mauricetherapy

Dear Maurice,
I am currently dating a beautiful woman who I met 2 months ago. I am 31 and she is 25. When we met we quickly hit it off and within a week we were officially boyfriend and girlfriend and so far things are good apart from one thing that has happened about 4 times.

 
Maurice asks,
What is going on at this early stage of your relationship?

 
He replies,
I might be over reacting but I needed your sincere advice about her calling another man’s name when we are having sex, is she in love with this other guy?

 
Maurice replies,
First let’s get your scenario into context; are you saying she calls out another man’s name while you are having intercourse or at what stage does she call his name?

 
He replies,
She calls out his name when she is having an orgasm but not before that. It has not affected my sex drive for her but I need to know whether she will be running back to the guy?

 
Maurice asks,
Do you know who the guy is by any chance?

 
He replies,
Yes he is her ex boyfriend.

 
Maurice asks,
When did she break up with him and for how long did she date him?

 
He replies,
They broke up 5 months ago and they had dated for 6 years. Am I some kind of rebound for her?

 
Maurice replies,
You could indeed be her rebound however is she aware that you know about her name calling?

 
He replies,
Yes, I asked her the first time it happened then she cried and apologized but I comforted her and told her I just need to understand her feelings for her ex. She then told me that she was very much in love with him and that she wants to move on after he cheated on her several times but a part of her still feels for him. I asked her if I should give her space, she declined my suggestion to leave her alone and told me that she will not allow her ex to ruin her future with me. Her exact words were “I want you by my side always I am never going back to him”.

 
Maurice replies,
Now my good man you seem to be a sensible man who looks at the rational logic rather than react emotionally. That is a good trait. Considering she seems to know what she wants you need to ask yourself why she calls out his name when she is experiencing an orgasm, the answer is simple, it’s because his name was the default name for 6 years. You are not the first man to experience this name calling scenario but what puts you apart from other men is that you did not let it affect your sex drive after all it’s your penis causing her orgasms which in itself is a bonus considering orgasms for many women are a scarcity. Question, do you want to continue dating her?

 
He replies,
Yes I do.

 
Maurice replies,
Good man. Even if you left her and met some other woman she might end up being a mute in bed so I would stick with the screamer if I were you. In my opinion, what you need to do is be patient, her emotional attachment at some point will exhaust itself and before you know it, it will be your name she screams out.

 
He replies,
What you are saying it’s my job to fade out that other guy from her memory and I will. Thanks for your advice.