tough I had cum with another guy years back. We have each other’s numbers but I am avoiding his calls because I know where it will lead. I have already been unfaithful and I don’t want to repeat it though the temptation is there. The other down side is that this other guy made it clear that he is not looking for a relationship but he is willing to have a no strings attached thing with me. I want stability and I don’t want to share a man with other women which I know will be the case with the Naivasha guy.

Maurice replies,

My dear. First thing, your boyfriend’s penis is not going to learn new tricks and he is surely not going to mutate into the ‘between the sheets’ stud you want him to be. And despite the signs of no thrills, no fire works you continued to date him and took advise from friends who are not about to grow a penis anytime soon, no pun intended.

The question now is are you prepared to settle for less? You strayed because you needed to seek that vaginal stimulation that you so yearned for and lucky for you the guy you met delivered to your satisfaction. However you still have a dilemma ‘don’t you’, I know you want this new guy and the odds are you will have sex with him again. You knew what you were doing when you traveled to Naivasha and as a woman you knew that the chances of sleeping with this Sevens attendee were pretty high. I know you may not like his terms of ‘friends with benefits’ which is really what he was saying but can you really let go of that chance to receive a second dose of his magical rod?

She replies,

Maurice you are not helping. You are supposed to steer me away from temptation and tell me how to make things right with my boyfriend.

Maurice replies,

I am only stating facts and the probability of you and your boyfriend lasting another year is bleak, I wish I could tell you otherwise but I have dealt with too many of these scenarios not to know the realistic odds. Unless you surprise me and stick with your man unconditionally your only option is to break up with him. I am not saying this because I think sex is the long lasting answer to sustaining a relationship but where you have one person who is sexually active and demands for nothing less than satisfaction then it’s almost impossible to switch that sexual part of you. If your partner can not keep up with your appetite he is as good as a restaurant that only serves small portions of vegan meals while you seek a chunky steak served with a generous portion of girthy potato wedges.

Whatever you chose to do remember you can’t switch off who you are sexually and you should never do it for anyone. Explore your sexuality and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You said the only time you enjoy sex with your boyfriend is when he goes down on you. That’s great but unless he is willing to suspend penetration to constantly go down on you which is impractical in itself your options are limited to only one.

She replies,

Maurice I understand what you are saying but I can not hurt him I would rather continue as we are. I know I won’t be able to resist this other guy so what will be will be. I can have my boyfriend to love me and I can keep the other guy as my thing on the side. This is not what I was hoping to hear by writing to you but you have pointed out a lot that I had over looked.

Maurice replies,

I hear you. But for how long do you think you will double deal. I am willing to bet that if you continue to see this new guy you will fall for him and your time spent with your boyfriend will gradually wither and he will notice. Then arguments will start and you will tell him that he is paranoid and that all is well its just that you are busy at work or wherever, you see, one action will cause a ripple effect that will raise other issues between you and your boyfriend. Having the two men in your life is not going to be a bed of roses especially if the new guy is an alpha male, then your boyfriend will be truly fucked. Make a choice and stick with it. If you make the wrong one then expect consequences. Oh before I forget, did the Naivasha guy fall asleep after sex?

She replies,

No, why?

Maurice comments,

I am profiling him. So you guys cuddled and had pillow talk I assume?

She replies,

Maurice I was the one who fell asleep after what seemed to be the longest sex I have ever had. In the morning he told me that he just lay there watching me I thought that was sweet of him.

Maurice comments,

I don’t envy your boyfriend. Do let me know what you decide even though I can bet on it that your eventual choice is obvious.