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Maurice I thought your interracial article was quite enlightening. I have been married for 8 years to the most loving man a woman could wish for, he is a Swede and I am Kenyan.

 We have two kids in their teens. You must be asking how old I am but I won’t say for now. From the beginning of our courtship I always suspected that one day I would regret one crucial part of our marriage, our sex life has had it’s ups and downs however my husband was never the kind of man who took sex as a big deal I guess that was one quality about him that I loved.

Unlike previous relationships with Kenyan men who initially just wanted to get between my legs before establishing our dating status; my husband was very different. I guess he was the perfect gentleman. We went out on dates for about 8 months before we had sex, it was bliss, it was romantic, he made me feel special and it was all new to me so no wonder he became mine to keep and cherish.

But now I have a problem, the qualities that made me fall inlove have come to haunt me. I don’t know what is happening to my body but in the last three years I have craved sex more than I used to and my husband is not able to fulfill my need. Last year he moved out for a week accusing me of cheating and no I did not. I fell out of love with Kenyan men a long time ago and going back is not an option. Although I must admit that I once dated a man who knew my body inside out, the sex was great but he was a serial cheater. He came back home and apologised though I knew it was my constant need for sex that sparked the argument. I love my husband but I can’t control my sexual desires and I only go to him to quench my need for love making but it’s taking a toll on him though being a man he won’t tell me. I see how had he tries to keep up with me but when he gets tired before me which is more often than not I see the disappointment in his eyes. Maurice I know I am crushing his ego and I need you to tell me how to establish a balance, it may sound selfish but I need to satisfy my craving with my husband so help me?

Maurice ask’s,

How often do you have sex on average and how often do you cum over that period?

She replied,

We have sex at least 3 times a week, once a day and depending on his energy levels, mind you he is only four years older than me, I can say I cum once and sometimes twice over the week. You see my problem.

Maurice asks,

Do you have sex within an hour or 2 after a full meal? Is your sex spontenious or is it semi-planned, I ask because your husband is aware of his duty which he must embark on to try and satisfy you. This can result to below average sex sessions because instead of it being fun it because a job, an obligation ‘literally’ which over time elevates your husband’s stress and lowers his urge for sex which leads him to being unable to maintain an erection long enough to satisfy you or pleasure you at all. Remember he knows that he has to keep up with you, that will surely make him feel less of a man.

She replies,

Yes we normally have a meal then put on a movie, which we never finish watching for obvious reasons, or we just get straight to the deed. I see your point.

Maurice’s replies,

It’s not standard practise for men to be taught when to eat before sex but I recommend that you have sex, make love, whatever you want to call it at least 4 hours before a heavy meal, though you can  have small portions within those hours. This allows for sufficient blood flow to the right place.

In addition, I advised strongly that you have a ‘ego boosting’ chat with your husband and tell him that your sex drive has gone up and you still and will always find him ‘sexy’, a stud, your stud, your stallion. What ever it takes to uplift his manhood it’s key to your sex life. Men too like to be reassured just as often as women do the only difference is use words and phrases that would relate to man. You know your man well ‘I assume’ so make him feel ontop of th World and adopt foreplay so that he arouses you as he follows instructions of what areas of your body make you tick, make you tingle, make you want to scream. Some sexual momentum must be created before the ‘maincourse’ if you get my drift and once your man ‘visually’ notices that you are getting turned on it will turn him on too. The adoptation of foreplay instead of getting straight into intercourse will alliviate the pressure of your husband having to over work himself. In time your husband’s mind set will change with your new method of building up to the ‘maincourse’.

Sex is a very physical action whether done slowly or with vigour however if the mind is not set to ‘stimulate’ the feel good juices that are released in our brains then the act of sex will not be enjoyable. Go down on each other, if you like it that is, touch each other, you have grown to know your bodies well so now take a course in teaching each other about your bodies. It’s a refresher course, highly recommended.

Give him saliva lubricated blow jobs, hand jobs, ask him how he like his member stroked, it’s all about changing his mind set so that he feels that you still find him manly that will improve your sex life over time. You are aware of your change of sex drive now impliment other sexual acts that arouse both of you and let it not be about the end result, let it be about exploring, having fun and incorporate food into your sex life as part of your foreplay if you both agree to it. Also tell him repeatedly over your sex session ‘in a sexy voice’ where your most sensitive areas are and how you want him to play with them.

Sex is a journey and there are many pit stops of pleasure along the way so stop thinking about the destination and enjoy the trip, enjoy the thrills of all human senses, get wild google ‘arousal points’ and see if they work for both of you. Remember you can only find when you explore.