Dear Maurice,
I have been following your work for some time now and I need your opinion on my current love life. I am dating 3 men. Let me explain. About 2 years ago I started dating this guy and by our fourth month I got bored and met this married man who treated me so well and still does to date. Then a year ago I met the third guy who I am in-love with but I feel the need to dump him because he treats me with a degree of arrogance. He is hardly there for me, he does not make any effort to pursue me. He loves it when its me in need of him. We can even be out clubbing and he decides to leave me there alone not minding how I will get home or even my safety.
Maurice asks,
How can I help?
She replies,
I fell in-love with him because he felt right, there was a sense of ownership, that I can have a man of my own, whom I don’t need to share. He was a distraction from the married man but shock on me. This guy mistreats me and only tries to make me happy when it suits him. He is hot and cold, but mostly cold and yet I find myself hanging out with him, why, only the Universe knows.
To be honest despite my love for Mr ‘mistreatment’, I still regard the married man as my first
option. He is mature, focused, pleasant to speak to and has no dramas unlike Mr you know who. I love the way he wines & dines me. I love the fact that I get to dress up and look fabulous for him.
Did I mention Mr ‘mistreatment’ has a temper and likes fighting with men who look at me. I am laughing as I type because I have just remembered that I mentioned the interest of having a private session with you to Mr ‘mistreatment’ and he got so annoyed, he was so insecure. But when I mentioned you to the married man he was so up for it, his exact words were ‘go learn and teach me’. So open minded and believes in his own manhood. I find that sexy.
Whether he has been joking or not, the married man has be consistent in telling me that he can have me as his second wife if I am ready. I have always declined but now I want to give it a try. He has promised a lot and he is the only man who has been there for me financially without pressure for sex. Oh, by the way, we have not slept together in all that time even when we go out of town we just cuddle and spoon till morning. Maurice, this man is mature and responsible and I connect with him.
The other thing I like about him is that he does not speak ill of his wife. Though, I once had a confrontation with her but that is a story for another day. Maurice, this man can give me a good life and provide well for me. At first I was reluctant to invest my feelings hence how I met Mr ‘mistreatment’ but now I want to risk it. Unless I venture I will never know what could have been.
Maurice asks,
You seem to have left out the first guy, am curious to know whats going on there?
She replies,
He is like my spare wheel, he has his use when I need him to do a few things for me but his expiry date is coming up real soon.
Maurice asks,
How old are you and how old is the married man?
She replies,
I am 23, he is 35.
Maurice replies,
I am not one to follow societal rules but have you thought about your family, will they embrace your decision to date a married man and embark on the journey of being his second wife. Is the wife even aware that her husband plans to introduce polygamy to his matrimony! In short, are you ready for possible resistance from a variety of people. What you do with your life is your business but your choices will have consequences. Men can be extremely convincing when they have an agenda that suits them. You need to trend carefully as much as you believe he is being honest with you. You must ascertain that his words have substance so that you avoid being a victim of the euphoria of what could be your near perfect life. Indeed, your goal may be achieved but you must evaluate the down sides of your actions to avoid being just another statistic while the man continues living his life as you wallow in misery and regret.
She replies,
Noted Maurice. I told him that I need to see him about the promises he made. He knows am ready to be his and I am willing to weather the storm until my wants and desires are realised with him. I told him if his wife was that good he wouldn’t be with me and anyway am not here to fight her, I just need to secure my place in his life. He wants a baby and I am giving him one without question. But first I need to dismiss the luggage I am carrying so I can concentrate on one man. He must also show that he will cater for me and the baby for the long haul. Maurice, thank you so much for your insight. I appreciate your time.
Maurice replies,
Anytime my dear. Please keep me in the loop.
She replies,
Will do. Have a good evening.
mauricetherapy 
too young, dont be in a hurry, take your time.
My comment is not directed to the number of men you have, “are you able to separate your wants from your needs?” and again what things do you value most? Take time with yourself soberly and outline those issues. Tune yourself to vibrations of love.
“He is hardly there for me, he does not make any effort to pursue me. He loves it when its me in need of him.”
Cardinal Rule of Relationships: In any relationship, the person with the most power is the one who needs the other the least. – Tomassi
“We can even be out clubbing and he decides to leave me there alone not minding how I will get home or even my safety.”
“Oh, by the way, we have not slept together in all that time even when we go out of town we just cuddle and spoon till morning. Maurice, this man is mature and responsible and I connect with him.”