Dear Maurice,
I have never had to write to a man to thank him for bedroom tips but my wife said it is the least I can do and that I should swallow my bride for once. This is basically feedback from a man’s point of view in relation to what we started last year in September. Personally I thought you were overly blunt and arrogant
though that was my first impression of you. My current impression of you and your work has changed over the months mainly because you consistently gave us a choice to either step up as a couple or to give up on each other. Apart from the sexual component you have bridged that communication gap that my wife and I had subconsciously created over the years. As skeptical as I was about you and your motives I realised, or rather we realised, that you were right when you said that marriage is not difficult, it is the choices that couples make within marriage that make marriage difficult. My wife and I had really fought for a while to make our marriage work. By the time we approached you we had reached our limit. We lacked communication and that had an adverse side effect to our sex life. Now to the sex department, as hard as this is for me let me tell you that we have adopted your tips and implemented quite a few of those tips. I never thought I would go down on a woman but guess what, I did it for my wife and admittedly I had declined to perform an act that I have come to actually like. Honestly I was afraid of that fish smell and taste that you are told of as you are growing up and as you unequivocally stated ‘do not knock it till you have tried it’. So I did try it and to my surprise I 
like it. It did help that you advise us to move from our normal atmosphere our home and to a Hotel room and the role play also helped. We both joked about the night we would role play but it was fun playing the role with different names. As you had said it was more or less like being part of a cast and we both wanted to try anything for the sake of our 11 year marriage. Believe it or not we actually took on the identities of our favorite characters that are on the sex dvd that you gave us. Conservatively I can say we have watched that dvd over 10 times since September. I have not yet grasped that art of making my wife squirt but boy is that not a wonder of the World. I had never heard of such a thing till I met you and after reading your blog you have opened us to a new way of thinking about our sex life. And to answer your question I did not believe you when you said that my tongue was more powerful than my penis, it was actually an insult to me however after our first Hotel role play I realised that I was selfish and did not consider my wife during sex for many years. At the Hotel I bit the bullet and as instructed I went down on her and I spread her labia as you had advised and proceeded to gently maintain a tongue stroke that was comfortable for both of us and after about 20 minutes to my pleasant shock, I made my wife gain an orgasm and my penis was not involved. Again as you described the succession, I felt very masculine to have achieved that using
my tongue, a sense of power indeed. She also demonstrated a few positions that I liked. We had never used chocolate or yoghurt during sex and I must admit it was a lot of fun, we had several laughs during sex, that was unheard of in the past and the role play made the hours glide by. Let me quote you “sex is not about the destination but the journey”. When I met you I thought you were either a really good poet or just talking through your ass but now I know better. From one man to another, you are doing well for couples and your determination, confidence and passion for your work is paying off. I can’t speak for other couples but your guidance has yielded progressive positive results for us.
Thank you Mr Matheka.
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THIS YEAR I WANT TO HOST TAILORED SESSIONS FOR MEN. MEN HATE TO TALK AND SHARE SO INSTEAD BECAUSE MEN ARE VISUAL THEY CAN WATCH AND GET TIPS FROM A LIVE SHOW
Interested parties should contact me. When I receive confirmation from 15 men through payment of Ksh3,000 per head then I will set a suitable date and time. I will organise the venue. I foresee the first session taking place in February so I will await your confirmation.
mauricetherapy 
Maurice, this year men should attempt to learn it won’t hurt them. Do they ever ask themselves how come you know what you know, it is only logical that you educated yourself. It is all about sexual education, the more you know the better you are, if that is not an incentive for men then there’s no hope for women.
@Naomi…… Maurice has one hell of a job dealing with our egotistical men but I support what he is trying to do.
My husband is so shady if I booked us into a hotel for an erotic night he would wonder then ask a stupid question and mess it all up
After 11 years of marriage and you still feel each other I envy them.
Good job Maurice.
I am happy to see that men are able to swallow their pride for the sake of saving their marriage. I have been married for 27 years and I know how important sexuality in marriage. The minute you get used to each other and put sex on the back bench is the minute you set in motion the possibilities for infidelity. Lucky for me my husband came to me and told me to my face that we had a problem in the bedroom, that our sex had become stale. I had 2 choices, to get mad or hear him out. I heard him out that is why we are still married and I swallowed my bruised pride as a woman and made a conscious decision to be sexier and we both put effort into making sure our sex life was spicy. I must emphasis that foreplay is critical. I orgasm through clitoral stimulation so I had to google information with my husband so that he understands that intercourse alone can not make me have an orgasm. Once he understood my body better his insecurities about satisfying me were solved.
fuck maurice i am horny reverse cow girl is my favourite position whats yours?
@Kendi, take a cold shower and snap out of your crush
cat fight pap
wouldnt mind watching them roll in mud
Kudos Terry. It is very important that communication in the bedroom be paramount. My marriage and sex life suffered the back seat syndrome. No matter how much I tried to entice her and convince her to be adventurous in our refuge, it was not easy and our sex life literally flopped. Couples, it is very important you role play and shower each other with fantassies. It works magic!
Communication is indeed two way. I know I baulked at the thought of certain experiences my ex was keen on but I really needed to feel more committed before, well, taking golden showers or breaking my bum’s virginity. His reluctance/inability to indulge us both in extended foreplay seemed to me to have resulted from a previous relationship where, quite frankly, he was asked to “…when you want it, take it, don’t even ask for it”. Suffice to say I still deeply resent any use of KY Jelly 🙂
Now, honestly, I wish I could meet someone willing to wait it out until we are wed before getting our(my)hormones all mixed up. Sex is a very powerful function. I may not have a degree in sexology but I know that the emotions evoked by sexual activities (or lack thereof) result in some major physiological (yes, physio)realities. Given the nature of the female reproductive cycle, sex is ultimately for procreation and I do believe the best orgasms I ever have are literally enhancing the movement of that ocean of sperms towards an eagerly waiting egg. Eh – no, actually, the best orgasms are the ones I give myself 🙂 I do confess to having had an ovular experience way before my due date purely in anticipation of a good fuck from a certain very capable …(comment withdrawn, hate speech) but y’all know what I mean 😉
Or maybe I’m just tired of the cliches of being “Rwandese” and hence able to stir a man’s desire and/or penis to heights of pleasure hitherto unknown.
I’d like to be defined by more than just my sexuality and I truly believe that two people who are committed to each other can make sparks fly by getting to know each other’s bodies much as Maurice tries to help us do. If that’s not love, I don’t know what love is.