mauricetherapy

According to me an ex can be anyone you were ever involved with, the time period or any relationship titles are not relevant, its simply two people who had some form of obligation to each other and things eventually went south. Let’s review what happens to relationships. How cozy everything and everyone is then the walls cave in, why?

A fling; two people meet up, maybe spend some time to know each other then one of them in time if they read the signals of attraction right, they take a chance and reveal their liking for the other. They then make it clear that they don’t want a very ‘serious’ or ‘heavy’ relationship, they just want a fling. Personally I’ve never literally weighed a relationship so I have no idea how heavy it can get!

Anyway back to the story in hand, after receiving the ‘declaration’ of fatal attraction the other person (normally the woman) has to decide whether they are OK with a non serious relationship, meaning they are not entirely exclusive to each other. The woman then says ‘yes’ to the idea of seeing this guy. At this point it’s pretty clear that whatever happens between them should not grow beyond the status of a fling.

Do you realize that this fling type of relationship slowing evolves into friends with benefits? This phenomenon occurs with frequent visitations that end up steamy if you get my drift. Oh yes it does, agree or disagree your mind will play tricks on you and you won’t even know it. At this point you know each other pretty well and it helps if you were almost hitting the friendship only zone, but got derailed and fell for each other instead, because by then you share stuff that you would normally not share with a random person who you met at a social place and liked immediately. Because human beings with their ‘first impressions count’ theory have a way of sugar coating their personalities hence why every ‘dog’ used to be a nice charming guy ‘you see the circle’ of inconclusive profiling! But hey there are some good loving people out there ‘somewhere’ I think it’s far, you may need a visa to reach them ‘I don’t know’ when you find them do let me know.

So at the stage of friends with benefits the two get comfy in this relationship setting and without knowing one suddenly has a change of heart. What change of heart you ask! Well they one day, while in the house, just enjoying each other’s company stare deep into their ‘friend with benefits eyes’ and see a new person, a reborn sense of liking that has matured to ‘Love’ but they dare not say because it will ruin everything. Which means they are now going to play a role instead of being ‘themselves’ as they were before.

What has changed, come on let’s not BS each other…. what has changed really; the man is still as handsome or ugly as before, his penis is still the same size unless a new pill has been launched for mega girth and length, his bedroom skills are still above average ‘hopefully’, the girl’s appearance is still the same ‘sizzling hot’, more to the point her vagina has not moved to her chin that could be challenging during a BJ ‘so much choice in one area’. I mean everything can’t be upstairs, no more going ‘down town’ and I do love my Chinese if you get my drift!

The relationship has mutated, one of you is so in love but can’t say it and the other is playing by the same rules enjoying every moment as they did before but wait!!!! They notice a change in the playfulness of the other, the play is more sentimental, more lovey dovey, more ‘honey’ can we just cuddle, more ‘baby’ please massage me gently and after I’ll surprise you with a delicious meal…. the other is thinking ‘what happened to us tearing each others clothes off at a drop of a hat’ whenever we met anywhere and everywhere.

Now it’s all mushy and tender ‘why are we marinating our meat and having romantic picnics instead of answering to our primal instincts and having animalistic sex out of town in a foreign place. It’s not even called ‘love making’ its sensual but rough ‘you feel me’, its sweaty and no one cares about the shower, the natural human scent does just fine to arouse the shaft but now Armani, Gucci and Calvin Klein have invaded your sex life to the point where at times you’re finding it hard to breath with all the new nostril overpowering fragrances that in turn lower libido or ‘staying power’ because you need air to flow through your blood to maintain your erection. But for some reason designer products and a ‘love struck partner’ who has totally gone through some form of metamorphosis into someone you just don’t recognize is not enough ‘evidence’ for you to flag up an anomaly in the relationship. Instead just like them you start to play your ‘nothing has changed role’ and yet people are surprised that at one point they give up on each other. It’s because of this faking, this acting that was not necessary that caused your relationship type to collapse. If you find a formula that works for you please ‘stick to it’.